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Unperfect Angel

I am a paraplegic...In January of 2002, I was a typical 21-year-old livin life in the fast lane when God decided to slow me down. I was in a near-fatal car accident that changed my life...forever.

It was January 20, 2002, a cold and icy day..a slippery one on the streets, when I was riding as a passenger in a car driven by anger. I was throw from the vehicle, approximately 75 feet from the accident site. The driver of the car walked away, as I layed in an angel's yard holding on to life. I was in a coma for 2 months and the doctors told my family if I ever came to, I probably wouldnt even know my name...

...BUT doctors are not our maker & savior. He had another plan for me. I came out of a coma and had my total memory and a new determination to prove the statistics wrong. The doctor's said that I would never walk again. I was devastated, but I knew I had to pull myself up for my daughter..(I only had one at the time) Emotionally, I was grieving..grieving the life that I had been living for 21 years..the life that I had now lost. But then I started looking at it from a positive perspective..it took time though. It was definately a healing process that I am still going through in a sense. I had to learn to live my new life, with what I had left. Starting over, in a sense. It wasn't easy and there are still days that are not easy. But I have so much to be thankful for. I was one of the blessed people that God had left on this earth for a reason. It wasn't my time. I had to make it a wonderful life and make a difference somehow.

Even though I am in a wheelchair everyday, I know that I have the upper hand. Now I have a way to break a barrier for people. As soon as I see someone looking, I start to tell my story. The more I share it, the less ignorance there is in this world. I know I am only one person, but I plan to touch as many lives as possible with my story.

It has been a rough road, but also a BLESSED one. I have come to realize through all of the pain and heartache I endured, that God has another plan for me. I was left here as an angel and advocate for people with disabilities. I am here to pull the ones that are down back up..so they too, can continue living life to the fullest. I not only want to spread awareness about being disabled, but also spread awareness to someday have a cure for spinal cord injuries. Blessings are sent in disguise...

I am now a single-mother of three little girls that I have dedicated my life to...teaching them that ANYTHING's POSSIBLE..We are all different some have blue eyes, some brown. Some are white..some are black..some walk and some ROLL. I am determined to never give up and use this time that I was blessed with to accomplish everything and anything possible.

I enjoy swimming, hiking (yes, it is possible:0), going to the beach, and riding bikes. I also have a passion for speaking and opening people's eyes to ignorance and moving past ignorance to see the other side. I am very blessed with family and friends that support me and encourage me to keep going. Without them I am nothing. I speak publically, as a motivational speaker to people in my area about living with disability. I currently also speak to other newly injured patients at the Carolinas Rehabilitation Center, here in Charlotte, to help motivate them and let them realize that life doesn't end after we are injured. I show them that we all have so much life to live and that there is nothing, not even a wheelchair, that can hold any of us back from reaching our goals and dreams. I have a website that is set up, explaining my full story. You can read my story and contact me through my website at www.freewebs.com/lilunperfectangel . If there is anyone that you know that needs some encouraging words, or inspiration, please contact me.

I am currently in school working towards my Bachelor's degree in Psychology. Then off to my Master's. There's no stopping for me..I'll never get enough. After I'm done at RCCC, I'll be moving on to UNC-Charlotte!!!! I just got my grades and I have a 4.0 GPA..it hasnt been easy, but it is worth every minute.  "Education is freedom"

I am proud to announce that I have been chosen to be part of the Colours Team, out of Corona, California. They are the team of peoople that endorse the Colours Wheelchair company. I am still currently waiting for the next step, but I am hopeful that this is going to be another blessing from God, to change lives and spread awareness. You can check out their website at www.colourswheelchair.com. Colours is not your average wheelchair company..it is a Generation X wheelchair company. They have the same morales and values as I do and are also trying to spread the message, that with life, Anything's Possible, no matter what we are faced with. They also make chairs, to support active life styles and people's own personal style as well. They make wheelchairs with cool designs, colors and even spinners! I believe this builds confidence, especially for newly injured people, and lets them roll in style! 

I have also just recently been asked to compete in the Ms. Wheelchair North Carolina pageant in Asheville, NC..if I win that competition, I will compete in the Ms. Wheelchair America pageant.  I am so excited to be able to meet other women like me, and hear their stories of perseverence and courage.  If nothing else, it will be a humbling experience. 

 I am also now a proud supporter of the Life Rolls On Foundation. Check it out at www.liferollson.org They are doing great things for people with spinal cord injuries/paralysis and I am proud to be a recruiter for their organization on myspace for myspace causes. I hope to one day work more with them and to become more involved.

