Recovered Myself, Now It's A Friend's Turn.Hi all,
I've been an alcoholic for 2 years in my life untill I found the strength to recover, it took a couple of tries and quite some support from friends, but I did it.
Now a couple of years later I have befriended a girl who has been through a lot, just like me, we can really relate and she's kind (although shy), but she's not doing well in 'living on'.
She drinks a lot and I recognise a lot in her from myself when I abused alcohol like that, the only problem is: she uses the same excuses I did and is simply denying she has a problem.
I want to be a good friend, but it's also a bit frustrating and confronting.
Do any of you have advice on how to deal with this situation?
I'm worried about my friend and in secret, also that if our friendship continues to get closer (what can happen in time of course) her behavior might rub off on me again.
Alcoholism will always stick with you a little: I still cannot drink without strong social control (like: a social situation where it would be inappropriate to get drunk) or else I'll drink too much, I still have little control over that.
How can I be there for my friend who doesn't want to stop drinking (because she thinks drinking 2 bottles of liqor almost every day and sometimes drinking the hangover away again in the morning is "not having a problem, just making life easier"), without putting my own soberness at risk?
Thanks for thinking with me. :-)
Scarcollection 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 Jan 1, 2013