Intimacy Issues


I`ve been married for 8 months and well my husband and I have sex maybe twice or thrice a month, is this normal - have any of you gone through this ?

We`ve been together on a somewhat off and on relationship for about 8 years and during that stage sex was great and frequent now the only time we have sex is when I initiate it and it doesn`t always work. I`ve tried to not initiate it and see what happens and well nothing happens.

I get a Goodbye peck when he is off to work but there only time there is a real kiss is when there is sex. There are no kisses at other times, no touching or huging.

We do come from a conservative upbringing etc so wouldn`t really have public displays of affection but this doesn`t even happen in the privacy of our own home.

I`ve brought it a twice so far and both times he said he would try harder but is this something that one actually has to try harder or even try about? Shouldn`t newly weds who are very much in love and together alone for the first time, want to be together.


Bilo Bilo
3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

I'm going through this same thing right now. It is a horrible situation. I feel so disconnected to him sometimes and unwanted.

Hey Bilo, Its quiet disturbing...however, you try to create mood for ur hubby... just kiss him..and leave him..or try to do some small naughty things..the ob<x>jective is he shd be attracted towards u...All the best..

With my first husband we had sex 2-3 times a day for the first 2 years we were married, then tapered off to 3-4 times a week. Now with my second husband it's been different the past few years due to a health condition: he has COPD and has trouble breathing when excited!LOL. But we still have the closeness; hugging, kissing, touching. No, you're relationship with your husband isn't normal when you love each other deeply.