Dove's Broken Wings

Hello Everyone

On April 17th, 2008 I was in a near fatal car accident after having been slipped some kind of "knock out" in a drink at my workplace.  Got in my vehicle (no memories of this at all) never put my seatbelt on (totally untold of for me) and within a mile from my work rolled my vehicle several times, was thrown out the driver's side window and landed 25 feet from my vehicle.  In the yard of a stranger.  It was cold, dark and I was near death.  Luckily for me, a paramedic was behind me and saw the crashed vehicle, he got out and started CPR on me..I wasn't breathing right, they had called an ambulance, but the medic instructed them to call for an airlift, as he did not expect me to make it!

Once again, I have no memories of any of this.  On the airlift ride, I started coming around they say.  Once at the hospital, they had to do an emergency tracheoctomy (sp) and hook me up to the ventilator, they then put me into an induced coma for 3 weeks.  My oh my the dreams and illusions I had wow!  I was completely convinced upon waking out of the coma that the hospital was doing secret experiments with me and rats and snakes.

After coming out of my coma I still didn't remember anything about the accident.  They were still keeping me pretty juiced up!  I can remember my son sitting there crying.  Due to the Trache, I couldn't talk, but I didn't know why.  I would often panic, ripping my tubes, and needles out of me!  While there they also implanted a feeding tube.

For the 1st month I slept alot, dreamt alot, and cried alot! I still didn't know the extent of my injuries, only that my son kept telling me that he had been waiting for almost 3 weeks for me to wake up.  After waking, the feeding tube, and the trache..I was then transported to the Rehab was there that I was told the extent of my injuries.

I had broke my back in like 5 different places form T3-T10.  A complete sever at T5.  I have 2 bars in my back approx 12 - 14 inches long.  My lungs had collapsed.  I had ripped my head open on each side at the temples down to my skull. I had several broken ribs.  A broken Shoulder scapula. My pelvic had been broke.  And much more..!

Mary Free Bed Rehabilitaion Facilty in Grand Rapids Michigan was wonderful.  From the morning I arrived there I was put to work on recovering my independance.  7 days a week we worked..PT, OT, learning how to shower, shop, get in and out of car, speech therapy. It has not been a year yet, and I am still searching for ways to keep myself independant.  Such as rides to and from Doc's.  Getting prescriptions.  My disability, trying to find care givers and funds to pay for them.  They sure don't make it easy..but then again..nothing is ever easy!

I live by myself with my dog in a Handicapped accessible apt.  I am self sufficient for the most part.  But it really gets lonely.  I only have my son, DIL and 2 grand-daughters here.  He tries to spend as much time as possible with me.  But due to work, girls activities and car issues..I usually get a couple of weekends a month with them.

Well that is my story in a nutshell..except that I arrived in Michigan on 9/11/2007. No employment here, April 17th, 2008 my accident. Hospitalized till May 8, 2008.  Transported to MFB Rehab remained there till July 11, 2008.  Then home with my boyfriend or so I thought (he lasted 5 weeks), and then left by myself around August 20, 2008..managed to get a care giver, hospitalization, doc appts, meds, pain specialist tillthe end of the year. January 2009, the state took away my medicaid, my caregiver, money for my meds, travelling availabilities, and I had to start all over again.



faithfuldove faithfuldove
46-50, F
30 Responses Mar 12, 2009

Wow..Thank u for sharing your so brave! Stay strong!

truly inspirational ...good luck dove.....

Admirable. In the worst conditions it seems that you still stay humble. Kudos to you and I hope everything works out for you. It's easier said then done, but a lot of people in your situation would have just gave up!! Keep the inspiration.

Bless your heart! you have already inspired me. I live alone with two twin sister cats! Rather they let me live and care for them! I have no friends, no support team, etc...I get it. Feel free to contact me anytime. I am so bored and it is devastating not having one friend to understand or talk to about daily issues.

I shall like to kill whoever slipped you the drug!

Hi .... a great friend of mine from work was involved in a bad car accident Dec. 25th and she is paralyzed from the shoulders down. A driver with no insurance ran a stop sign and t-boned the truck her and her husband were driving in. All of us at work are so concerned about her ... we dont get alot of information from the family. After 3 weeks at the 1st hospital she was airlifted to another state for rehab and such. We ( actually) dont really know how we can help. So I went to the web...typed: support groups and I found you. I read your story... how tragic... especially the part about the boyfriend... shame on him !! coward !! We dont know what to really do for her.. we dont know what she needs...we dont know what she can do or cant do.. I just felt like I needed to post something for you... I can tell the night of my web searching is going to be very over whelming to me.. I hope life gives you new opportunities.. we are together..or should be ... God Bless you.. Lynn

dear u ,,i have only just found your story,,,i only joined a few months back ,,,how are you coping now?? i have to know,,, did they find a culprit ???? please write and tell me will u ? love fran,,

I wish you every good thing, and hope the universe rewards you richly for all you had to lose. I am so impressed by your independence and the way you've bounced back. Things can only get better now. Thank you for sharing such a heartbreaking but uplifting story.

:'( you are so brave and strong, I'd like to think you are so much better now. And that Karma catches up with the scum bag that spiked your drink!

