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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. He will be shipped out to bootcamp in July. Since I am new at this, I'm not sure how I will react to it or even handle it. I want him in my life and I am doing everything I possibly can to keep him with me. He says he wants to marry me and I am hoping one day that will happen. It's just I am so young, it's hard to even look that far into the future. I need people who are also going through the same thing because no one I know seems to understand this feeling I have.
alexisbriana alexisbriana
18-21, F
2 Responses May 10, 2012

I'm sorry to hear about that situation with his family... but I'm sure he cares for you very much and he wont' keep you in the dark. Right now your top priority has to be you. Don't jeopardize your future or schooling for him. If it will work out that you can go to school near him that by all means you can consider that. Just remember to live your life for yourself first :-) Don't stop being supportive of him! For me, 4 years (maybe 6 if my boyfriend's contract gets extended..) seems like forever, but I know that if I do things right they will work out for the better, and the waiting will pay off!

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I'll keep everything updated. So far we're strong and we're ready to take this challenge. I'm in this to win this.

I feel the same way :-) Us navy girlfriends have to stick together! Feel free to contact me for questions or support. Good luck!

Hi :-) My boyfriend just left for bootcamp 2 days ago, so I feel I'm in the same boat as you for the most part. We've been together 2 and a half years. It's definitely hard at first, but I've heard from everyone that the first few days are the hardest and that it gets easier. Missing him will be a constant nagging feeling and it will seem endless but it's not. I feel better every day that I wake up. Just keep yourself busy, that's the key. Don't let yourself sit around and think too much. If you want to make your relationship last, you have to show him that you can be strong and independent. You won't be able to write back and forth until a few weeks in, but I've been writing a little bit each day and getting the letters ready to send for as soon as I get his address. This helps a lot! :-) Don't freak out, take it one day at a time, it's okay to cry. Just make sure you tell him you miss him but that you're doing well. That's what he will want to hear. He will appreciate you staying by his side through all of it, because trust me they go through a lot more hell than we do! It's also helped me to have a close relationship with his mom and the rest of his family. We are each other's support system. Good luck with bootcamp, remember it's the hardest part, or at least that's what I hear. :-) Feel free to contact me with any questions! Hope I helped a bit!

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. It has helped. It's comforting to know that I am not alone. However, I wish I could say the same about my boyfriend's family. Unfortunately, his mind set is that he won't introduce me to his mom until its absolutely certain that we are getting married. I am very young compared to Him so nothing is set in stone, but I guess I can get through this alone knowing that he wants this just as much as I do. I plan to keep myself busy with school, but after school, it's not like I have sports or dance anymore... -_- but that's a different story. And should I continue to look at colleges by where he might be stationed so I can continue to stay close to him?