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I Want To Be A Navy Girlfriend

There was this guy named Steve who is going in to the Navy. He told me that i wouldn't be able to be his navy girlfriend. So two weeks later I decided that I will be a navy girlfriend ... to someone else. The question is Steve was the only guy I knew that was going into the navy.  So the question is where would I find another guy that needed my support? I guess I knew that I was destined to be a navy girlfriend. Through generations, the women on my mothers side (with the exception of my mom) have supported the men tht they loved through many wars. I believe that I can do the same. I have never had a bf before but I think have the same mold that it takes to become a Navy girlfriend. I am extremely loyal ( to the death) to my family and friends. I want to learn from all of the other strong navy girlfriends oout there. I my be only 20 but I know somewhere out there is a guy who would love to have my support and be proud to call me his Navy Girlfriend. Trust would n ot be a factor either since I am very trustworthy. My friends describe me as an American sweetheart, very generous, loving to have fun, and very supportive. So what do i do to find this wonderful navy man seeing as I am only limited to my small university and none of the guys there are in the navy or planing to be in the navy? I want to meet more navy men but it is impossible seeing as I am stuck at a samll univeristy. Maybe this is all unrealistic idk. I just want to give love to man who fights for my freedom.  There is no higher honor then that !

 

silvrfairy06 silvrfairy06 18-21, F 14 Responses Mar 1, 2010

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well bn a navy girlfriend is hard, when they leave u for months years weeks watever trust me when I say they stop bn faithfuk. me I talk to a navy man he's sweet and fun and he treats me like im wifey. but he say he's single but I.dnt believe it. well we're just having fun and sex.together and I also got a man but he's locked up. I fell n love wit navy man but I kno he'll leave soon so im already sad. my point is u see how I feel and im not a girlfriend or wife of a navy man im just a friend with benefits. think hard about it and go with that decision.

well bn a navy girlfriend is hard, when they leave u for months years weeks watever trust me when I say they stop bn faithfuk. me I talk to a navy man he's sweet and fun and he treats me like im wifey. but he say he's single but I.dnt believe it. well we're just having fun and sex.together and I also got a man but he's locked up. I fell n love wit navy man but I kno he'll leave soon so im already sad. my point is u see how I feel and im not a girlfriend or wife of a navy man im just a friend with benefits. think hard about it and go with that decision.

I would agree with most people on here... I didn't go looking for a guy in the Navy. I met him and fell in love with him and then the Navy is what he wanted to do, so I support him in his choice. Being a Navy Girlfriend isn't something you should go looking for. It is VERY hard to be a Navy Girlfriend, because if you survive the goodbye you have the constant worry of them not coming home, the withdrawl of not speaking to them for weeks or sometime months at a time and then of course the dealing with not being able to spend every moment with him. If you have never had a boyfriend don't go looking for one just because he's in the military... The military girlfriend life is really hard... And I wouldn't wish for anyone to go through it... Best of luck

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Well ladies, I just decided to give up today. It's kind of liberating not knowing what is going to happen to me. Realistically, I am very blessed with a supportive family, great friends, great university , and a great internship. I have everything but I am feeling sad that Steve's gone . Its like a death in a way. its harder because we talked about how I would meet his parents and family. We were going to see his niece lexi when he got back. He was the first guy who treated me with the respect I deserved. It's so hard not to cry writing this. But I am. I know I will get over this eventually. It's hard not knowing what is going to happen to me. I am just lost and hurt and sad. It hurts the most when i am by myself and not distracted by homework, family or friends. My parents not knowing how I am taking this are pretty worried. There is no one that I can really talk to about this. Most of my friends are like u will find someone else. I am just lost and need help.

I honestly don't know how to word this... but, most of us here didn't go searching for a military man. We crossed paths and fell in love, we don't want him to be gone all the time, we don't want there to be distance, we don't want him to be putting his life on the line... but he is, and since this is what he's doing we're going to support him.

You can support any man in any occupation and be an amazing wife or girlfriend. Don't put so much emphasis on the fact that you want your boyfriend to be in the Navy. You're going to pass up some amazing men by doing that... possibly even the love of your life, for something that's mediocre and familiar to your family tradition.

The military doesn't make every guy worth being supported or worthy of your passion. There are some guys out there who like in every other field of work will take advantage of your desperation to find a navy guy, and then there are some guys out there who will give you the love you deserve. I just want you to look at this realistically...

It doesn't have to be someone in the Navy y'know :) every guy needs their significant other's support just going through their daily lives. Seems to me like you're trying too hard to find a rebound from being rejected, my advice is to start slowly and find the guy that fits into your criteria. Not just physically but mentally also; his personality, sense of humor, how he treats others and his gf, etc. Don't rush into a relationship just because he's in the military because it is HARD to be a navy gf/wife. If you're in the relationship based on the fact that he's in the Navy well then I'm afraid it might not last long so if/when you do find someone, whether he's in the Navy or not, treasure him :)

Let love find you. I understand you want a man in the service but if you find someone incredible that isn't you can support them in whatever it is they do.

I guess it's because I liked this guy who ended up joining the navy and it didn't work out. I guess I am sad because i was going to be there for this guy but he rejected me. I guess I just want another chance with someone new to support.

Well since you have family involved ask them how difficult it was even though those times were more intense than now (hopefully it'll stay calm). Even though every time he comes home its like getting an amazing gift when he's not around its emotionally exhausting.

I guess it was my grandmas stories of how she supported my grandpa when he was in the military in World War II and that fact that both sides of my family have a longstanding connection to the military ( dating way back to the Revolutionary war but that is a story for another day). it was these strong women that inspired me to be loyal, and supportive till the death. So for me, i guess I just kind of know that maybe its fate ( and dreams) that I am destined to do this. As far as the military dating sites go I am a little hesitant to do that because u never know who is talking on the other line. Maybe I can talk to steve ( my friend in the navy) and see if he knows any guys that would be a good match for me. I don't know maybe this is just not realistic

hey girl, db92 is right, i didnt go out looking for someone in the military, he had already decided what he wanted to do as well...you cant just think that military men are the only ones that you can show your support for...any man would be lucky to have a girl like you. but like she said, if you do find a man in the military, we will all be here to support you like we all support each other

Well, first of all I'll say that there is nothing wrong with what you wanted, I see nothing wrong with it and I know there are a lot of sailors who are lonely and wanted a gf as well. I want you to know that dating a sailor is a full-time job in itself and it's going to be tough. If you love someone, it doesn't matter what his job is, you'll love him.

But before then, get ready for the ride of your life. Good luck

Um, well, I think there's a bit of a difference between you and most of us. We didn't necessarily choose to be Navy Girlfriends. In my case, I fell in love and then later down the road the military seemed to be his career option that he wanted to take. I've never known anyone that wanted to search out a military man. It sounds like you have incredible qualities and would be a great fit if you could find a guy who's everything you want him to be, but being a Navy girlfriend is not easy, nor fun, it's a lot of responsibility on both parties, not just the girl,



My personal opinion is that maybe you should wait for the right guy to find you. Just because a guy's not in the military doesn't make him any less of a good man, and there may be some Navy sailors that aren't the greatest people, though they defend our country.



A uniform doesn't make the man. Just remember that when you catch your eye on a sharp dressed sailor. :) If you do find a sailor who makes your heart flutter, you can be sure we'll be here to support you.