26 Year Marriage Ending / 22 Yr Old Still Not Employed And An Addict

I am just now entering into a divorce after 26 years of marriage.  I am codependent and have made many unhealthy decisions as a result.  It is funny how the pendulum swings where you know your partner has a drinking problem - you threaten divorce - they stop drinking and you start.  Who is the unhealthy one now?  Years of emotional abuse and anger and verbal attacks on the children.  I am just now realizing my issues and unhappiness at 50!!   Why did it take so long to wake up?  So many regrets but the rest of my life to get healthy and enter into another relationship that offers peace and consistency.  I am done with drama and trying to pick up everyones pieces!!  I hope that this website can help me on my path to healthiness!!!!  
afterwoz afterwoz
2 Responses Nov 12, 2011

Myself as well, i left my wife 3to weeks ago and i have so much insecurity going on. I joined a great church and asked the lord to come into ny heart and asked him for forgiveness. It has helped so much. I learned when you do not have your relationship with God, your mental health, and physical health in sync then all the pain gets overwhelming.

Well i am proud that i am working on that aggressively. I just still have to deal with going to the wife and acknowledge my wrongs on our relationship and then i am off on a new and scary time in my life.

Please consider reaching out for god and a good psychologist to guide you. Its achievable and in your post your voice allready speaks stronger than mine with confidence. Good luck and God bless.

Afterwoz, I hope this message finds you happy and healthy. I hope that the drama has taken a backseat and let you drive your own life.<br />
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