Why Is Being A Prude Such A Big Deal?

I've had a lot of people judge me and say mean things to and about me for being a prude.
Why is it considered okay to be hypersexual but not okay to be prudish?
I can understand if i was someone who was holier than thou and tell people they should be prudish like me. I don't care if people make dirty jokes and talk about their encountersand such. I just don't want to participate or contribute to those conversations. Why is that so bad?
Yet there are always people telling prudish people they need to "get laid".
I just would like to know why people feel so threatened by prudish people and try to insult them.
Hydronica Hydronica
22-25, F
6 Responses Jun 12, 2011

I am the only person in my school who wants to wait until they are married to have sex, and i am often teased about it and made fun of. People tell me things like, "oh you don't understand, you're a virgin" and "sex is the best! how have you not had sex before?"
I'm also a self-proclaimed hormonal teenager who's really horny all the time. so it kinda sucks. But just be who you are, and remember that everyone develops a their own pace and does what they want when they are ready.

I wonder the same thing daily. It can be lonely having some semblance of moral belief. The best is when people learn I think sex should be for marriage in spite of not following any religion at all.

I hope it's not people in your family being mean about you being a prude...

OH WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am so glad i found you guys!!!! i hate the label prude as if it is a bad thing for us. i don't drink, smoke, curse, have tattoos, wear raunchy clothes, watch or read raunchy things. up until i was 32 years old, i never had my first kiss or a romantic relationship off the internet or went on dates. i got my first kiss and much much more by force when i was 32. i was physically and sexually abused every day for seven months. talk about a horror in romantic introductions. i am 34 and waiting for my first real kiss and real romantic experiences. i used to be teased for "being a prude" and people who weren't virgins would laugh at my ignorance of their sexual conversations and make fun of me for being a virgin. some people told me i am technically still a virgin because i haven't had sex willingly. either way, it is so refreshing emotionally to meet people who i know can relate to what i feel. i don't give people a hard time for their sexual expertise but i just ask that they not berate me for my sexual ignorance. so so nice to meet you guys. :)

You're not technically a virgin, you ARE a virgin. Remember that. I hope your first time is as magical as it should be. :)

thank you so much for that. awwwwww i wanna bear hug you! hug, hug. :)

I agree! You are a virgin. You are perfect the way you are. I don't understand why people have to make a big deal about it.

me too. :) discrimination against the sexually uneducated and sexually inexperienced is out there and needs to be dealt with. and thanks for the positive inspiration. bear hugs, big time, hydronica. :)

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I'm a prude but I don't care anymore. Never had a girlfriend, never had my first kiss, never been on a real date, and I never will. I've accepted my faith of being cold and alone for the rest of my life. And strangely, I'm sort've OK with that.

Me either, but I do want companionship. If you are okay with it then it's definitely not a bad thing

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being prude. Like being sexually enthusiastic, it is a personal choice. I too prefer to keep out of those types of conversation. It's rather lacking and tasteless in my opinion. I wouldn't let the insults bother me. Those who put down others are either very insecure with themselves or just don't know any better.

Yeah, I don't know why people judge me for that particular personal choice. I don't think it comes from insecurity I just think it's ignorance.