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4 Months Sober

I feel a lot better now.  I've quit drinking before (2 1/2 years) so I know I can't get too confident.  It is nice though to not be blowing all my money on alcohol and to never wake up hung-over or black out and not remember what I've done.
ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton 36-40, M 30 Responses Jun 5, 2007

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nice one, man - have you found a sponsor and a home meeting yet?

You can quit....you just have to find the right support and drive to do it.

Great!

Congratulations.

Coming to the end of Year Nine for me.

Life is fantastic.

Hang in there

great job...im at 2 weeks...and I am not feelin good

Congrats for the 14 sober miracles, illfuze1. Love n Hugs

Thanks!

illfuze1

That is 14 days more than you ever managed to stay sober previously, right?

Pretty damned good progress by my reckoning.

Hang in there.

If you don't like one, try another. Different strokes.. different folks...some crap like that.. AA works. Its a simple program of suggestions. When followed, along with a sponser you stand a much better chance of not picking up a drink today.<br />
If not for the grace of god, and the simplicity of AA, i have not had the desire to drink in 6 months. When I first came in, I listened...<br />
Stay strong!

Thank you for all your comments. I haven't been on EP in a long time so I apologize for not responding, particularly to those who are obviously struggling but hanging on. I have a difference with birthfather saying that the only thing needed to quit drinking is willpower. If willpower is all that's needed anybody could quit anytime. It takes a lot of work on yourself, getting away from your old pals who drink (which is hard when you have little or no other friends), finding meaning/spirituality in a life which for most was devoid of true meaning. It's a tough path but once you get through it there is a big-time payoff in that life gets easier in some ways, not all. If you're working you'll end up with more money than you had before, sometimes a lot more, more peace of mind, restful sleep, less guilt, etc. It's a battle to get there but with a very nice payoff. Of course there always has to be continuing work on yourself and your sobriety and helping others but that work comes to be more pleasurable in sobriety.

hi guys i guess being sober for three days doesn't count yet ha!!!! anyway i was not much of a during the week drinker.now that i have taken a decision to quitt.it Monday and i so want a drink it not even funny.god help to stay strong

Three days, three years, three decades -- it all counts.

Never let anyone tell you anything else.

You have consciously decided not to drink for three whole days.

That is a great start.

We are now several months later -- how are you?

I have been sober for 4 months sometimes i feel like going out and getting drunk. The point is i know it is hard but keep up the good work. I enjoy being sober

Today is 4 months for me as well. Alcohol has destroyed my life. I lost my wife, my children, my house and my job because I could not control my drinking. I couldn't take it any more and checked myself into a rehab center and it worked wonders. I have a sponsor now and it looks like I'll have a job by the end of the week. Me and my family are talking again and there are positive signs that we are going to be able to work things out. My biggest problem is speaking in these meetings and meeting new people. I agree with the comment about having cliques inside the groups and it can be frustrating. You have to force yourself outside your comfort level to have success. I'm not saying I am perfect, I am far from it. but I know if I keep working the program things will only get better. The best advice I was given was to "fake it until you make it". I hope you guys remain sober and God bless you all.

Today is 4 months for me as well. Alcohol has destroyed my life. I lost my wife, my children, my house and my job because I could not control my drinking. I couldn't take it any more and checked myself into a rehab center and it worked wonders. I have a sponsor now and it looks like I'll have a job by the end of the week. Me and my family are talking again and there are positive signs that we are going to be able to work things out. My biggest problem is speaking in these meetings and meeting new people. I agree with the comment about having cliques inside the groups and it can be frustrating. You have to force yourself outside your comfort level to have success. I'm not saying I am perfect, I am far from it. but I know if I keep working the program things will only get better. The best advice I was given was to "fake it until you make it". I hope you guys remain sober and God bless you all.

I wish I could quit. It's destroying my life. It's been very hard on me.

I wish I could quit. It's destroying my life. It's been very hard on me.

Yeah - usually people get into the spiritual solution a little later - day one is premature to worry about that - day one is just getting support from one or more people to make it through the 24 hours - the newbie is usually not in shape for metaphysics at that stage

Keep the faith! Pretty soon it will be so many months you wont be able to count them!

I have drank 4 occasions over the past four weeks, and am really trying to commit myself.....I am having a hard time sleeping, thus the reason i drank to let me sleep. However the days when I do sleep it is amazing the next day. Can anyone share stories in helping with the lack of sleep in beginning stages of quitting drinking?! Thanks

Power to you for quitting boozes.

