I Sooo Do Not Talk About My Sex Life

I am happily married, and obviously have sex since I have four kids, but I am not into sharing the details!  I'm going to leave it at this:  My husband and I love each other very much, we are very satisfied with one another, and not broadcasting the intimate details of our relationship brings us closer.  It's our secret. 
mj915 mj915
31-35, F
10 Responses Oct 25, 2007

You are so much like my wonderful wife of 47 years...The word demure was invented to describe her, in word, and deed. A lot has rubbed off on me, and to meet us, no one would imagine that when it comes to making love we are "ROCK STARS"......When people say "you two should get out more" we just smile.....I am sure she would scold me for this confession, but sometimes, I just have to let it out "I have a WONDERFUL SEXY wife"......

Right-o. I get that. I am just referring to me specifically. I think that a person who perhaps has never felt sexually exploited (obviously, I don't know if you or your wife have ever experienced that), might not have the difficulty that I do. Or, perhaps for someone else, it's just a matter of not being interested in being photographed. And for others, like you and your wife, it's just something that you do and that you're comfortable with. I wasn't trying to suggest that you would or do exploit your wife. I was just hypothesizing that perhaps my reticence comes from a past experience that really hurt me emotionally.

Here is a little morning chuckle for everyone....:)<br />
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When my son was an infant I very much wanted to stay home with him. Money was an issue so I took on another baby that was only 2 weeks older than he....was like having twins...LOL<br />
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Anyway...this family had loaned me their video camera to tape the two boys. I being young and dumb...didnt apparently know how to operate it properly.<br />
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Put the boys down for their nap and took my shower. Pranced my naked self through the living room on my way to get dressed.<br />
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Yep...you guessed it...the camera was still on and caught the entire parade!<br />
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Tina, the little boys mom brought the tape to me the next day and told me that she thought I might want to keep it...<br />
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I put it in the pla<x>yer expecting to watch our cute little babies....WOW...was I in for a surprise!!!<br />
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lol lol no kidding! Oh man. I probably would have laughed though.

Lexus....no way sweetie...lol the naked picture thing...it just isn't us. Even when totally and completely trashed I just wouldn't do it. I don't think that I'm ashamed of my body or ashamed of sex, au contrair, I think they are both beautiful. We do have pictures of me breastfeeding, but that is as close to a nude photo as I have or will ever get....well, maybe if I was in a bubble bath or something, but that's different. I'd consider the bubbles my clothes. I think perhaps private is a better way to describe me. I guess that I've just been called a prude before because I told a friend that I'd never pose for naked pics, and so I wore the mantle proudly. :) But, there are certain aspects of myself that make me think that perhaps it's more of a blurry line between privacy and prudishness. So perhaps I should just coin a new word and call myself slightly prudesque...<br />
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Spacenut, there are definitely "artistic nudes" that are beautiful. There is nothing sexually explicit about a good nude photo or painting....it's the idea of posing for sexually explicit photos that I have a problem with, because I would feel ob<x>jectified. Maybe it's deep seated in the fact that once a boyfriend tried to 'share' me and I had never felt so demeaned in my entire life. I trust my husband and I know that he'd never treat me as an ob<x>ject, but he agrees with me that sometimes crossing certain boundaries between the sacred and the divine and putting yourself into a potentially damaging situation is not worth the possible risk of our being emotionally harmed.

hmmm...still not thinking prude....shy perhaps...<br />
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what if you let him take them with a digital..just for fun...and then either deleted or you maintained control of the disk they are on?

LOL Oh man, you are so right, mapleman....if my husband saw this whole thread he would just be rolling around on the floor laughing his a$$ off. <br />
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Ok, so what do I have to do to earn my knickers with "prude" printed on them the way they used to put the days of the week on 'em.

lol Ok, so how about the fact that I'd never, ever, ever, ever even consider letting him take pictures of me naked. Now can I continue to call myself a prude, please, please, please!? Everyone is so free with their sexuality these days.....I prefer a lot of mystery.

That doesnt make you a prude at all...<br />
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...just private....

Especially not to people who I totally do not know. This is why I say I'm a prude.....I guess I'm just not like some people in that regard. It doesn't feel ok to me. I like knowing that my husband knows things about me that no one else in the entire world knows....and I like being able to trust that he keeps it between us.