Talk to Me Baby

Hi everybody, I'm new here. I signed up to find some people like me who don't fit anywhere, I'm too anxious to socialize and never have anything amusing to add to a conversation and therefore have no friends.

If you wanna talk to me, don't worry I won't judge you or scrutinize what you say, you don't even have to say anything, because I understand you.

Love, whiskerz.

whiskerz whiskerz
31-35, M
102 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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I cant seem to fit in as well. The kids at my school make fun of me because I am gay

I don't have issues on being with people any race or personality. Just feel down lately but hope to be okay real soon. Cheer up guys.....

As I'm shy and introvert, I also have a problem to have friends.
And I feel that my life is boring like me...

Exactly, except I d have one or two friends. but even so, I make it very awkward because I can't keep a conversation going :(

i feel the same way! is it cool if i friend everyone on this page? lol

So am i.

Hi how ar u i need 2know u c3n i b3 ur.......+....,,,?

I am probably the opposite to you,but allwsays have boyfriends that are exactly like you!don`t know what to make of that! I`m happy to c hat with you if you need to.

I socialize just fine....on the outside...what is going on in the inside is another matter. I absolutely KNOW I am from a different planet...If They only knew the thoughts rolling through my to EP....x

I will be happy to chat. and hope to find best people here like me. Love to all

feel the same way. thats one of the reasons i joined. sometimes i say the wrong things at the wrong times and then mosyly hardly say yes or no and look like a fool but maybe we could chat through tis site?

Whiskerz I an a new friend, I to feel I am from another planet. I find it hard to talk and make friends. It would be nice if we all could have a quit place to read, coffee, tea, or just listen to some music and share in the spirit our love for each other. That would be real cool!

I am extremely shy and hoping to find some nice people to talk to. I also often feel liike I'm from a different planet where I dont fit in because of my shyness but I am extremely positive and love to smile people often find that wierd and dont understand how I can be happy to be alone. I am happy but lonely and I would love to talk to and listen to anyone that wants to :-) Xx

I have felt like I am from somewhere else since I was very little, like an alternate dimension in which things make sense and people are motivated by love. I hope you find a real sense of community here. One Love xox

Interesting comments here. <br />
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My wife learned years ago that being isolated was a choice. At the suggestion of a friend, a counselor, she was told to force herself into social situations and ask anyone in the group a few prepared questions ("where are you from," "what are your interests?"). <br />
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She began to understand, after perhaps a month, that shyness was in fact a choice she had made, although she had previously refused to believe it. Over time, she became gregarious. The shyness, or whatever it was, disappeared completely.

Hi Whiskers, my name is Mary.<br />
I don't have any friends either.<br />
It's not because I'm shy or anything like that but more because of my previous marriage. You see, I was not allowed to have any friends or life in general at all. (Long story).<br />
When I finally left that marriage and wanted to make some female friends, I soon found that that was not going to happen. Why? Well, I was told it was because of the way I looked and conducted myself.<br />
You see, what would happen is that these woman that I would meet would be jealous of me. How do I know this? Because I have been told to my face many times by them. I'm not a bad person at all. I like to help people any way I can, and I am certainly not conceited or flamboyant in any way. I find it a bit funny at times thinking how woman don't like me and men want to marry me. One thing it is for sure though, it's depressing. So I'm hoping to make a few friends to chat with on here.

its same here. i too just cant keep a relationship. im an introverd. bt im new here n idnt kno hw to make frenz here

Hi there Whiskerz, thanks! For a long time I have though I need to fit in and I don't. I beganing to thank I should be around some men that want to hurt or ------something ales. Maybe that's what I was made for, their pleasure.