Hey Kim100...I wish I would have gotten back to you sooner but I don't get on EP as often as I used to. I have quit drinking a number of times but this time it's been over 3 years. The first few weeks are very difficult and isolating is a common thing for a newly sober person to do. Going to meetings is a great way to get out of the house but be in a safe environment. It took me quitting a few times to realize that life has to change dramatically to really succeed in quitting. I had been told that I would have to get rid of all my drinking friends. I couldn't accept that but I found when I quit drinking they stopped wanting to hang out with me. Nobody would call me anymore which was heartbreaking but also revealing of the superficial nature of our relationships. It's not that I never say them again but I didn't enjoy being around them much anymore after I quit and they didn't wanna be around me much either. All this was unspoken but remained true. The first few weeks of quitting are crucial but it sounds like you are really doing great. Just keep going to meetings. Being at home by yourself and missing your friends will make you want to go out and drink even more. I know for myself that my life is 100X better than it was when I was still drinking. It took my over a year to feel that way though. It so pays off to quit drinking if you are an alcoholic but it is a battle that sometimes seems like it's not worth it. Just stick with it and your life will get better. It takes mucho mucho patience. Good luck to you and be safe.

Hi I am really new at all this I only stopped drinking last week, I went to my first AA meeting last night but didnt say much, it was a bit overwelming really, I have been keeping myself really busy and trying not to shop much to avaid the alcohol counters. Its really hard as most of my friends drink so I am staying in alot and that just makes me want to be out, its a lonely time, I know its only the second week, but if anyone can share how they did they first few weeks it would really help tanks

You're not expected to say much at the beginning - the old-timers used to say to newbies - go sit at the back and STFU lol - the world has got a lot softer since those days but just listening for awhile is good advice

Thank you very much....I am doing much better but staying sober is something that needs constant attention and action. I'm doing all I can to keep it up. One day at a time.

firstly i'd like to congratulate you, you can see this through to the end. you do have a strong character and i believe that you will do it. also i'd like to say that i can relate to feeling uncomforable around those people. a lot of people in my family have anxiety around people i know it isn't exactly the same in your situation but i get how your feeling anyway. well done, keep it up and take care of yourself, im sure your much happier now and you want to keep it that way!

I feel the same way about AA. I've been sober for 4 years now, but I haven't been to a meeting more than once a month in a while. I used to go daily or weekly, but I just felt very uncomfortable with those people.<br />
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Congratulations on your time, though, friend. :-) Whatever it takes, it'll be much better than what you were doing before!

Well I could be lying but I would only be lying to myself. If I can't be honest on EP I've got SERIOUS problems!!!

It's 6 months plus now BK Honey, you better believe it!!!

Congratulations, it's so easy to say just one more drink and tomorrow I'll quit, so I really commend you for going 4 months without it(if I believe you). I hate hang overs that's why I stick to the chronic. he he.

I am just starting this journey-- My toughest time is about 5 in the afternoon/evening. I have to find a way to distract myself. I think I will go upstairs and put on a meditation tape for a few minutes, and then read. I could use all the advice I can get!

I do have a sponsor and he's a good guy. He's been quite helpful. I just don't fit in well with the AA crowd. I feel like I'm in high-school again starting a school year at a new school. Everyone talks to each other and it's like a big clique. But they don't do what they say they do in the meetings which is talk to new people and make them feel welcome, try to be their friend. I feel isolated when I go to those meetings and I don't like to feel that way. I'm working through my sobriety and taking steps in my life to try to make sure I stay sober this time. Thanks for your comments :-) Celainn that is a good idea to give rewards in the forum for months sober. Thanks ya'll!

I'm trying, I'm over 6 months sober now and feeling pretty good. I have found a couple of new friends/aquaintances recently so things are looking a little better. Thanks for the encouragement Celainn. You are awesome!!

Thanks I appreciate your comments. One of the problems I'm having is finding people I can relate too. I haven't done well with AA meetings. I think it takes a certain type of person, one who likes to talk in big groups, to do well in AA. I've learned a lot by going to meetings but it's really not for me. But I'm still hanging around people that are drinking pretty often. I really need to find some new friends but it's difficult.

Keep the good work up, i come from a family of alcoholics and it is a family disease in many ways,it destroys your health as well as your relationships, seek a good group that can relate to you. again take it one hour at a time and remember the serenity prayer, lord grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot , courage to change the things i can and WISDOM to know the difference. Be strong you can do it

i leave for rehab today, and am terrified. my husband thinks its merely a case of self control.... is he right?

stay strong with it and keep up the good work. it can't be an easy feat but i'm sure you can do it. your character speaks loudly and i can tell you're a strong willed person whether you realize it or not!