Well, I am so relieved to have found this website. A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend of almost three months decided he was going to act on the dream of joining the military that he'd had through high school but had always had something holding him back from fulfilling it. Since then, things have moved very fast. Today he went to his first day of MEPS. He did great on his ASVAB and has already met a couple people going for the Navy as well. I feel like I'm in a dream right now. Kind of on the outside looking in. I have been on an emotional roller coaster since it started sinking in about a week ago. This was never something I saw in my future. You know how as you grow up, you start envisioning what the rest of your life will look like? Well, this was never in the "plan." But ever since I've met this guy, I've never considered not being with him as an option. It's always felt like I'd be with him through everything and I still feel that way. I'm so incredibly proud of him! This is something he's wanted to do for awhile now, and I know without a doubt that he'll be great at it! I will definitely be right here for him through everything. But since I hadn't ever even thought of this, and it never came up till a couple weeks ago, I'm still in shock. Reading the stories some of you other girls have to say has given me a strange mixture of stress and hope. It's so hard thinking of how little we'll be able to communicate for awhile, and especially not seeing him. But it felt so good to see that I'm not alone and that all of ya'll are making it through it, so that gives me hope to move forward. I have a feeling I'll be visiting this site a lot to see the latest stories and share my own as I go on this journey with my man...

katiegirl2009 katiegirl2009
18-21, F
5 Responses Feb 10, 2010

It all happens sooo fast. But you'll get through it. If you really love him it will all be worth it in the end. <br />
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You'll be fine! =)

I came into my relationship knowing that, eventually, he would have to go away - but I wouldn't change it for the world. This experience, though difficult, has shed a new light on our relationship. It's also helped us find ourselves. We're bother stronger for it. <br />
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MatthewsGirl is right: help him study. My boyfriend, Brandon, loved it when I'd quiz him in the car. He found it really helpful.<br />
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Boot Camp is hard, but completely worth it. <br />
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You're going to do fine :]

Thank you guys so much! I can't express how good it feels to know other girls out there are listening! :)<br />
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Matthews Girl, thank you for the tips! I will DEFINITELY keep them in mind. I'll love those moments with him and the video recording is an awesome idea! And I'm sure he'll appreciate the extra help studying. I don't know his BC date yet, because today (second day of MEPS) he found a couple things he needs to fix before signing (weight is one of only 5 lbs. over, though, so no biggie), so he doesn't know that stuff yet. But I'll be posting as soon as I know!! :)<br />
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Thanks for the support, lindamarie and Minnesotagirl! I will be here for ya'll, too, but it's great to know I've got ears to hear my story as well! Thank you so much!

Welcome :) Yeah, dating a military man was never in my life plans either. But I fell in love with the most amazing guy, and he had already enlisted at that point, so it wasn't ever really up for discussion. Being a navy girlfriend is definitely something entirely different than anything else I've ever done. My boyfriend has been out of boot for about a week and a half, so if you need anyone to talk to I'm here :) I've been through the boot thing and am doing the a school girlfriend thing now, but I still feel new to this. So if you need anyone to talk to I'm here! Welcome!

If you need someone to talk to, you've definitely found the right place. I know I don't comment a lot, but I'm on here almost everyday reading what other girls have to say and it helps me feel less alone and helping me feel more prepared. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months and he leaves for boot in April. Let me know if you want to talk, especially since it seems like we're still in the "prepping to be the navy girlfriend stage" :)