This thread has been going for a very long time - amazing that so many people do relate to your story and feel the same - lots of people put on a front but are cringing inside - we all need a bit of TLC sometimes

Hey, I'm new too and tbh I feel alot of people are pretty ignorant to anything different other than a media conception of what people 'should' be like, that's kinda why I joined too, I h ave a close circle of friends, which I think is always better, but just wanted to say there's nothing wrong with you and I joined for the same reasons, to talk to like-minded people about things that actually matter to an extent. Cheers buddy hope to speak soon x

I am here as well if you are looking for a new friend.

I feel the same way like i wasn't made for this world because I'm so anti social

Amazing! I kinda felt alone in this world until I came to this topic!<br />
I too have a difficult time socializing because I fear rejection and just don't know what to say 99% of the time. I am a homebody and don't do much of anything but stay home. I'm quite lonely even though I'm married...that's a whole diff story....

hey I am new too. I have similiar probs as you .<br />
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Hope you are ok

Hi Whiskerz!<br />
I see I'm amoung several fellow aliens to this strange world! lol. Thats seriously how I started to feel about it all a few years ago. Since then I started looking at it as an alien anthropologist studying how people act so I can mimic the correct responces to social situations. It's helped with work, but still left me friendless. At least we can find others like ourselves online :)

if people only knew. . . that's what i'm always thinking at work and when i'm forced to be around people. i smile i talk but i'm slightly terrorized and can't wait to get home. i get home and i'm lonely and bored tv used to help. . . it's just started to become really really old.


Wow I just noticed this was first posted in 2008 ! are you still here ? if so how are things going for you ?

yup, same here, especially with family. or work, or shopping or anywhere. never seem to say the right thing. every decision I make seem's to backlash on me , no matter how hard I try to do or say the right thing. Foreign World!

like your name, "whiskers" :P :)

Hi Whiskerz-<br />
I was really impressed by your honesty. Way to lay it all out on the line there! I think I'm from another planet too. I'm always scanning the sky for the mothership that'll take me back to my home planet where people understand me. ; ) I'm pretty friendly in real life, but I live some place where people have all known each other for a thousand years so it's really, really tough to make friends. Plus I think a lot of people just don't get my weird sense of humor. I'd love to be friends if you're up for it.

Hello whiskerz,<br />
Im so new to this website-1hour...<br />
Ive got a terminal illness and i find it very difficult to begin to imagine taking NEW friends into my life.My reasons for this is simple-<br />
If you know you may not live long, why accept new people into your life, when all i can do is hurt them by leaving them, as whomever is already in my life has got my unconditional love, and if i love them, how can i hurt them by dying and leaving them broken? I,ll cause enough hurt and sadness as im a mum with a child aged 10.<br />
Very sad im even having to say that, but one thing i am, is very honest, maybye 2 honest.<br />
No excuse i quess, but makes it easier to be alone than too hurt someone you LOVE.Worst excuse ive ever heard, if i say it long enough, maybye 1 day i shall believe it.<br />
Why im telling you this i dont know, but maybye it can help, even though i know this is WRONG...Female-scotland-36

Many times we are blessed by someone being in our lives even if it is a short time. Let people in. You may be exactly what someone needs in their life and maybe they can enrich yours or your child's life. Many blessings to you.

That was interesting and fun, thank you! I am relatively new so I am just like jumpin here jumpin there yup everywhere. Anybody have facebook? I am inferring one keeps ones identity mum here therefore one does not post one picture of ones pet giraffe? Sometimes social anxiety can be so strong i recommend a Dr. for a mild anxiety pill. I also recommend remembering at least in my silly opinion all of us are brothers and sisters we just haven't met formally :)


Wasssuuuup,, you on psn(playstationnetwork)? iz the wheelman-01 i just joined and if its you what a coincidenc! Peace!

No Lellllli, I haven't. Thanks for the info, it sounds real interesting :)

If one does not say anything. How can you understand them? We are no better or worse then the next, but we all have something to say.

Heard of EMDR?

Try putting mirrors all around your house. Then there is always somebody with you! BTW, I'm new here too.

Well your not alone in that loads of people have left you rather supportive comments. I'm new here too. good luck.

