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I'm Just Too Damn Nice!!

Hi, I am a fifty nine year old divorced female living in central New York. I have 2 adult children living in MA. I have known my whole life that I am codependent. I grew up with an alcoholic father and extremely depressed mother. (She died at age 55 while I was pregnant with my first child.)
My frustration now is that I recognize that I am too nice, too concerned about everyone else's happiness and I don't know how to stop!! I went to alanon for a number of years, but then I took on all THEIR issues!! I am just looking for guidance once again!!.
dleone1216 dleone1216 56-60 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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I know its a hard thing to do, but I have found that real recovery means learning to love yourself and learning to set boundaries-but not becoming selfish and cynical. I had to learn these things. I am still a loving, compassionate person, but I have developed self-worth.

Don't stop being kind or nice. Just learn to be good to yourself as well.