Wow, that's an amazing story. Thank you Dove for sharing it with us. You are so strong.

You survived that horrific accident because it wasn't your time to go yet. You have so much strength to have lived through all that you have. It's awfully unfair that the state has taken away what you now need to get by. I hope you are still able to fine happiness and good things in life. I wish you the best xxx

Oh my Word! Dove you are an amazing girl. Here I was, yet again, yelling at the sky and feeling sorry for myself because the newspaper deliverer had thrown the newpaper onto the stones and it had rolled down into the gutter where I cannot reach it and then I read about your harrowing experience and once again I am counting my blessing. Although I am sure you did not share your story just to stop me from wailing at the sky and feeling sorry for myself, you sure gave me a better persperctive-it's just a blooming newspaper not the end of the world. Thank you.

inspirational person with bravery in spite of such life changing experiences. i tip my hat to you. you are a legend!!!

faithfuldove,<br />
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One of my best friends became paralyzed from the waist down and with loss on mobility in his hands. He lives in rural Montana where there are a lot places that are not wheelchair accessible. He found a wonderful wife and the two of them built most of their home. They have two beautiful children and he's a happy and determined man. You sound just as determined as my friend. Hang in there.

I read this. I actually cried. <br />
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You are strong. I hope all is well for you.<br />
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hey, great story imma t12 para but your story is definately more severe than mine, but jus wanted ya know that you are tough and hope things are well, i had my accident may 5th of 06' when i was 17 if yad like to chat and share stories sometime my email is hope things have picked up and hope to hear from ya and good luck. : )

dove ,my prayers are with you but you know what god saved you ,please give the glory to god cause ,he did'nt have to save you but he ,did now you should give you're life to him ,who ever that person was that gave you something god will dill with him,their are so many cruel people in this world,it so cold and cruel out here,now is the time if you believe in god is ,to lean on him and not of you're own understanding cause see man a leave you as you see ,but not god ,he is a man of his word he is not a liar like man,when he promise you something you're going to receive that and more ,you will get you're insurance back you';re help also.just trust in the lord.

Some of us never get the chance of "starting over". ...You'v come a long way- but "life is never an arrival- it is a journey which has no end' in this life- nor the life (hereafter). "you are in the middle of growing". My guardian angel just told me your lesson involves the (uselessness of revenge). <br />
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Bottom-line involves; "letting go" & going forward from where you now are. You did nothing wrong- but what you learn from it writes your future from this point...<br />
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Iv had several paraplegic patients since 1972 that have amazed me with their own gumption to over-come the disease of "revenge"..."your on the right trail". The bitterness is only part of the medicine... :)

I was born , raised, and live n Michigan. I feel so bad that someone would drug you, and that the state would be so cruel to you! They have screwed me over too, long story! However, I am no where near in your condition. I hope that things can get better for you. You sure as heck deserve it!

wow so moving it makes you appreciate eferything you have

IF you have proof, that you were giving drugs in your drink, you more than likely have a workers compensation case. You can call an attorney and ask him over the phone, free of charge. He will also take your case on contingency.. You win he wins... You lose he gets nothing.<br />
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When you call the local social security office tell them you want to apply for Social Security Disability. You will get more money on disability than on SSI. It will take them about a year to make a decision... You will get back pay from the time you filed.... Which will be a big help to you. <br />
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IF you are entitled to Worker's comp for this injury, any bills you owe will be picked up by Insurance Carrier as well, so you won't have to worry about anything.,..But I strongly suggest to talk to an attorney, it costs you nothing. <br />
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Loved your Inspiring story.. Thank you for sharing.

I just read your story - thank you for sharing that with us. You are a strong determined lady - people roll over and give up for much less. <br />
You are an inspiration to us all....<br />
You mentioned you had a dog - is it a working dog? Its just that I have a Hearing dog, and thought we could swap stories :)<br />
Stay strong Dove<br />

You are so cool!<br />
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Perhaps you can be a member of a panel judges of what makes a paraplegic comfortable........i am sure your feedback will be so useful for making other patients'/elderly's life more comfortable.

I am in awe of your ability to cope with what you have been given. Your story puts petty problems into perspective. May you be blessed with help, love, and all that you need.

I too find your story very humbling and inspiring.<br />
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I look forward to reading lots of stories from you on EP

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your strength, courage, and positive attitude is an example for us all.

Awe thank you all so much for your kind words and inspirations. <br />
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my heart goes out to you...i also know someone who is also a paraplygic.i stayed with him for close to 10-years..and you know what i enjoyed every minute with him.

oh you are so lucky a person!<br />
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Congratulations for the ,strength' to come as far as you <br />
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have!<br />
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..You are a fighter! You have shown that by simply writing your story!<br />
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..You are an inspiration!

Wow, what a story!! I feel for you. If you ever want to write, I'm here...

You are one brave, couragous lady. I am so sorry that all of that happened to you. I know there is a reason for everything but it is sure hard to see why you would have to go through all that. Keep your chin up and just take one day and one obsticale at a time. I know you can do it because you already have. You inspire me. Take care and message me if you want. I'll answer as soon as I can. Hugs. Artisina