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Dear Civilian Girl . . .

Dear civilian girl,

You complain that your boyfriend has worked late all week and have barely seen him.
-I look forward to the two weeks a year we spend together.

You complain because he doesn't call you enough.
-My heart is thankful for the 15 second phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night!

You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already because he is on a two day trip with his parents.
-I won't see him for another 10 months!

You don't feel like making love tonight because you are too tired.
-We will stay up all night because we don't know when it will be the last time.

Your boyfriend belongs to you.
-Mine belongs to the government.

Your boyfriend is training for his game next weekend.
-My boyfriend is trained to kill.

It's just not practical for you to drive an hour to see him every weekend during school.
-He spends $700 dollars on a plane ticket just to see me 2 days!

You hate hanging up the phone when talking to him.
-My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.

You complain that he doesn't take enough time out of his life for you.
-My man has to get up in the middle of the night to talk with me because of the time difference. He doesn't complain.

Your man is in a bad mood from not sleeping much this week.
-My man ran 10 miles this morning at 4 in the morning and has a full day of
work ahead of him. He's lucky if he gets a few hours of sleep!

Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.
-My man works no matter what!

You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.
-I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.

You don't like him talking so sexually with his friends.
-My boyfriend has to chant it in drills.

You check your phone, see you missed a call from him, and decide to call him back when you aren't so busy.
-I see a missed a call and cry, because I don't know when he can call again.

You might save a cute voice message from him.
-I save them all b/c it helps me to remember what his voice sounds like.

Being apart for a month to you seems daunting.
-A month apart for me is a wish that can't come true.

You wouldn't change schools to be close to him.
-I have to move to another country to be with him.

You have every part of him memorized.
-I study pictures so I don't forget what he looks like.

You take your time together for granted.
-We don't!

Your cell phone bill was high this month from talking too much.
-He pays 20 cents a minute to call me… when he CAN call.

You love that fancy necklace he bought you
-I refuse to take his dog tags off, and not a day goes by that I don't have them on...

You say you miss him.
-Times that by 100.
phattsilyangel phattsilyangel 18-21, F 85 Responses Jan 23, 2010

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My boys in the Royal Navy. His 6 month deploment starts at the end of this month..

the civilian girl didn't choose to marry the guy with that life...you did. so don't look down on them for not wanting the life you carry. However on another not thank you for your sacrifice. I love our soldiers and families!

I love this. It is really nice to know that other ladies out there find it as tough as I do.

So in love with this

this is so true...civilian girlfriends don't realize how good they have it, but I wouldn't trade my love for anything.

Oh my god that is beautiful. I am crying so hard right now. Everything is so true.

This is amazing

Made me feel proud.

So glad I read this. All my girl friends always say how they miss there boyfriends and how they made them mad and all kinds if ****. I wish all these girls could be in our shoes for a day

Thank you! its amazing to read this and not feel like the only one who feels like this! x

I loved this a lot. I want to print it out because I feel this way every day and i just joined this group and I feel better knowing that other people feel the same way I do. Thank you for posting this

This made me smile :) Thanks so much

It really is the ones that wait at home that are the special ones, I wish I had that much support when I was in the Navy

I want some of my friends who complain about their boyfriends to read this!

I am going to share this because I have some friends like this. Those girls who don't look at what they have but rather what they do not. My man paid $1000 to come up from Virginia to see me for 3 days. Thank you for this. A lot of people don't realize that if one has a significant other in the military, it is both of them sacrificing a lot. Not just the one in the service.

This is perfect! Definitely explains my daily life. But the great news is my boyfriend is right by my side! :) he payed $400 for a plane ticket to come home for 10 days and then hes off to VA. He is THE best boyfriend in the world! I love him.

Civilians do NOT understand what its like to be in a military relationship whatsoever. Its very hard to find support. :) Good Luck to everyone and their relationships! Stay Strong.

This really hit home with me as I'm starting to realize how hard it is not hearing from him! Thank You for sharing!

Love this so much!! :)

absolutely love this!

I finally have a reason to use this my sailor -I made a picture using some of these its cute

Love this! I am new to all of this, but i know i will finally fit in somewhere :)

This is so true. I missed a Skype call from him because I dozed off for 15 minutes (he was at port and was 20 hours ahead of me. I was up for 30 hours straight waiting for him because I got the call that he reached port and was trying to find internet when I was going to bed. So of course I stayed awake and waited and continued to do so every night that he was there so I could talk to him.).I was crying and was so worried that I wasn't going to get to see his gorgeous face/hear his gorgeous voice on Skype. Luckily when I woke up he was still on. It's amazing how much people take what they have for granted. All I know for sure is that the kind of relationship,bond,faithfulness,dedication and love that we share with our military men is truly something special. I don't talk to hardly and of my civilian friends I have any more because of the exact reason's stated in this article.I get frustrated beyond belief when they complain about things like he's playing his video games too much and I'm going through my love being on a 63 day mission with no communication. Thank you for sharing :)

Makes me feel like I am doing something that is meaningful in my life by being a navy Gf and someday navy wife. Reading this made me see why my bf is so proud of me. Thank you for posting this :-)

Honestly, ive been whining and complaining to my soon-to-be sailor because i don't want em to leave me here.. This was beautiful. Really gave me a change of heart.. to be ALOT more supportive and be proud and not so selfish anymore.