 

UnperfectAngel UnperfectAngel 26-30, F 16 Responses Oct 5, 2008

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glad to see your profile keep it up friend!

Is there just 1 god or are all the religions a formalisation of one supreme being/god, I just need a answer I am lost (I think)

Unbelivable. This chick is nothing less than a fake. Yes she's in a wheelchair due to an unfortunate accident. But when it comes to being a good person, she only wants you to see the wheels and not the true person. She has three beautiful daughters, but only one lives with her. Why? She is not a competent parent and one daughter was taken to live with her paternal grandparents because of the "traffic" coming through her house and the other one lives with her father because all Erika wanted her for was child support, why should he give her child support when he can take care of the child himself, sans child support from Erika. Wake up people and remember, the wheels aren't the whole story.

Thank you for your story, I have a disability in another sense, as I only have 3/4 vision in one eye, which doesn't sound like much, but it iis, as I am an average mid-age guy with perfect 20/20 vision and was able to see as plain as day, until Easter 2010 when I woke up and was unable to see properly. I have been to many doctors and specialist and was told there is no cure for my problem at this time, but that the science community is working on it, maybe in another 25-50 years., But I have also discovered tthat there are 5 other friends and family who have vision problems too...... I have also found the prayer to St Joseph (which can be googled at ..prayer to St. Joseph) to be very helpful.

I copied down a quote from you , I hope you don't mind.

About being one of God's blessed people that he chose to leave on earth for a reason.

Very inspiring.

I love the story.

God has been so good to you.

Take care!

I have been dealing being paraplegic since 08 (car accident), I really don't remember the accident, i guess that is a blessing. But i refuse to give up. i have a great support in my mom, sister and daughter who refuse to give up on me. I'm getting stronger everyday. Also found out that i am capable of walking again. Your story touched my heart and i will always cherish your story and tell others .

can you explain how the hiking thing works? i know where you are coming from more than you would probably think. aside from a child, (i don't know how you do it on top of everything else), i was ejected but i learned using braces to walk and it really helps me feel more normal for a bit but the chair is more efficient.



what's your injury level? and where do you stand on the ASIA scale/ or Incomplete/Complete Injury side of it.



I have a little movement lower down on my left and slight feeling in spots. But I don't know girls and thinking when it comes to the relationship aspect and as a former college wrestler, my injury took a hit on my confidence. What do you think? Does a SCI become the first thing on a girls mind? It's confusing because people are really too nice at times and it bothers me. I just want people to be real with me cause I'm still myself. I just lost control of about half my body, in the physical sense,

First i would like to start off saying that im a new paraplegic..from the chest down.. i was involved in a very serious car accident on july 31st 2008... i broke my c1 and my t6, shattered my ribs, had two collapsed lungs shattered my jaw. broke my collar bone. but am thankful i didnt damnage anything in my brain! i was thrown over 200 ft and wasnt found intil 3 hours after my accident. i thank god that i dont remember anything...i didnt even know i was in an accident until i woke up in the hospital.



i just wanted to let you know that by reading your story and by seeing how positive you are, it makes me feel more confident that i can still live my life normally..



I have been feelin really down lately...feeling like im the only one in the entire world like this..and noone could possibly know what im going through..so i turned to the internet...oh how wrong i was. and by reading everyones stories really does give me a new sence of hope... im a strong..VERY stubborn person. and is very determined to make it. i just want my independence back. thank you and everyone else for helping me feel mentally and emotionaly better! god bless

drbeetlemeyer: The pageant will be on April 18th in Asheville, NC! It is getting close only 14 more days. I am very excited!

Where and when will the Ms wheelchair north carolina be held? Good luck!!

stepmum01, I would love to help with your step son! Thank you for reading my stories! God Bless! Please keep in touch.



Angel

thank you for sharing your amazing story; i've taken note of all the web sites that you have mentioned and i will be visiting them soon. My step son is paralysed from the waist down. He's 13yrs and I'm getting worried about him, so thank you so much for your story and contacts.

You have a great attitude. That's the most important thing.



I too feel God has a plan for me. Of course I would have liked some input first.:)



Best of luck in the Ms. Wheelchair competition.

You are a truly special person. Thank you so much for being the inspiration that you are. I have no idea the adversity that you have gone through, but after reading your story I am truly moved. I will never take for granted the abilities that I still have. I will never think that someone CAN'T because it "looks" like they can't. YOU ARE AWESOME!







WikkedIrish

Please feel free to visit my website, that contains, my full bio and story of my paralysis at www.freewebs.com/lilunperfectangel

Wow, I am impressed. You go, girl! You have already lifted my spirits! Thanks.