Jealousy Has Never Been An Issue For Me Until Now..

When my boyfriend was in Basic and A-School, it was never an issue. However, when he moved on to C-School, there were girls in his group of friends. I tried not letting it bother me at first but whenever he mentions that he talked to/hung out with a girl, I tend to shut down and stop talking (does anyone else do this?). I have tried to just let it go and not let it bother me but I can't help it. I get so jealous that these girls get to see and hang out with him on a daily basis but I am across the country missing him. About a month ago, he went to the beach with his friends and of course the girls were there. We'd had an argument prior to him leaving so we did not talk that weekend. Although I was busy moving into my college dorm I couldn't stop thinking about it. I have talked to him about it and he seems to understand where I am coming from, but I would love the advice from my fellow ladies. How can I better deal with this?
StayVenta StayVenta
18-21, F
1 Response Sep 18, 2012

First, you need to ask yourself a few questions:
1. Do I trust him?
2. Has he done anything to make me feel otherwise?
3. Does he have a past history of cheating, emotionally or physically?

From there, then you just need to evaluate your feelings. Is it a 'sixth sense' that is causing you to feel this way? Have you been hurt in the past that maybe is influencing your thoughts about him and what he may or may not be doing?

Jealousy is dangerous - it creates doubt and it can be the end of a relationship. If you trust him, and he is a faithful guy, and you know he loves you - then there is nothing to be worried about.
What I would suggest, especially being in a LDR, is to keep yourself BUSY!! Work out, do some yoga and meditate to calm your thoughts. Paint your nails. Read a book. Watch Twilight (lol). Keep yourself busy, mentally and physically. That is what I did, and it helped for me. And while what I did may not work for you, you will find things that will put your mind at ease. Take it one day at a time, don't assume and don't jump to conclusions. The last thing you want is to push him away, especially while he is very far away.

I hope this helps love! Xo