This is so sweet and so true.. i almost cried :)

Love this... Tears!!!

WOW! This is amazing. All teared up. Thanks for sharing !!!

OMG this is absolutely TRUE!!!<br />
it totally erks me when i hear people complain about there boyfriend doing something or not seeing them as much, its like i go months without seeing my bf & i dont complain at all because i would do anything for 5mins to spend with my sailor </3

i read this when my boyfriend left for bc yesterday...this made me feel sad, but strong and proud at the same time. our boyfriends are all amazing..sailors are the best!

I'm so happy someone else understands. I'm new to the whole navy SEAL in training girlfriend thing but man I'd be grateful to have a phone call. last time i had a phone call was 6 months ago :(

I'm crying right now. I feel this everyday and my roommate takes for granted and complains all the time about her civilian boyfriend she's been dating for a month. I'm so happy someone else understands.

Love this! 6 months so far without him, and I can't stand listening to my friends complain that they haven't seen their boy in a few days.

:) Awesome!

love it!

So so true! The only people who understand are the ones who are in the situation or were in it!

So, after I read this... I posted it up on my boyfriend's wall. He read it and said he almost cried, but he got teary. He's tough, doesn't like to cry... but this made him teary. ^^

WOW!!! YEP YEP!! I totally agree!! We are soooo blessed to be girlfriends of sailors.

I love this. My boyfriend just left for boot camp 3 days ago and I know it's just the beginning of the journey. This is so encouraging. I cherish every moment that I get to spend time with, talk on the phone, email, text, write to him whatever. Other girls just don't understand...

I adore this. I can't even begin to tell you how perfectly you put that.

LOVE this without a doubt!

Its my one month anniversary to my navy man i don't think i really knew what i was getting in to. i am overjoyed that i am with him and knew i would never get to see him but i never realized i was going to get so scared when i didn't hear from him for a couple days.

Oh my goodness. I'm watching Teen Mom, and the one girl is upset and sad that her bf has to go away for his job for 1 month. I WISH my bf was only having to go away for 1 month. I haven't seen him in over 2 months now. And I can count the times on 1 hand that I have seen him in the past YEAR. Civilian girls just don't understand and think their relationships are tough.

This just made my day, especially the "You wouldn't change schools to be close to him.<br />
-I have to move to another country to be with him." Haha. Maybe this is just what I need as I only became a Navy fiance two months back. Will be reposting this on FB! Gracias!

LOVE IT! its so true.

I read this and felt so much better. No one really understands back home for me... what exactly its like being in love with someone in the military. (Navy). Its heartbreaking, keeps you on your toes. It can be lonely, and traumatic. UGH. I have so much respect for anyone going through this. :(

I love love love this. It really made me feel like someone else understands what I'm going through. Its hard because I have no one to lean on here... none of my friends really truly understand how much my heart hurts when my boyfriend isn't around. UGH. <3 so much love for all you girls and guys who are going through this. I know exactly how you feel.

This is so true. It just goes to show how much civilian girls don't understand about the life of a military girlfriend.

this is soo true! it bugs me when i see girls on facebook complain because they havent seen their boyfriend since yesterday, when i havent seen mine in months. <br />
i love this!!

I love this !!

I love this! It is so true, if only civilian girls can go through what we go through for at least a week. If only they could worry like we do!

THIS IS SO TURE...I JUST WENT THROUGH THE WHOLE CALLING THING! WHEN I LISTENED TO HIS VOICE MAIL I WAS AT WORK AND I RAN TO THE RESTROOM JUST SO I COULD CRY! I MISS HIM MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY!

Aw, I love this!! Definitely very true, and it's kind of frustrating to hear other girls complain that they haven't seen there boyfriend in like a whole day or haven't gotten to speak to them, when we don't know the next time we might be speaking to them when they are away! My boyfriend hasn't left yet, but just thinking about hearing others say stuff like that would kind of irritate me! haha. You girls are definitely strong, and I hope I'm as strong when my boy leaves! : )

Ohh wow I'm crying again... On his 1st deployment right now, and last weekend I spent that "$700" for those 2 days. I've heard way too much from girls who are like, "Omg I won't see my bf for 2 days!" I can't even feel sympathy for that now... I would give anything to see him EVERY 2 days!!! This is going on Facebook for sure!!

