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I Am Not A Nurse

i am somesh ,i have girlfriend who is a nurse .problem is that she use to clean penis and wash male patient as well .when i hear about it i fell something bad because i love her very much .everytime in my mind all these things coming very clearly that she is holding someone penis and washing it i can not imagine .now i am not in my mind ,mentally disturbed i do not know what to do 
someshreshma someshreshma 22-25, M 14 Responses Dec 16, 2010

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<p>I had a girlfriend who washed penises all day. It didn't bother me because the way I would handle it is just jerk off. I would think about and jerk off dude. Then you will get so turned on when you think about it again it won't have any effect on you...it takes the edge off. Well, for me it did. Eventually I stopped thinking about it because I stroked the chicken so much. So just a suggestion put it in another category in your mind. It had made me feel funny when I used to think about my girl seeing another ****. Now, my new girlfriend is very freaky and loves watching *****..I love it now. But it used to bother me before but now it doesn't. ******* it cures the uneasy feelings.</p>

I am a registered nurse and yes this is part of our job. For me that is exactly what is is just part of the job. There is no extra consideration I give to this other than maintaining the patients dignity. Don't worry guys they are just patients nothing more. For me the only penis I want to see belongs to the man I love, he is the one who can turn me on, the one who loves me he is the one I want to touch. Cleaning patients takes getting used to, and thankfully gloves, being with the man you want is the exact opposite. Your feelings are normal but you have nothing to worry about. I hope this helps

thanks for the response , I still for a daft reason can\'t get over it , I am now on anti depressants and seeking counselling . always thought I was a strong guy ,now I am the opposite .

I'm going through the same , my partner changed her job and failed to tell me she washed men's penis , I'm not sure I can handle it. Maybe its weak but I feel betrayed .

My wife used to have to help patients get clean. It IS just a job. she loved her job, and helping people, and the only reason she's not in the field anymore is that the place she worked closed down, and she wanted to be a stay at home mom like both of our mothers were. When the kids are all grown and if she wants to go back to work, I will support her no matter what she wants to do

My wife used to have to help patients get clean. It IS just a job. she loved her job, and helping people, and the only reason she's not in the field anymore is that the place she worked closed down, and she wanted to be a stay at home mom like both of our mothers were. When the kids are all grown and if she wants to go back to work, I will support her no matter what she wants to do

This is ridiculous. It's part of the job. It's nothing sexual. Feel good that your 'other half' has a good job and is doing 'a good thing' for someone who needs help. You should honor her for what she does. When she comes home from work, make her dinner, massage her, and draw her up a bath. Treat her like a queen. She puts people first all day. Be a good man, understand her job is for a good cause, and enjoy her company. Make her feel good and she will, too, in return, do the same for you. Jealousy is a nasty thing, especially when someone is being irrational about the circumstance. Good luck!

**** you. You have no idea what the partner goes through imagining their wife cleaning another guy's **** and balls. Even if it's not sexual to the wife, how in the hell is the husband/boyfriend supposed to cope with that? "Hi honey. You know how you told me to let you know if I had to wash a guys **** and balls? Well, I did three today. Have a nice day," It KILLS guys to think about this.

