I Just Became a Sailor's Girlfriend

Hi my name is Sayoko, and on the 27th of May, 2009 I became a Navy Girlfriend. In all honesty the only thing I'm ready for is the distance I dated a musician for 3 years and got used to being left at home while he toured all the time, once for 6 months and another time for a year with out a word. Even though I have no idea what I'm getting my self into I am ready for it, I came to this form because I'm hoping to learn a little bit more about what to expect. I love my Navy boy, and he asked me to move in with him when he comes back from his 3 month shipment in Spain, he's moving out to the Great Lakes and so I wonder if anyone who lives out there would be kind enough to tell me what its like. I keep reading not to move in with him until you are married, but when I move I will be out of college and already set on my career path which can move anywhere I go because its in computer graphics, multi-media, 3d animation and arts. And I already started my own on-line business to fill my time when he is away and to help us stay afloat. I know that I'm getting in way over my head but I truly do believe that with my experience in the past that I will be able to do this. I just need to know that I'm not alone when I do start to fall and think that I can't take it even though I know that I can.

Thank you for taking the time to read this,


asailorgirlfriendsayoko asailorgirlfriendsayoko
18-21, F
3 Responses May 31, 2009

SAYOKO,<br />
I happen to live in ocean springs,ms. that is about 25<br />
miles east of gulfport. I moved here from wisconsin in<br />
1991 to continue my civil service career with the US<br />
NAVY[we ran out of work in wisconsin].<br />
The base at gulfport has a lot of new buildings.You <br />
will find the people here friendly. They say yes sir and<br />
no maam,etc. Being from illinois it should be a good<br />
experience for you. You wont need any winter clothing<br />
as the temps. in january are 60 during the day and 45<br />
at nite. On the other hand we have had 3 major hurricanes here from 1998 to 2005. Hurricane george<br />
a direct hit in 1998, hurricane ivan in 2004 near miss,<br />
and hurricane katrina a direct hit in 2005.<br />
If you are from illinois its not far to travel by car to<br />
visit relatives. My brother in des plaines,illinois is only<br />
940 miles away or 16 hours and my daughter in wisconsin 1100 miles just south of green bay. We go back for christmas each year.<br />
<br />

thanks for all the advice guys, im from Illinois so i know all about the weather and the things to do around here, but i found out that he is permanently stationed down in gulport Mississippi so now i have to try and learn about that base lol but guess what everyone! were getting married!!!

Hi, Sayoko<br />
<br />
I just stumbled across this forum and saw your post from late May. I can relate a bit to not having a clue to what you've gotten yourself into, I keep reminding my Navy love that this is all new for me. :)<br />
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I have a little bit of experience with Great Lakes, let me know if you need more information. Great Lakes Naval Station is located just north of Chicago. If I remember correctly, it is where the Navy sends all its recruits for boot camp and some specialty training. While my BF was stationed there (for nearly 6 1/2 years) he did not have any deployments; it is essentially "shore duty." That's not to say that he didn't have work that took him off base for a few days to a few weeks at a time, but it's nothing compared to a typical 6 month deployment on a ship.<br />
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Military spouses have privileges, significant others do not. You will not be able to enter base property unescorted, nor will you be able to shop at the commisary or NEX without your BF. Some bases are more liberal with accepting significant others, others are not. Regardless, you will not be eligible for any spousal benefits unless you are married. I always felt completely welcome when I was on base at Great Lakes, but to be perfectly honest, I wasn't there that often. <br />
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I hope this information helps, I am by no means an expert on the area or on base protocol. Good luck! :)