Help!!

Hang in there! I am a Navy Wife too. I also was in the Navy so I can try and help you put as much as I can. I was in for about 4 yrs and was undesinated. It was not all bad they tell you that you get to do on the job training and yes that is true but well...... it sucks! He really needs to know what he wants out of the Navy and make the Recruters talk to him and you togather. My husband is a recruter a very good one that is up front. Make sure you guys have all your ducks in a row!!!! Ask many questions. As for housing he will be in the Navy so you will not live on base. Housing is nice i have done both. With housing you met a lot of people going through what you are going through. Sometimes its a good support system but other times it sucks because a lot of military wives a negitive. Keep your head and stay strong. Always know that they love you and are thinking of you as much as you are them. Best of luck with the baby I am gonna have mine on the 20th its my husbands and I first. He is on shore duty now and going through a rough and tough Chiefs enitiation. Please do not laugh at my spelling that is one thing that I was never good at. I hope this helps and you can always look me up. my user name is mel9911. Hang in there.

If you want privacy do not live on base. Accepting the housing allowance makes you feel like you have some freedom away from the military. I wasn't around for my husbands signing cause we met after that which was about 6 years ago but I think from what he has said in the past (hes on deployment right now LOL!!!) the bonus you will get in time don't worry about that. But the undesignated is bad because they will put you where they want. My husband is a builder (SEABEE) and they have all kinds of trades your husband can be. If he is going out on the ship I can't help you there cause I know nothing about that. The time seperated is hard and will always be hard but you do get used to it and know the ways you have to work through it to keep yourself busy. The first time away is always the hardest. But good luck to you and your family and welcome to the NAVY!!!! I am a very proud navy wife.

Well, welcome to the navy life. As everyone has informed you on the signing process I'll go ahead and forget about it. Yes time apart is hard. Especially if you are young and expecting. I was in the same situation. I knew nothing of navy life really. Thought I could take it with no problem. Wow was I thrown for a loop. Depending if he has had college I'll let you know now. Pay is horrible. Especially if you have a family. So get in to housing as soon as possible. That will greatly help with money. Going to a new place is scary. I didn't like it one bit. Still don't. So ask your husband if there is anyone in his new shop or squadron that he likes and has a wife around your age. Invite them over for dinner or something. We use to throw BBQ's to introduce ourselves to his co-workers. And yes military wives are sometimes full of drama. So I suggest before your husband goes of to the boat or school that you guys sit down and talk about things you might face. Rumors of cheating. What to do if you have a quarrel with a neighbor. You would think you know these things but not always and everyone faces them different. And don't think you are going to love the life. Other navy wives might not say this but you may find yourself cursing navy and maybe even you husband for dragging you into it. You may even resent him because of the places he gets to see while your at home taking care of the kids . You may also experience the "Just leave" jitters. That where you just want him to go and leave already before he goes out to the boat. ALOT of couples have this. Talk through it. I've seen couples end because of this. And always use your past as a reference point. As in We've made it through worse we can get through this. This helps me alot. Heck my husband and I use to sleep on the floor using clothes as pillows and sharing a thin blanket. Living off of PBJ and ramen noodles. 8 years later and it's so much better. Not perfect but better. And never expect perfection. Especially from him. It's new to him too. Talk alot or if you have to write then talk. Well, I hope I've helped and haven't rambled on long enough to give reading it all. Good luck to you.

it seems everyone answered ur ?s about the life. i was a navy wife for a while, i am still married to my sailor, but he's out now. he's a disabled vet. anyway undesignated means no rate. my husband went in as an ET, electronic thech. undesignated is a seaman on entry and later a boatsmans mate, basically an all around do anything, scrubb floors, paint, and so on. have his rate.....

Hello,

my husband has been in the navy for about a year and a half. The most important thing about the signing process is to get everything "promised" in writting, and also remember that there are no promises when it comes to the military, expect the unexpected doesn't begin to describe it. Boot camp is hard but its not that hard to get thru. I moved to where my husband went to A school right away and we get BAH(housing allowence). Most of the time its way better to live off base because you can seporate his work from his home life. The life of a navy family is not easy. my husband has 2 and a half years left and we both cant wait for this to be a thing of the past. If its really what your husband and you want, then good luck to you, but if there is any doubt, its SO not worth it.

