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Dear Civilian Girl . . .

Dear civilian girl,

You complain that your boyfriend has worked late all week and have barely seen him.
-I look forward to the two weeks a year we spend together.

You complain because he doesn't call you enough.
-My heart is thankful for the 15 second phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night!

You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already because he is on a two day trip with his parents.
-I won't see him for another 10 months!

You don't feel like making love tonight because you are too tired.
-We will stay up all night because we don't know when it will be the last time.

Your boyfriend belongs to you.
-Mine belongs to the government.

Your boyfriend is training for his game next weekend.
-My boyfriend is trained to kill.

It's just not practical for you to drive an hour to see him every weekend during school.
-He spends $700 dollars on a plane ticket just to see me 2 days!

You hate hanging up the phone when talking to him.
-My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.

You complain that he doesn't take enough time out of his life for you.
-My man has to get up in the middle of the night to talk with me because of the time difference. He doesn't complain.

Your man is in a bad mood from not sleeping much this week.
-My man ran 10 miles this morning at 4 in the morning and has a full day of
work ahead of him. He's lucky if he gets a few hours of sleep!

Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.
-My man works no matter what!

You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.
-I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.

You don't like him talking so sexually with his friends.
-My boyfriend has to chant it in drills.

You check your phone, see you missed a call from him, and decide to call him back when you aren't so busy.
-I see a missed a call and cry, because I don't know when he can call again.

You might save a cute voice message from him.
-I save them all b/c it helps me to remember what his voice sounds like.

Being apart for a month to you seems daunting.
-A month apart for me is a wish that can't come true.

You wouldn't change schools to be close to him.
-I have to move to another country to be with him.

You have every part of him memorized.
-I study pictures so I don't forget what he looks like.

You take your time together for granted.
-We don't!

Your cell phone bill was high this month from talking too much.
-He pays 20 cents a minute to call me… when he CAN call.

You love that fancy necklace he bought you
-I refuse to take his dog tags off, and not a day goes by that I don't have them on...

You say you miss him.
-Times that by 100.
phattsilyangel phattsilyangel 18-21, F 85 Responses Jan 23, 2010

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My boys in the Royal Navy. His 6 month deploment starts at the end of this month..

the civilian girl didn't choose to marry the guy with that did. so don't look down on them for not wanting the life you carry. However on another not thank you for your sacrifice. I love our soldiers and families!

I love this. It is really nice to know that other ladies out there find it as tough as I do.

So in love with this

this is so true...civilian girlfriends don't realize how good they have it, but I wouldn't trade my love for anything.

Oh my god that is beautiful. I am crying so hard right now. Everything is so true.

This is amazing

Made me feel proud.

So glad I read this. All my girl friends always say how they miss there boyfriends and how they made them mad and all kinds if ****. I wish all these girls could be in our shoes for a day

Thank you! its amazing to read this and not feel like the only one who feels like this! x

I loved this a lot. I want to print it out because I feel this way every day and i just joined this group and I feel better knowing that other people feel the same way I do. Thank you for posting this

This made me smile :) Thanks so much

It really is the ones that wait at home that are the special ones, I wish I had that much support when I was in the Navy

I want some of my friends who complain about their boyfriends to read this!

I am going to share this because I have some friends like this. Those girls who don't look at what they have but rather what they do not. My man paid $1000 to come up from Virginia to see me for 3 days. Thank you for this. A lot of people don't realize that if one has a significant other in the military, it is both of them sacrificing a lot. Not just the one in the service.

This is perfect! Definitely explains my daily life. But the great news is my boyfriend is right by my side! :) he payed $400 for a plane ticket to come home for 10 days and then hes off to VA. He is THE best boyfriend in the world! I love him.

Civilians do NOT understand what its like to be in a military relationship whatsoever. Its very hard to find support. :) Good Luck to everyone and their relationships! Stay Strong.

This really hit home with me as I'm starting to realize how hard it is not hearing from him! Thank You for sharing!

Love this so much!! :)

absolutely love this!

I finally have a reason to use this my sailor -I made a picture using some of these its cute

Love this! I am new to all of this, but i know i will finally fit in somewhere :)

This is so true. I missed a Skype call from him because I dozed off for 15 minutes (he was at port and was 20 hours ahead of me. I was up for 30 hours straight waiting for him because I got the call that he reached port and was trying to find internet when I was going to bed. So of course I stayed awake and waited and continued to do so every night that he was there so I could talk to him.).I was crying and was so worried that I wasn't going to get to see his gorgeous face/hear his gorgeous voice on Skype. Luckily when I woke up he was still on. It's amazing how much people take what they have for granted. All I know for sure is that the kind of relationship,bond,faithfulness,dedication and love that we share with our military men is truly something special. I don't talk to hardly and of my civilian friends I have any more because of the exact reason's stated in this article.I get frustrated beyond belief when they complain about things like he's playing his video games too much and I'm going through my love being on a 63 day mission with no communication. Thank you for sharing :)

Makes me feel like I am doing something that is meaningful in my life by being a navy Gf and someday navy wife. Reading this made me see why my bf is so proud of me. Thank you for posting this :-)

Honestly, ive been whining and complaining to my soon-to-be sailor because i don't want em to leave me here.. This was beautiful. Really gave me a change of heart.. to be ALOT more supportive and be proud and not so selfish anymore.

This is so sweet and so true.. i almost cried :)

Love this... Tears!!!

WOW! This is amazing. All teared up. Thanks for sharing !!!

OMG this is absolutely TRUE!!!<br />
it totally erks me when i hear people complain about there boyfriend doing something or not seeing them as much, its like i go months without seeing my bf & i dont complain at all because i would do anything for 5mins to spend with my sailor </3

i read this when my boyfriend left for bc yesterday...this made me feel sad, but strong and proud at the same time. our boyfriends are all amazing..sailors are the best!

I'm so happy someone else understands. I'm new to the whole navy SEAL in training girlfriend thing but man I'd be grateful to have a phone call. last time i had a phone call was 6 months ago :(