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I Am a Paternal Grandmother

Second Class Grandma

By: RecLucy
Written on December 26th, 2008

A Son is a Son Till He takes a wife.  That old saying seems to be so true.  My only grandchild is from my son and his wife.  They don't live near me, but do live near my Daught-in-law's rather large family.  I want to love my grandchild, and be a part of his life, but I feel like a second class grandmother due to the closeness of my son to his wife's family.

By: RecLucy
Age: 56-60
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  • Einiaho21
    Einiaho21

    Hi
    Yes, you hit the nail on the head
    With saying second-class Grandma. I feel the same. Nothing I do seems to be good enough. You are not alone, my friend, these girls need to know what they (actually their children) are missing out on. And I think our sons need to pull their heads out of the sand too. Hang in there.:)

    Dec 16, 2012
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    • RecLucy
      RecLucy

      I posted this 4 years ago. Since then I relocated to 3 miles away from my son and his family (and his wife's family is in the local area also). I am closer physically, but still get the same vibes. I guess it is just a fact of life that I will deal with. In the meantime, I try to concentrate on being there when needed and keeping my mind from dwelling on my perceptions. Huggs to you Elniaho21

      Dec 19, 2012
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  • RecLucy
    RecLucy

    how far away does your husband's family live? What kind of contact is attempted when they aren't physically there? What can they do to get closer to you and the kids?

    Dec 26, 2008
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  • MizzBlue72
    MizzBlue72

    Oh - I feel for you. This sounds like our situation. My hubby's parents never come to visit, or if they do, every couple of months drop in for 5 minutes here and there.



    My family is all here, and large. We spend a lot of time with them because hubby's parents do not come to visit.



    Sorry about this.

    Dec 26, 2008
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