Well me and my fiance recently just got engaged while he was in the process of signing up for the navy and just from what I went through so far is he went to bootcamp for 2 months and he wrote me every week and I wrote him everyday and he graduated so you get to go to see him for about 3 days then they go straight to A school which is where my fiance is now and he will be there for about 5 weeks. I hear they do get to talk on the phone everyday during A school and after that they come home for a couple of weeks. And well im not sure because my fiance is barely in a school but he just told me they will have to go to c school after and then they get stationed depending on where they choose or whereever they navy decides to put them. My fiance is also undesignated and he told me that when he is done with school that me and him will be able to live together on base or on a offshore housing well i dont know what the difference is lol i still have to talk to him about that but thats where you get to stay for depending on his job 4 or 5 years but he gets shipped out for about 6 months everytime and he comes back home to base well if you have any questions email me anytime i hope i helped alittle bit lol. goodluck!!

GET IT IN WRITING is the MOST important thing about anything in the Navy. Amen. That being said, make sure you get it in writing. Ha ha ha. My hubby was a late bloomer--he didn't join until he was 27. I have never lived away from my family, so I was scared to death. We just moved to Mayport NS area, and have only been here for 3 weeks. I am homesick, but everyday gets easier. Undesignated means without a job rating that he intends to train for. If he goes undesignated, he will be the "do-boy".....he needs to pick a job. The hardest part will be while he is in basic, and let me tell you, I LIVED FOR THOSE LETTERS. They stay busy, and he will stay tired. Once he graduates, it is a little easier, because then you can talk to him everyday on the phone. A school is even easier, because then he will have more freedom. I hope I have helped some....but my hubby has only been in for 9-10 months.

GET IT IN WRITING is the MOST important thing about anything in the Navy. Amen. That being said, make sure you get it in writing. Ha ha ha. My hubby was a late bloomer--he didn't join until he was 27. I have never lived away from my family, so I was scared to death. We just moved to Mayport NS area, and have only been here for 3 weeks. I am homesick, but everyday gets easier. Undesignated means without a job rating that he intends to train for. If he goes undesignated, he will be the "do-boy".....he needs to pick a job. The hardest part will be while he is in basic, and let me tell you, I LIVED FOR THOSE LETTERS. They stay busy, and he will stay tired. Once he graduates, it is a little easier, because then you can talk to him everyday on the phone. A school is even easier, because then he will have more freedom. I hope I have helped some....but my hubby has only been in for 9-10 months.

hey there

well i dont really know anything about the signing process because my husband was already in when we married but i have been away from my home for 4 months now and i am having a very hard time with it. i havent ment any friends yet and i am not working - hopefully you have a better time!

i have never lived on base but we live in a house off base using the monthly allowence...most people say off base is better especially if you are buying something because a lot of times your allowence is more then a mortgage or rent and it can help out financially. i guess there are probably positive points to both.

good luck to you and i am always here to talk :)

I can try and help you here. I was an Army wife and I was also in the Army. I am sure it is about the same. Not much but close. Let's see where can I start. The signing thing you were talking about yes please make sure you get every promise in writing. It is a must to have everything in writing. The seperation is hard and you never really get used to it, so try and make some friends with the other military wives close to you so living on post would probably be your best choice. Make sure everything the recruiter told your husband is on paper. Do not let them tell you that will happen down the road because it won't. My husband was a recruiter so I know this for a fact. The undesignated thing I am not sure but I think that means they can send your husband anywhere they want too. Does he know where he wants to go? Make sure where he goes you can be with him. What I mean by that is you can be where he is stationed. Living on post is not that bad and since you don't have to pay utilities and rent and such it takes some pressure off the bills. Shopping on post is also nice. What ever unit he goes with make sure you join the wives group. I don't know what they call it in the Navy but they call it the F R G in the Army which stands for Family Rediness Group. But a word of warning about groups like that. Be careful who you trust. Military wives can be pretty nasty. Nice to your face and stab you in the back. When my husband was in Iraq I went to the monthly FRG meetings and got sick of listening to who was sleeping with who while their husbands were in Iraq. Thank your husband for us in becoming one of our countries heros and he made a really good choice giong Navy. If I had to do it all over again I would have went with the Navy. Please fill free to contact me anytime and ask whatever you want. I will be glad to help. My heart and prayers go out to you and your husband and the baby you will soon both be enjoying.