Just Starting Out

Hi everyone,
I'm so glad I joined this group, because I can tell it will help a lot with personal issues I'll be dealing with with the love of my life being gone.
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years, and we have an amazing relationship that I wouldn't trade for the world. However, he just left for Navy bootcamp 2 days ago and I'm having withdrawals! (at least, that's what it feels like) I'm just looking for a little advice because I'm so new to this and don't really know what to expect. I know I should keep myself busy and write to him as often as possible and stuff like that. I'm just worried about our "new relationship" a.k.a. military relationship not being as great as the relationship we have now! Obviously, we won't be seeing each other or talking as much, but how can I make the relationship still just as great as before? I miss him terribly and can't wait until I get to go see him graduate in July. We both promised we would tough it out and stay together through all of this, because we have big plans for the future such as marriage etc. He's enlisted for a minimum of 4 years, so we just need to get through that time in order to be together for good. Any tips of how to make this time worthwhile to the best of my ability would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
mySailorHasMyHeart mySailorHasMyHeart
1 Response May 10, 2012

I went through exactly what you're going through now (For me it was the same time of year too!) I had those same worries. I didn't want my relationship to be a shadow of what it was. It is a painful journey but you can do it. You both are going to change a whole lot, but don't be afraid of it. Your relationship will continue being wonderful regardless of the distance as long as you don't doubt yourselves. There aren't many couples that are willing to take the plunge like this, so don't think that your relationship will be "less than". If anything this will make you both stronger as a couple and as individuals. It will take a while to adjust to this new lifestyle but you will get there. In my opinion, I believe that the boot camp stage and early ATT school is the hardest part of all. The beginning is always the worst. Try to communicate as much as possible. Write him everyday if you can. He will cherish every letter. This military girlfriend experience has taught me not to take any moment together for granted. When you go to visit him on his graduation day, leave, or liberty it will be epic! Just keep a countdown going and look forward to that next visit.

Thank you so much for your positive advice! I feel since we have been together for a few years we've built a solid foundation and though I was afraid at first of it changing, I'm getting better at realizing that the change will be good for both of us and for our relationship :-) I'm writing every chance I get even though he isn't able to write back yet. And you're right about not taking it for granted, I will always cherish every moment I have with him! Thank you again :-)