Ohh wow I'm crying again... On his 1st deployment right now, and last weekend I spent that "$700" for those 2 days. I've heard way too much from girls who are like, "Omg I won't see my bf for 2 days!" I can't even feel sympathy for that now... I would give anything to see him EVERY 2 days!!! This is going on Facebook for sure!!

im posting to this to facebook... i love it! =)

I love this!!! =)

This is amazing. :) I love every part of it. It's very very very true!

This made me cry...that used to be me, the civilian girl...i just started dating a guy, we've known each other since high school, but never found our way to one another until recently, and realized that there was just too much there to let a little thing like 2000 miles and a content keep us apart. we do get to talk quite a bit right now, but duty nights are hard, when I know he's up, and all i want to do is get on skype and see his face, but he's stuck on the ship....I guess that's just practice for November when he ships out to Korea. Just the short time he and I have been together has made me realize that I have to be so thankful for the little time I will get with him before he deploys.

This made me cry...that used to be me, the civilian girl...i just started dating a guy, we've known each other since high school, but never found our way to one another until recently, and realized that there was just too much there to let a little thing like 2000 miles and a content keep us apart. we do get to talk quite a bit right now, but duty nights are hard, when I know he's up, and all i want to do is get on skype and see his face, but he's stuck on the ship....I guess that's just practice for November when he ships out to Korea. Just the short time he and I have been together has made me realize that I have to be so thankful for the little time I will get with him before he deploys.

this is awsome :)

My aunt complained that my uncle was going to be away for a week on facebook, when I saw it I commented for her to try going nine months without seeing him. She just told me that it wasn't the same. Now I remembered why I don't like that side of the family... I really want to show her this.

Soo soo soo true!! My boy's in The Royal Navy (U.K), it's soo difficult but thinking about seeing hi makes me smile soo much!!! xxxxxx

Beautiful

awww:'( this is so cute and sadly so true...

Me boyfriend in the navy and leaves in two months, and my friends are mad that i am spending my time with him now, and they dont begining to understand that he will be going to basic then he will be going on a sub for 6 months. and they are mad saying we need our space and our friend time. :/ thats heartbreaking. you love him but you dont want to lose your friends.

EXACTLY. I love this posting. I get so tired of hering people say they miss their boyfriend because they can't see him until the weekend, try not seeing him until christmas, and only then beccause you're lucky as hell.

Thanks for being the solid rock so your boyfriend can do his job. You guys are the real heroes. From an AF retiree (24 years), you rock!

OMG!! This almost made me cry. This is so amazing! (:

this made me smile so much. Absolutely awesome. Its nice to know others going through the same thing, that would give up so much to see their sailor for at least ten minutes..... the things others take for granted...

true. i cry cause i miss my boyfriend but its also out of happiness cause each day that passes is a day closer to seeing him again!

Omg I love this it so so true! I have a friend who is freaking out b.cuz her bf is grounded all summer for a high cell bill n she complains all the time even though he lives right down the street . I'm like my bf is across the country in a sub in god knows where and can only email me at least urs can call u when he's at work. Mines at work all day everyday and can only email me! I have to call his cell n hear is voice on the voicemail to remember what he sounds like! I know for a fact if we put some of our friends to the test to c if they can handle 1/2 the things we can they would crack with in a day!

This incredible, you are so right on! No one but us understands what strength, devotion, and true love is about...although my relationship is far healthier, closer and better than any of my friends dating civilian men. Thank you for the insights, this made me feel like yelling Hoo-ya!

after reading this, i truly feel at home with u girls =) . this means so much and its exactly the way im feeling

totally, no one really gets what we go through until they do it themselves and no matter how hard it is when i look at this and a couple other posts i have like it, it helps me be strong.

This is DEFINITELY true!! Kudos girls.<br />
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And yes, they're with US because they know we can handle it. Keep it strong ladies, :)

This is soo true. I hate sitting in class and hearing a girl be like awh im so said David has to work tonight but i spent yesterday with him but still i miss him so much. And im sitting there like are you serious its gonna be another 3 months till i see my boyfriend and your complaing about a couple hours. I would love to see girls like that try to walk in all of our shoes..they wouldnt be able too. And thats why our guys are with us! :]

true story. my friends are like ugh i miss so and so and im like when you'd last see them and theyre like yesterday lol. im jus like yea idk when my bfs comin home :/

this is so true. i love it

lol awsome blueblanket! i love calls. i have gotten 2 20 minute calls so far. and seriously i wanna see regular chicks TRY and do what we do!

i LOVE this. omg never delete it. ppl complain about their significant others and im like im a navy girlfriend, try dealing with that for a second lol. my bf called me today for like 20 mins =)

im glad everyone likes these things. they are just so true arnt they? whenever i find new ones ill post them!!! feel free to take any ive posted for your myspace, facebook, boyfriends, or whatevers!!!!!!

Honestly I feel the same way about my sailor. Keep your head up and your faith in god and your soldier!!!

I am so posting this on my myspace

LOVE LOVE IT. So truueeee!!

i love this, kudos!