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I'm 22 years old and married my high school sweetheart of 7 years on August 9th 2007...He joined the navy in April 2007 and when he told me it broke my heart and flipped my world upside down.  There was no discussion about it whatever so ever. He just did it.  I thought I would be able to handle the change but I guess you don't really know what you're getting yourself into until it happens.  Well I have a three year old son with my husband and it breaks my heart that he doesn't understand why daddy is on the boat and not with him.  I quit my job of three years because we both had intentions of my son and I joining him at his final destination.  I was told today by him that we wouldn't be able to go over there for at least a year.  The next time I will see my husband will be at least a year and a half.  My heart is crushed and I'm lost.  This is the longest we have ever been apart since we moved in together 5 years ago.  I don't know what to do or with myself.  I've never went through this experience or know someone who has.  It's all so scary for me.  I don't talk to anyone on my side of the family although I've tried...it's helpless.. I do get along pretty well with his family. I have no friends whatsoever because I've had wrongful things done to me by them so it's hard to trust and open up.  I live in his parents' house which makes my situation harder to deal with.  I only dealt with this because i thought i would be with him soon.  Since that's not going to happen anytime soon I'm scattered.  Being in this house where he was born and raised in tears me up inside.  It hurts but it's somewhat comforting because we had some really great moments in this house.   I'm just looking for comfort and support from those of you who been there and know what it's like to be a navy wife
LonelyNavyWife LonelyNavyWife 21-25, F 7 Responses Aug 17, 2007

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My husband and I are college sweethearts. He graduated college in December 2008 and left to the Navy in January. I am still here in Texas finishing my last semester of college. We recently got married in the summer when he came home for July 4th.



It has been the longest 10 months of my life since he left to the Navy. But we have one common goal: Spend out lives with each other.



Everyday I wake up hoping it will be easier being apart but it doesn't. We have seen each other 3 times since he left. And every goodbye get harder. But we refuse to give up.



Stay strong and hold your head high. You must always remember if he had a choice, he would be in your arm and by your side. Military wives are the strongest women in the world and you are one of them.

My husband and I are college sweethearts. He graduated college in December 2008 and left to the Navy in January. I am still here in Texas finishing my last semester of college. We recently got married in the summer when he came home for July 4th.



It has been the longest 10 months of my life since he left to the Navy. But we have one common goal: Spend out lives with each other.



Everyday I wake up hoping it will be easier being apart but it doesn't. We have seen each other 3 times since he left. And every goodbye get harder. But we refuse to give up.



Stay strong and hold your head high. You must always remember if he had a choice, he would be in your arm and by your side. Military wives are the strongest women in the world and you are one of them.

My husband and I are college sweethearts. He graduated college in December 2008 and left to the Navy in January. I am still here in Texas finishing my last semester of college. We recently got married in the summer when he came home for July 4th.



It has been the longest 10 months of my life since he left to the Navy. But we have one common goal: Spend out lives with each other.



Everyday I wake up hoping it will be easier being apart but it doesn't. We have seen each other 3 times since he left. And every goodbye get harder. But we refuse to give up.



Stay strong and hold your head high. You must always remember if he had a choice, he would be in your arm and by your side. Military wives are the strongest women in the world and you are one of them.

I am a navy wife and my husband has been in about 6 years now. I can honestly say you sound just like me when I was going through my first deployment and it really never gets any easier. You do get used to it but its still hard. You really have to try your best to keep yourself busy all day long so that way you keep your mind off of it (even though that is impossible i know) just like they do. They really do dive right into their work because its just as hard for them too. I didn't have friends or any close family whatesoever the first time and we had a new 3 month old when he left. I felt like I was losing my mind. Im sorry sweetheart but I wish I could say it gets easier cause it doesn't you just get used to it. Good luck to you and I hope the best for your family.

hey I'm Tiff! My husband and i have actually been married for a year and together for 4, well hes been in the navy for almost 2 years now and ive gotten used to being apart from him. We have a 2 year old daughter and shes pretty much the only thing that keeps me going, every time i look at her i know that there's a part of him home with me! His ships in Va and i live in Tx. 1600 miles apart is forever, but some how we seem to get through it! i actually think about how much harder it is for him to be away from me and on top of that his little girl, which hes only seen 45 days out of her life. He's actually about to get back from his first deployment in April 09. uhh! which is so long but i love the fact that i get to se him again, it just makes everything better, we both get so excited to see each other. Well i hope everything goes good for you, just remember all you have to do is look up and pray when things are going bad! It works....plus just realize how much your husband loves you and what hes doing for you and your child!

tiff

I can tell you this, I have been in the navy for 21 years and at this point I am geographically seperated from my family and it's killing me. It's not like a normal deployment, it's just living but away from them. My wife is going threw similar to what you are and it is really testing her. She has friends but does not feel like doing anything with them and our kids just remind her of me. I really don't know how you guys do it. I just dive into work, I know that is probably the easy way out, but I just can't think about my family and how much I miss them all of the time. God bless you and good luck.

I was not a Navy wife but I was an Army wife. I know the pain of seperation and I know it is not easy. My husband is out of the Army now but I am going to go back on the road and drive an 18 wheeler and so the seperation is going to come again. It never gets any eaiser but we do what we have to, to survive. Spend lots of time with that beautiful baby and share stories with him of his daddy. Keep in as much contact as you can with your husband and no matter what support him 100 percent. He needs your support. I have also got to hear soldiers complain about spouses complaining all the time because they were gone all the time. Try not to. Try not to ask him why do you have to go. Just be proud of him for supporting our country and hold your head high that you are married to a hero. God bless you and your family and you can do this. Thank your husband for me for serving our country to make it a better place for us to love. My prayers will be with you.