Hi whiskerz, I don't think you live like Robinson Crusoe on a secluded island, so you can talk about anything.

Thanks but I'm looking for someone more earthly.

if its about friends .. i thinku should never get too close to a friends ...this does not mean that u should have no friends ...have some ...but u should not get to so close and deep with them ...or someday u will get a strong shock ...cuzed by a problem or something ...and that will hurt !! but if u keep it just friends and not so deep ...u wont get hurt as u will if u didnt !!

Nice profile picture ;)<br />
Having nothing amusing to say is sometimes better than being a walking tragicomedy ..

Hi Whiskerz,<br />
I'm new on this site 2. I know how you feel

Hey.. I can totally relate to you,so I just felt like posting here.. ....:0

Hi whiskerz,<br />
I am also new to EP.You have a good taste in various topics. i would like to add you to my circle .

There is always time to improve the life you have. Even with baby steps. Life is Good. What do you see in your life that is positive? I have a positive journal I keep. It helps me to appreciate my life even when things don’t seem to be going RIGHT.<br />
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Check out Uplifting messages for life!

cool ..u will cahnge all the members of EP toooo......carry on jani

That was a nice introduction.

I know lots of people but dont really have any friends Is that possible? I dont even have any real enemy's i find that i just dont seem to "click" with anyone.....i get bored in their company or start acting not like myself to fit in.....would rather be lone

Hello whiskerz ,<br />
I am in the same boat as u. If u want to talk sometime just give me a shout

I think it takes a lot of time to change, but eventually gets better with social experiences and you have to push yourself to gain some.

is there any solution for ths problem so please let me coz even i feel this kind of feelin many times n dont like my self

hello whiskerz,i am here for u to talk to. Most of us has been in the same boat, so I complitely understand you.

I was like that love my own company my new wife at the time insisted we go down to the local that was 30 years ago I still go on my own I have lots people I talk to about rubbish so you can help yourself good luck . if you wont chat that's fine.

hello! you are not alone. life is indeed a mystery...... we've got to experienced all these things to make us a better person. all the best!!!

i know them feelings! i envy outgoing people that can just strike up a conversation with anyone..

hi just thought i would say hi why havent u got any friends thats not nice i am here if u would like to chat u need friends

That's me too. So easy to talk online but get me face-to-face and it's an entirely different situation. I'll chat anytime.

hi,whiskerz.Tis is niranjan i to feel the same like u.I am very sad to see some one like me because i know wat u feel.Nice to meet u

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. I'm not shy and I actually come across as quite gregarious(sp?) in real life, but for some reason I can't seem to develop friendships with people and tend to be alone most of the time.<br />
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As for the opposite sex... well, you get the idea.

Heya Whisk! I've only been a member here for about ten minutes, but somehow I ran across your post straightaway.<br />
For what it's worth, I'd like to chat with you, it would be my pleasure. Just let me know, if you like.

sorry that you feel that way, but i guess its nice to know their are others in the same boat.

yes,im new to this to,kind of nice idea but hard for me to figure out how to comment on storys,,how do you add friends to your circle??and when you do get friends can you chat with them free.

Whiskerz, thanks for the compliment in the above comment however I was just stating a fact- you are doing GREAT ! The one thing I have learned in life's school of hard knocks is that self assurance comes when you get to the point that what other people think doesn't really matter as much as what you think of yourself,even more than that how much you believe in yourself.What it all boils down to is learning to like yourself and accept the way you are. For example, ever since I was a little kid I wanted to be a horse trainer and all my life I was told I'd never suceed for one I was female and and number two I could never afford to go to an equine college. Guess what? I did it. It wasn't easy especially since I didn't have any support monetary or moral. More than anything I was ridiculed and belittled. In my heart I knew I could b/c I wanted it more than anything. If I had listen to negativity I would have never accomplished my dream and along the way I learned what I was made of and that made me self assured b/c all I had to rely on was self. I learned also during that time to like myself the good and the bad whether anyone else ever did or not.What I did to boister my self confidence to keep persuing my dream was to find ONE thing everyday that I liked about myself and I held onto it. You'll find that once you start believing in yourself others will start believing in you to.<br />
Gosh, I didn't mean to carry on so, hope I'm not out of line here b/c I sure didn't mean to share so much. Thanks for listening.

