Ok, so I was browsing through the App Store and was looking for something in particular I'm sure.....not sure what it was exactly but some how I ended up in the Social Networking category....which happens to be the least visits category for me. Facebook is so damn big that its really all the Social Networking that I need. But I haven't been making any new friends on there lately....... and I have already tried many online websites and even a few apps but it didn't take long to lose interest in them.

So I came across the Experience Project's app....read the description and thought to myself, Hey this is different....and the concept of sharing Experiences and stories with others and sounded like it could be both fun and interesting...and I might be a nice place and environment to meet new people and make some friends. So I downloaded it, opened it, and looked through it....but the app is very limited in is functionality.....so the next day I thought if this app is like all the others then it might have a website...so I Googled it and then there it was. I thought cool and went to the site and was quite surprised at the set up and the personalizations that I could actually do that I couldn't in the app. I created my basic profile to get started ...as I was trying to learn more about the site and how things worked....I browsed around the site and my first impression was that this could be a really great place to be, that being a member could benefit me.

Then the second day came and I had built a nice list of experiences and posted a few questions and shared a couple of stories, while I was browsing I made a few comments and hearted a few peoples post...and the message started coming in slowly and then there were comments made and a few words spoken and I was still impressed.....

Then last night I decided to comment on an adult themed Experience at the same time making a personal confession since you can do that on this site.....And since I am anonymous I was free to say whatever I wanted, express my true feeling, share my experiences but the most important this is that I can just be me.....That I can express myself freely, make comments on how I feel about something, my opinions, connect with others who have similar experiences as I do...be able to use my Social Work skills maybe by giving someone advice that helps them......

But I think I've made a BIG mistake......by putting out there somethings about myself that I usually keep to myself...but then there lies my dilemma, because no one ever gets to really know me, the real me......

And within minutes from hitting the post button, the flood gates opened and things got crazy really fast...the messages started pouring in, suddenly I was being added to a lot of circles...so much was happening that I could barely stay afloat....and finally had to step away from the computer and take a break. I haven't even been able to reply to all the messages yet and now I think I might just be a bit afraid to even look at the comments that were made to my story and experience......Cuz, I pretty much know what its going to be like. I spent a few hours on here last night and checked out a lot of profiles and read quite a variety of posts, got a closer look at the set up and some of it members.....

Then there's today....and I will admit that my impression of the site has drastically changed and I am questioning whether or not I want to continue being a member.....
Because this is what I've learned from what I have already seen in my short time being on here....

1. Some of the usernames are absolutely ridiculous, a bit offensive, original, and very expressive, because they instantly send a very clear message and say a lot about this website and what its really all about. And the side that I have seen so far isn't impressing me at all......and it isn't as you would first think it is and its not like it was when it was first created and reason for it.......

2. The community environment that I have seen so far tells me that it is just exactly like the dating websites are.....A huge meat market, a perverts paradise, a den of deception, a channel for hookups that comes across as an uncivilized society......that's full of fetishes and falsehoods, so diverse with such a vast variety of people from all around the world, with and openness that sets no limits nor enforces and kind of moral conduct....It a freakin' free for all......that has the potential (because all the key ingredients are present) to breed hostility and all kinds of other troubles with the biggest problem being the DRAMA.......

3. Membership is completely and totally OPEN, there are no limits at all, with the biggest concern being on age. From pre-teen to over 70, all connected through an open environment, that provides a communication channel and a way to connect, that screams to me BIG TROUBLE and the perfect breeding ground to get all kinds of bad things started......

4. Then there's the double edged sword.......because the community is so open, vast and diverse and has so many different types of people, this can be a good thing and at the same time a very bad thing.
Good because: it is so open, vast and diverse it makes it easier to find like minded people here, that share similar values, moral, beliefs, opinions, thoughts and ideas, who are going through similar experiences or have been through the same ones already, where there probably lies a lot of Wisdom and Knowledge, as well as skills and abilities that can be taught and learned, someone could have the answer to a question you have or a solution to a problem you can figure out or solve...advice, that could change or save your life.....and I could go on. There is the potential here for some very power and positive things to come from this set up and environment. I do believe some good friendships could be found here that would prove to be beneficial, maybe even life changing.
Bad because: Of the exact same things that make it good. If these things are turned around and used in a negative way could create a lot of trouble and serious problems. Could become offensive and abusive, where moral conduct is lost, no respect is shown, where peoples true colors bleed through and brings their dark side out and to the surface...some are very rude and mean, while others .....are just plain wrong.......<<<>>>>

