Getting Healthy After Miscarriage

I am on a personal journey to get healthy - driven by a terrible loss that I recently suffered.

I miscarried about 3 weeks ago, at 20 weeks of pregnancy. We went to the U/S to check on the baby's health and find out if we were having a boy or girl (I didn't care, I just cared that out baby was healthy).... unfortunately learned that our baby did not have a heartbeat, and had passed away. Both my husband and I were heartbroken. Over the next two weeks i had to deal with the hormonal adjustments, my body shifting to the non-pregnant state, along with the loss, which was terrible. I then had to return to my normal life, but that life no longer included my baby. What exactly is "normal"? My body was certainly NOT "normal", but I also don't have labor and a newborn as an excuse to let me slowly return to normal.

I don't know if I'll try to get pregnant again. But, I want to put my body in the healthiest position in can be in case we decide to. And, even if we don't, I want to feel like me again - not someone with 15 extra pounds, who's "recovering". For me, pregnancy is exhausting so I pretty much didn't work out for 15 weeks. Now, I'm trying to get back in shape, lose the extra pounds (5 to go) and just feel like me again. I run on the treadmill and lift weights, both of which I find so therapeutic. It is the only "me" time I have - alone with my thoughts, mind is focused, and nothing else to think about.

However, I've been struggling to lose these last pounds even though I've been cutting calories, tracking everything I eat, and now beginning to exercise. For me, the extra weight is nothing more than a daily taunt from mother nature to remind me of my loss... getting dressed is unpleasant, and I feel and look terrible. My baby's gone and there's nothing I can do to change that, but I want to change the way my body feels to at least recapture my life and my sanity. I want my control back.

Let me know if you have recommendations on how to get healthy again after a loss, and how to quickly lose those last few pounds while also getting back to an exercise routine. The sooner I can do so, the sooner I can resume life as me, and maybe even get back some sense of control over my body. Peace will be a longer journey, but I hope I can start here.
grnigrl grnigrl
36-40, F
2 Responses Feb 11, 2012

I am very sorry for your loss...I suffered the same years ago. I agree with MorningBreeze. Three weeks is an extremely short time, give yourself a break. I completely understand about wanting to throw yourself into something that will take up large amounts of effort and concentration...the relief that gives from the heartache is welcome, indeed. I applaud your choice of "obsessions", as it will serve you well in the future (getting a healthy weight is always a good thing ;-) ) Many, many people suffering a devastating loss choose much less healthy obsessions, further damaging their already bruised psyches.<br />
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Truthfully, the less "me time" you have, the "easier" it will be...too much "alone time" leaves too wide a margin in which the grief can run rampant and take hold. Kudos on your spirit and your determination! Warm wishes and fervent prayers for you and yours!!!!!!

I admire your inner strength. Very sorry for your loss. It's only been 3 wks since you miscarried, it will take you a few months for your body to balance out your hormones. It will be a roller coaster ride. You working out, staying postive ..hug... it will help to bring back the ...normal you. Blessings to you hon. Take care.