Thanks betcha! You're very kind..!<br />
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Carrot, thanks! I find it amusing the you find ME amusing. I wish I can be as self-assured and calm in real life as I am online..

No one has the right to judge anyone b/c they don't have a clue what another person has gone through or what they are going through unless they have walked in that person's shoes.Besides that, people that judge others obviously are tending to someone else's business instead of taking care of their own. Whiskerz, you're doing great,it takes a lot of courage to face the bad that has happened in one's life and to overcome it.

Thanks.. I'm trying...

I'm new here to and I feel the same way.Whiskerz it looks like you are off to a great start.

Cant say from another planet but from across the world hows that?<br />
Love to hear from you<br />
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Couldn't have said it better tiredone... Sorry that you feel that way. I never have anyone to call up and unwind.. I feel so pathetic too...

agreed, I'm an incredible introvert/hermit... I have "friends" that I was in contact with online from work that I've known for ~14 years, but 'in person' friendships just don't seem to work as well. I don't have anybody I feel close enough to that I can just pick up a phone and call if I need to talk, I'm kinda pathetic...

Welcome to a site with few trolls.<br />

Hello everybody!<br />
Thanks for commenting here!<br />
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Hopefully this site will help us become more social!<br />
It has helped me feel better about myself seeing I'm not the only one with such problems...


hi, im new here too...<br />
im strugglying, i feel everyone has jugded me so far... to young, did everything to quite... it wont last... that type of thing.<br />
i just want and need someone to talk to... thanks

Nice to see there`s people that have the same feelings I have. <br />
This is the first time I write here so I am new. I would like to know people that feel kind of alone in this world.<br />
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Thanks for your kind words mojo.. I make a very good first impression, but when it comes to any meaningful friendship I consider myself socially retarded too.<br />
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I'd love to be friends..

Hey whiskers, and welcome to EP. You are going to find some absolute nutters here that will comment on your storied without even reading them will also find some wonderful caring, non judgemental people Ive ever met {well not exactly met, but you get the idea} Theres always someone with some good advice and some love to share around..its a good place.<br />
As for the homophobic thing, thats nobodies business exept have your reasons.<br />
I used to call myself a social retard because I couldnt talk to people, socialise, you know how it is..but after some really nice people gave me some good advice and some good vibes, I feel I am achieving a lot more than I ever had.<br />
Amazing that someone from halfway across the world can lift your spirits.<br />
Wanna be friends???

Thanks, love your avatar too ;)

Oh you can stalk me anytime sweetie .... lol

Hi Whisk, I just came here to stalk you a little... I need you to write some more stories so I can stalk you good. Okay?

Yeah most people are really nice and warm here. I'm still getting to know the system and I wish I found this site sooner ;)<br />
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I started a game here<br /> <a href="" target="ep_blank"></a><br />
please participate - thanks! :)

Hi diswiddlepiggy I'm glad to hear from you!<br />
How's EP for you so far?

You shouldn't generalize like that.<br><br />
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I didn't come here to pursue sexual courtship or to be judged by others nor is this site the place to bash others. I suffer from homophobia (not that I dislike gay people, it's just being afraid that every guy I talk to wants to abuse me) and for good reasons, I've been sexually molested as a child and hit on many times by people from the same sex.

At least he's got a sense of humor and can spell with correct grammar! That's rare of anyone, these days! I get so sick of hearing "Guess who I seen?" and "He don't like like that." Ah!!!! It makes me cringe. Bleh.

Looks like you're just looking for the ladies. How undifferent of you :)

LMAO ...