The Holidays -ugh...

    Well, guys, it's that ole' time of the year again - "the holidays".  It is a huge trigger for me, as well as for many others, I imagine.  Holiday parties abound; booze ads are everywhere, and people like you and me struggle to get through it all, with our sanity, and sobriety still in tact.  For me, personally, it is not just the holidays, it is also the onset of winter.  Although I love winter, and eagerly await for the first flakes of snow to fall each year - the long, dark, cold nights of New England can try even the stoutest of souls.  To make matters worse, I live in a town that once held the GB of World Records, record for the most pubs per square mile!  ( No ****! )  So, just curious...  Are you affected by the holidays?  How do you get through this time of year? 
JusDifferent JusDifferent
41-45, F
2 Responses Nov 24, 2007

Make many AA meetings, make a list daily of reasons/facts why I can't drink, why I won't -what happens when I drank( crisis list) n why others are different from me n instead of drinking parties go to parties of recovering alcholics. Then express my gratitude before going to sleep.
That's how I do it.
Wish you all success n sober holidays
Love n Hugs

For me a bar is just another building among many on a street. Another business...which is none of my business and so I move on like when i go past the beer and wine in a grocery store. Today I can look at a can of beer or a glass of alcohol and it holds no meaning for me today. However I do remember what alcohol did and where it led and I never want to go back there...ever. Yes there's loads of dysfunctional craziness going on during the holidays but again that's none of my business either. I find myself doing other things during the holidays that make ME happy. My gratitude and integrity keeps me more than "sober" and I'm grateful for those Christmas gifts. I belong to GOD Great One Doing. Doing for me what I cannot do for myself and I LOVE the holidays a time of giving and gratitude for gifts received like those spiritual promises. As the result of the steps I learned that I am an incarnated angel with a sense of responsibility toward other unawakened newcomer alcoholics that cannot protect themselves. YOU were once like them with no ability to own your own YES and own NO. One day when YOU can do that for yourself you will be able to help yourself and others;<br />
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Two monks, going to a neighboring monastery, walked side by side in silence. They arrived at a river they had to cross. That season, waters were higher than usual. On the bank, a young woman was hesitating and asked the younger of the two monks for help. He exclaimed, 'Don't you see that I am a monk, that I took a vow of chastity?''<br />
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I require nothing from you that could impede your vow, but simply to help me to cross the river,' replied the young woman with a little smile.'I...not...I nothing for you,' said the embarrassed young monk.'It doesn't matter,' said the elderly monk. 'Climb on my back and we will cross together.'<br />
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Having reached the other bank, the old monk put down the young woman who, in return, thanked him with a broad smile. She left her side and both monks continued their route in silence. Close to the monastery, the young monk could not stand it anymore and said, 'You shouldn't have carried that person on your back. It's against our rules.''This young woman needed help and I put her down on the other bank. You didn't carry her at all, but she is still on your back,' replied the older monk.