Omg No No No! That's Not What I Meant!

In our world, where 1 email is our saving grace, or our last breath... wording and grammar become so much more important than it would any other time in our lives.

My boyfriend has been deployed now for about a month. We were together for about 3 months before he left, so we are still fairly new. I'm having difficulties dealing with deployment as I am sure most every civilian woman who enters into this life would, but I still love him, and I still want him... I remind him of that every day when I type my emails.

In my email last night I wrote this: "I just keep thinking of what my dad is going to say when I see him again... last time wasn't too pretty.... but I've come along way since then. I hope he will approve, if not this might be the end of our relationship... Just another thing to mix into the pot of worries."

Now, to me this email says that if my father doesn't approve of how I'm living my life, my relationship with him (My father) will be over (I have a very over bearing father, and I haven't seen him for over 1 1/2 years.)

However, to my boyfriend this sounded like I was going to break up with him if my father doesn't like the idea of me being with him.

So I woke up this morning to an email from a very concerned sailor. Even though he does very well to keep every emotion tucked away and neatly placed, I could see the chink in his armor... I don't understand how after everything we've been through, every email I send with "I love you" and "I miss you so much", he could still think that I would be so ready to leave him.

Amazing how little wording, and grammar mistakes can have such catastrophic endings. I immediately set him straight and hopefully put his mind at ease...

Anyone else have a similar story?
Kaia1139 Kaia1139
22-25, F
1 Response Aug 6, 2012

Yes! It happens all the time. My sailor and I text a lot because he is usually hanging with his friends. There have been a few times that either he or I have read something differently than what it has meant. Usually it gets straightened out immediately or it will start an argument. It sucks when it happens but it is pretty normal.