Military Girlfriend

My story is one that I hope others can relate too! I am a military girlfriend, and like many women may know, it is one of the hardest jobs in the military. My boyfriend has been a part of my life for 5 years and he is a Hospital Corpsman for the United States Navy. Not a day goes by where I don't think about him or miss him constantly, so I thought joining this online support group would help!
Ally616 Ally616
22-25, F
1 Response Sep 12, 2012

My boyfriend of 4 years is also in the Navy and was recently deployed to Afghanistan. He was taking hostage and it was a very scary time. He's okay now and is recovering in a hospital in Germany. His emotions are very up and down with me. One minute he loves me more than anything and the next he blames me for stupid things. Today I got an email from him telling me he wants to get married when he gets back in a courthouse and that we'll have a ceremony with our parents later on (they don't approve of our relationship because of religious differences). We always said we were going to wait till he became an officer, and right now I'm a college senior trying to prepare myself for the real world. I love him more than anything but my heart tells me that this proposal is not coming from the right place. I feel like he's using it to compensate for what happend out there in the field. He told me if I'm not interested he was going to take permanent transfer to Italy. I don't think that a real marriage proposal should come with an ultimative. I don't know what to do. I emailed him telling him to call me because I don't want to talk about this via email but he hasn't responded. I'm worried about him and I feel helpless. Please help

In my opinion I honestly do not think a proposal should come with an ultimatum. That's not fair to you or to him. I would say just follow your heart and support him during this difficult time. Go with your gut. If your heart is telling you it's not the right time than it's probably not. I wish I could help more than that but that's honestly all I can say. But I too feel helpless sometimes so do not feel bad about that! I hope everything works out and you get in contact with him soon!