Main Entry: prude
Etymology: French, good woman, prudish woman, short for prudefemme good woman, from Old French prode femme
: a person who is excessively or priggishly attentive to propriety or decorum; especially : a woman who shows or affects extreme modesty
That though isn’t how most of us use or understand the word. We consider a “prude” to be someone who is uptight and dare I say stingy and selfish with themselves and their physical body.
This posting is not at all aimed at the Mj915. She and her husband it appears to me communicate well and are merely respecting each others boundaries. I would NOT at all consider her to be a prude.
I do though see all the massive tons of stories on Ep and know of many personal friends who struggle in their marriages because of one or the other of them not being mindful of their partners’ physical and emotional needs.
I’m not going to quote scripture here…but will say that my understanding of the directive there is that our physical bodies in marriage are to be a gift given to our spouse for their enjoyment. Flip side of that is that the spouse receiving the gift is to love honor and cherish it. Not in any way harm…but rather protect and love.
A visual here that I’ve stated before to friends is this. You basically tie a big bow around yourself and give yourself to the one you love.
It’s about stretching at times and going outside our comfort zone for our spouse. For them it’s about not expecting too much, being thankful for what is given; and being willing to do the same for you.
Something as simple as while not preferring a particular sexual position…but doing it anyway on occasion simply because your spouse loves it. Not perhaps being in the mood but allowing your spouse to “convince you” because they are. Initiating sex. Being mindful not to leave the impression that your just doing it because you have to.
This is just my opinion based on the tons of conversations I have had with people…but I really feel that it is not about how many times a week. Its about the lack of a general sense of being wanted..of being desired…of being loved.
Women or men who are “prudes” in the bedroom I imagine have no clue the pain and insecurity they are causing in their spouses or significant others.