5. Lastly, (finally, I know, right?) I've never been apart of a community where people under the age of 18, but usually 21 can be members too. Yes, I know there are filters that you can use that will put more control over who you can connect to and even communicate with.....And I decided not to use it because I want mine to be open to and for everyone....in case there is a younger person out there in need of help, answers, solutions, ideas or seeks guidance from someone older who has more knowledge and experienced then they have....like a counselor that doesn't charge a fee or a mentor that would never judge you, who wants to help you any way they can because they truly want to see you succeed.....
But I have to admit, it caught me off guard when a young man told me how he likes women who are a lot older then him and wants to find someone who will be a mother figure to him, but whom he wants to be in a relationship with that of course includes sex...and again all I could do was just shake me head in disbelief that someone so young fantasizes about being in a relationship with his mom, pretty much.....I'm sorry, for me, that is just not right.

OMG.....there, I said my piece, and her piece and his piece and their piece and our piece....really if you made it all the way to this point ...I commend you, and guess you like to read. I am sorry that I took up so much of your time, expressing my opinions but would like to express my thanks for hearing me out.
Sandalwood3 Sandalwood3
41-45, F
1 Response Aug 22, 2014

Yes everything you have said here is pretty much true. Though once you get through the shock and awe you can pretty quickly figure out who is who. My very best and closest friends are on here.

Guess I must have missed out on the awe effect and the only thing that was really shocking to me was the "openness" of the sites structure and setup. Kids shouldn't be allowed to "play" where the adult are "hanging out"... That is just asking for all kinds of trouble and blatantly setting people up for failure. like when a young man pretty much propositions me to play his "mother"...

Then I guessed I was a bit amazed by what people (both men & women) had chosen as their usernames and the pic's they were using to identify themselves, and I'm sure the 1st impressions that I had are right on, or (and this is sad & a bit scary) was exactly the impression they were trying to make, which doesn't leave to many nice things to say.

Then, after the first 5 dic pics I received as introductions, I was really disappointed, because when I first came upon the app I was actually very excited and interested in joining the "experience project", because God has filled my life with an abundance of experiences and how nice it would be to share them with other people and find people who have had similar experiences so they could be discussed. Along with the age variety I was thinking that maybe I could help someone (I like helping people and have a degree in Social Work) as well as maybe get some advice on some of my issues. I thought, wow this might be a great place to meet new people and make some friends. But the dic pics only confirmed that in reality this site wasn't any different then some online dating sites or "hook-up" sites and I'd "already been there, done that", not what I was looking for.

Then, when my 2 or 3 shared experience (this one actually) had been taken down due to being flagged numerous times because it was in violation of the sites conditions, values, and guidelines, I was very shocked, appalled and down right pissed off and thought SERIOUSLY? They are going to start taking my writings down already? And that this one wasn't even a "mature" one or bad in any way. It was based on facts, the honest truth, my perspective on it, and an unbiased review. So needless to say I read everything.... and then appealed this action by pleading my case...and must admit I did a damn good job. Because since I was new, I hated to inform them that they were hypocrites who couldn't handle the "truth" and apparently was in denial and have chosen to just look away...But maybe that's how the site started out, and initially set up and it worked for a while, but that's not the case for what it is today. I actually laughed when I completely read the terms, guidelines, values and everything else in between. The intentions are great and honorable, the concepts are really well thought out..on paper. But that is not what I had seen or experienced in the 2 days I had been a member, completely opposite actually. So I'm thinking that who ever is working "behind the scenes" as readers, judgers, content moderators...and so on, is either a truth hater, completely blind, to naive and immature or just down right doesn't have a freakin' clue!!!!! Because I could point out 100 violations in 10 minutes. So you can't actually expect me to believe that, NO ONE, else can see this too???

I don't know how the site used to be when it first got started.....from what I've read about it, is that it was much better before....I do think this site has great potential and I've met some really nice people, which I'm hoping the longer I stay they will become great friendships and I do think I'm going to stay for a while yet, because I love to write, share and have great conversations.........see I just can't shut up..

Yes much of what you are saying is very true. I have a transgender profile as well as I felt that way for a very long time. I have been on here for over two years now and yes it used to be much better. I have my opinion as to why the site is the way it is now. Just like Facebook is a joint CIA/NSA project I think this one is as well and that what the site has become is what it was originally planned to be. As for your stories being taken down chances are another member didn't like them and flagged them. They are immediately taken down abd then you have a chance to appeal. Upon appeal then ah human looks at them. Otherwise it is all done by computer filter. If you wanted to avoid the dic pics you can go into your account settings and make it so only people in your circle can comment on your white board and send you private messages. Anyone would still be able to read your profile and comment on your stories. Just not privately.