Meet Ingenescu!

We caught up with new member Ingenescu and asked a few fun questions. Get to know your new community member and don't forget to say Hello!

EP: Good evening and welcome. Wonderful to have you join us. Let's get started right away. When you are 100 and looking back at your life, what do you want to be able to say?

Ingenescu: Pleasure to be here. This is like twenty questions. When I am 100, and looking back at my life, I want to be able to display a contented smile, and say that I was loved, and that I was a person capable of loving. Not being a social butterfly, my preference has always been very small groups. Unencumbered by fear of ridicule, I tend to be the one to introduce 'the elephant in the room' by asking pointed and probing questions. This has opened the door to many interesting conversations and led to the development of a small number of significant friendships. These could easily be described as loving relationships, where the love is acceptance and trust and sharing and conversation and enjoyment of one another's company, among other things. When I'm a 100, I hope that I'll see the time spent on such relationships as the best times of my life.

EP: Lovely. If you had the chance where you could do anything you wanted, with money being no object, what would you do?

Ingenescu: I'm amused. If I had the chance to do anything I wanted, I'd write an inspirational book. My (fantasy) inspirational book would tell the story of a person who had a gift for recognizing the needs and difficulties of others, and who was quite capable of doing something to help. The book would inspire by demonstrating and teaching ways that people can make things better for themselves and others by encouraging true listening, better understanding, and selflessness. The book would change the way that people relate to others.

EP: You are a bit mysterious, aren't you. What is the best advice you have ever received? Who gave it to you?

Ingenescu: Tough one. The best advice that I have ever received was given to me during a period when my son, an extremely difficult teenager at the time, was tearing apart the whole family with his behaviour. It was at a time when, with no more options evident, I was seriously considering throwing him out of the household. We had tried everything - bribes, threats, tough-love, counseling, friends, teachers, grandparents. Everything. After years of difficulty and abuse, we/I were considering throwing him out of the house. In a moment of lucid brilliance, my best friend turned to me and said, "Don't you dare throw him out! I don't want to be sitting on a chair on the dock at the cottage with you when you are an old fart, listening to you tell me how sorry you are that you ended your relationship with your son so many years ago." We survived the trials and tribulations of his teenage years. There was much pain. Now married with a son of his own, he is a wonderful person and as much a friend as a son.

EP: Excellent. What compelling insights you've given us. Well, that concludes our up close and personal interview with Ingenescu . Stay tuned readers, for our next New Member Interview.

Until then, be sure to pay a visit to Ingenescu's profile today and say Hello!
Ingenescu Ingenescu
70+, M
Feb 26, 2009