Me Myself And ISo I said I would do a write up on this and so I am....rather late.
One phrase on here I loathe is 'my wolf....' It's so second person. As though its a separate entity entirely. These are the common cause of your wolf being a separate entity.
1. Your a therian. Simply because the nature of a therian they are dual spirited.
2. You are a child and have not yet merged the two natures.
3. Your just down right full of crap.
One thing that is common on all wolf types is the fact we are dual natured. Wolf form, human form. It is easier to accept that when we are younger because we are more open to things. That's why most 'typically' wake up in their teens. As we become adults we merge the two to become one balanced being.
That being said here is the cautious stand point. If one does not learn to merge the two they become highly unstable. One aspect will try to triumph over the other. It creates an unbalance and identity crisis. If left unchecked it can and WILL drive a person mad. I know because I have seen it happen several times first hand. It's sad and ugly. Learn to accept it is who and what you are. Hard to do that when you keep identifying it separately.