Yes SOMESH I feel the same.....It is very painful and tiring ...I am going through the same thing. My wife is a patient care assistant who has to cleanse penis as well. sHE LOVES HER JOB AND THAT ONLY ADDS TO MY AGONY. I feel like "I am staying pure by only touching my wife's body and private parts and no one else's but she is touching and holding so many penises of different shapes and sizes and loving her job "...I know they also enjoy talking about it with their fellow nursing assistants....It has affected our sex life because she doesn't get excited by nudity and penis anymore...Furthermore, It is immoral and unethical.....Male nurses should only wash male patients and female nurses should wash only female patients...that would solve this problem...Ofcourse they r only doing their job but so r the sex workers too...it's up to us what we must and must not do to heart our loved ones !!!!!!!!<br />
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Yes SOMESH I feel the same...I am heartbroken..It is very painful and tiring ...I am going through the same thing. My wife is a patient care assistant who has to cleanse penis as well. Initially she told me she doesn't have to do anything like that but later I found out from the Internet and other people that washing private parts was part nof her job..I feel cheated....Had I known this beforehand, I wouldn't have allowed her to change her job to PCA...SHE LOVES HER JOB AND THAT ONLY ADDS TO MY AGONY. I feel like "I am staying pure by only touching my wife's body and private parts and no one else's but she is touching and holding so many penises of different shapes and sizes and loving her job "...I know they also enjoy talking about it with their fellow nursing assistants....It has affected our sex life because she doesn't get excited by nudity and penis anymore...Furthermore, It is immoral and unethical.....Male nurses should only wash male patients and female nurses should wash only female patients...that would solve this problem...Ofcourse they r only doing their job but so r the sex workers too...it's up to us what we must and must not do to hurt our loved ones !!!!!!!!<br />
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My first reaction is to yell at you and call you an idiot for even thinking this but I think you already know that. As others have stated, she isn't giving the guy a *******, it isn't sexual at all. She is performing a necessary function of daily living to ensure her patient does not have problems later on. Now in your culture it may be improper for a young woman to touch the penis of another man but I'm sure that they give waivers to people who are doing so for medical reasons. If you are grossed out by it think of how she feels! It isn't something she is looking forward to, I guarantee you that. I wonder if you are worried about the size of your penis, in all sincerity. Do you feel if she sees another man she will judge you? If a man is incapable of cleaning his penis, he most likely cannot have an erection either so she would not even really know what his erect penis would look like. She also does not think about her patient's penises either when making love to you. If you make it a big deal you are only going to hurt her which will in turn hurt you because your relationship will suffer. She only touches the penises of patients who cannot help themselves. Put yourself in their shoes, if you were incapable of cleaning your penis how embarrassed would you be? Also knowing the scrutiny young women are put under in your culture, how bad would that man feel that she is placed in an uncomfortable relationship? Be more understanding to your partner, if you really can't be and you are going to mistreat her for doing her job then you should find a new woman who doesn't have to wash people up. Set her free from the guilt you are giving her for being a good person and doing her job. That isn't fair or right.

Dude... if you can't handle it, find yourself a different girlfriend. It's a job, dumbass.

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I understand your pain. I felt this way too believe it or not. Your feelings are valid and I know that this is causing some stress in your life. I can assure you it is not a sexual thing though it is sometimes hard to see that if you don't have any training in that area. She doesn't feel the same way touching her patients as she would touching you. In fact, most of the medical folks I know (including my wife who is an RN) feel a distance from the procedure(s) and are more focused on maintaining a sterile field (if necessary) or just getting it done.<br />
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It is important to realize that she is really only going to clean those areas for people (male and female) that can't do it themselves and she isn't going to take any more time than is necessary. They are in the hospital because they are sick and honestly, nearly 100% of them (male and female) would really rather do it for themselves. If the patient is well enough, they can clean that area themselves.<br />
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I agree that jealousy is "ugly" but the reality is that everyone, put in the right situation, would feel jealousy. It is a common human response to certain situations. You need to focus on the facts and don't let your mind mull over all the "what-if" scenarios that are probably what are bothering you the most.<br />
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Ultimately, if you can work it out and gain peace inside then I would be very happy for you. If you can''t get past it then you might want to consider spending some time apart to figure things out. If that doesn't work out then I would consider moving on to a different relationship as it sounds like it would create a very stressful life for you.<br />
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Best wishes.

I have had to clean many vaginas . Trust me on this . There is nothing sexual about it .It needs doing and I am a RN . It is for the patients good . You realy can't lookat it that way . Your girls is helping someone who can't help themselves.

Jealousy is ugly. Unreasonable jealousy is immature and ugly. Be grateful that you are with someone who cares for other people, and who has the sort of heart that wants to give to others. You are blessed to be with such a caring person. It's no different that touching cash for a teller or food for a waitress. She is doing her job. Get control of your control problems because there is no positive outcome to you feeling this way.

well its her job some one has to do it that does not mean she doesnt love you some times ppl have to put aside their fellings and wonder how ur partner feels about it