so my boyfriend has been gone for a week and a half so inlove with him and hes in love with me as well he gave me a promise/pre-engagement ring. and today this kid that i havent talked to in a while told me how i shouldnt even be getting engaged because im too young meanwhile im 20 years old turning 21 in november and were not planning on getting married for another 3 years.yes ill be 24 , w.e its my life..and he also said that i shouldnt be thinkging about being married because ive only been dating him for almost a year and thats still not enough time, and its even worse that he is in the navy because i wont see him at all..and he was saying how im going to regret it and live a life with ups and downs. and its making me so upset, i dont like feeling like this, since he is gone, i have noone to talk to , because none of my girlfriends like the fact that i am with him just because a my ex-best friend used to like him but he never liked her, and all of my girlfriends look at me as if i took him away from her.and now with him gone, people saying how me being pre-engaged to him is a big mistake. i know i shouldnt write that down in a letter to him because i know how much stress he is going through right now and i dont want to put anymore stress on him, but i dont know who to talk to to cheer me up :( . someone please tell me what to do.

foreveryours16 foreveryours16
18-21, F
4 Responses Feb 18, 2010

thanks guys i really appreciate it!! :)

You are NOT too young to get married. My grandma married my grandpa on his leave when he was in the navy when they were only about 19 or 20. My mom got married when she was 18 and my other grandma was only 16. Both of my grandparents have been married for over 50 years & my parents are going on 30. If you seriously love him, then a little distance won't keep you too apart. It doesn't matter what other people say. If you love him and want to be with him then that's what you need to do. If you end it before you give it a real fighting chance you'll always wonder what would have happened if you hadn't. Good luck!

Before I start (I'm gonna be 21 in nov too! Srry I thought that was cool lol) anyway, its your life. People are gonna have their opinions. Being married at 24 isn't a crime honestly that's when I want to have my first child and be married by. Sometimes people say their piece but u don't always have to listen to them. He's not you nor your boyfriend. I'd say shrug it off. You don't have to get married in 3 years; if you're in mutual love keep it. Love is really special and you are lucky for the man you have even though he is gone. Its a tough life yes but you love him so see where that takes you :)

a lot of people don't think that my bf and i should stay together. even my best friend who is suppose to be helping me out with all this. if you feel that it is right then don't listen to the people putting you down! stay positive and i guess just see where it goes.