My Life Changing Story

Well I am as well a navy girlfriend and it is the hardest thing that i have ever had to deal with. My boyfriend and I have barely been together for about 2 months but the love we share is amazing. The first time we met I knew he was the one for me and vice versa for him. But of course reality sat in and he was gone in CT for about 7 weeks and then he came home and we shared a lovely week together. Then he was out to San Diego to report to base. I just learned today that sometime next week he will be going on his first deployment and he wont be back till August. I never felt so hurt before in my life i feel so angry because that we dont get to spend time together but in reality im just upset and sad that hes going to be gone. Overall I love my boyfriend Richard Vasquez Jr. Hes the best thing that has happen to me and will support him in what he has to go through because i know in the end he will be worth it.  but any suggestions on how to stop crying.

 

I hope your doing fine out there without me because im not doing so good without you.

the things i thought u never known about me

where the things i guess you always understood

so how could i have been so blind for all these years.

this side only sees the truth through all this fear of living without you.

and everything i had in this world will be i will ever be.

it can all fall down beside me as long as i have you by me

i cant take another day without you

because baby i can never make it on my own

i been waiting so long just to hold you

just to be back in your arms where i belong

sorry i cant find always find the words to say

everything i have ever know get swept away inside of your love.

 

i love this song here by me- 3 doors down gets me through the tough days

vsando11 vsando11
22-25, F
8 Responses Mar 5, 2010

I know subs rarely get mail, at least that's how it was when my dad was in...may have changed since then. Your boyfriend should also have the address to send mail to the sub if it's possible. I can't really say when he gets back...honestly, I won't even know exactly when he gets back until he actually pulls in. I know the prospected date that they are coming back that I was told when he left, but that could change several times in the months that he is gone. This works absolutely great when trying to schedule vacation time at work! Sarcasm...LoL

actually we did that as well, we bought went and bought journals before he left and said anytime we wanted to say anything to eachother or tell eachother about our day we would write in there. and in the end we would show it to eachother. i just hope hes safe and i want to send him stuff but im not really sure where too so im gonna see his mom today and see if she has the sub address or something. when does your bf come back? the good thing im finally getting the hang of not talking to him just keeping really busy.

One thing my boyfriend and I are doing is both keeping journals while he's away. Once he gets back, we'll exchange them and ready each other's. That might help with not being able to talk to him. I know it's definitely not the same as talking to him, much less being with him physically, but I know I think of so many things all throughout the day that I just wish I could call him up and tell him, but that can't happen. When I write in my journal each night, I treat it as if I'm writing to him. So it's not like a 'Dear Diary' sort of thing. My boyfriend normally has email capabilities, and fortunately, he is able to make a 10 minute call once a week for the time being. I definitely cherish that 10 minutes as well as every email I receive. I know they occasionally shut all communication off depending on where they are located which is certainly not fun! To think they turn the communication off because of the dangers of where they are...which means I can't contact him to make sure he's ok...quite nerve wracking! Can your boyfriend receive mail at all during his deployment? If so, I'd recommend sending something as soon as possible. I sent Thomas' first cards out just a few days after he left on Valentine's Day and they just got to him earlier this week! He's still got 3 cards and a package floating around somewhere!

Oh thats cool about your dad! but my boyfriend is going underway tonight. He currently is in guam and as of all i know is that when he ports he will be able to email me. but thats only when he ports im really not sure but i hope its at least within 2 weeks because I cant really deal with not talking to him! I

My dad was a torpedo man on subs when he was in the navy! It's actually kinda funny, because my boyfriend is a sonar tech on a surface ship, a destroyer. So he's responsible for LOOKING for the subs. LoL! I guess I should've picked up on your's being on subs because you mentioned CT. Groton, CT has a huge sub base. My brother and I were actually born in CT. What kind of communication do you have with your boyfriend while he's out? My step mom told me that when my dad would deploy, which was normally about 3-4 months then, she had little to no contact what so ever, so I'm wondering if it's changed since then for subs. I think she got two 40-word 'family grams' as they call them, but very rarely ever got calls, and never emails. Luckily, I'm able to email my boyfriend fairly regularly for now...but he's told me there are times when they have to shut off communication...just when they get around dangerous areas...yea...REAL comforting for me!

thanks for the support! it makes me feel good knowing that someone out there is going through the same thing. everyone always says why bother! and it makes me so upset but it is the love that keeps me going! and my boyfriend is a torpedos man he will be on a sub for the next 5-6 months. reality hit me really hard last night when i had to say goodbye to him i tried to be strong and not cry but it was the hardest thing i had to do. but what about your boyfriend what does he do?

My boyfriend and I were together almost 3 months before he was deployed on Valentine's Day...so I'm right there with ya! Some people may wonder why I even bothered getting involved, but you don't exactly plan for when you fall in love, right? Thomas was very up front with me when we met that he would be leaving soon so I knew what I was getting myself into, but it definitely doesn't make things easier! Thomas will be back a little later than your boyfriend...he told me today they just ported in Israel...so he's 7 hours ahead of me. I haven't heard his voice in a week...and a week ago we were only allowed to talk for 10 minutes...it's something I have to get used to though...because that's how it will be from now on until he's back! What kind of job does your boyfriend do in the Navy? Is he on a ship, plane, or sub?

My boyfriend and I were together almost 3 months before he was deployed on Valentine's Day...so I'm right there with ya! Some people may wonder why I even bothered getting involved, but you don't exactly plan for when you fall in love, right? Thomas was very up front with me when we met that he would be leaving soon so I knew what I was getting myself into, but it definitely doesn't make things easier! Thomas will be back a little later than your boyfriend...he told me today they just ported in Israel...so he's 7 hours ahead of me. I haven't heard his voice in a week...and a week ago we were only allowed to talk for 10 minutes...it's something I have to get used to though...because that's how it will be from now on until he's back! What kind of job does your boyfriend do in the Navy? Is he on a ship, plane, or sub?