How To Date A Scorpio/taurus/gemini/aries... The Dangers Of Astrology.You want to know how to date any of the above signs? The answer is simple. JUST BE YOURSELF.
Just be yourself would be my advice for any man/woman wanting to be in a relationship. Though it is good to understand how someone functions, I think it also important to maintain your own character and individuality throughout a relationship. These topics, "how to date a scorpio/libra/taurus etc", can mistakenly cause the reader to start changing themselves inorder to win the affection of the desired target. This is similar to manipulation. You are taking what you know about someone, changing your character accordingly and essentially deceiving someone into believing that you are something that you're not. You turn into a chameleon. And though this may work for a while, you have to ask yourself. "How long can I keep this up?"
I am ashamed to say I tried this. It seemed to work as I seemed to understand the person I was dealing with. I was not trying to take advantage of the person. No, I genuinely cared for this individual... Okay I'll be honest, I WANTED HER and I was gonna have her, even if it meant changing my persona. So I started to change colour like a chameleon, learning her likes and dislikes. I catered to this persons needs so much that I ended up losing myself, not being me, doing things I normally wouldn't do, and I was getting really frustrated doing this. Long story short I couldn't keep this up. I couldn't force myself to carry on pretending knowing that the things she did bugged me tremendously but I could not complain because I knew this was part of who she was. I learned a valuable lesson then. If you can't be yourself with someone, friend or lover, you are best going in seperate ways. Compromise is expected in every relationship, but not so much where your character is concerned.
The biggest and most important lesson that I learned was this. SOME PEOPLE JUST AREN'T COMPATIBLE. So if you find yourself having to sensor your emotions, your desires, your wants and needs you're in trouble. I know I'm possessive, it is part of my nature. But guess what? There are women out there who love the feeling of being possesed, not controlled, there is a difference. I am aggressive, possibly even dominant. There are women out there who looooove to feel dominated or to be aggressively pursued. Hey, I don't understand it myself, all I know is, the world is far too big a place to be settling for someone who cannot appreciate you for who you are. Who you have to change your character for in order to make them happy.
I do not deny that our character and behaviour can get out of control, a balance needs to be struck in some areas. But to ask someone to stop being a certain way, to pretend to be someway inclined, to hide one's true character just to ensnare another...??? Well that's down right sinister, borderline evil.
I actually never used to believe in astrology, but looking at my own character analysis I can conclude that some of it is uncannily accurate so I believe there is something to be said about it's authenticity. I would use it to learn about myself and maybe even use it to understand my partner, someone I am already in love with and someone that loves me for me. We could learn about each other and grow together. But I WOULD NOT use it to learn about someone that does not love me. Someone I would like to trap, trick or persuade by ungainly means. I would not use it this way. I would certainly not use it as a means to select a partner because ultimately, people are different. You could end up rejecting a genuinely good person because you THINK you know them. After all, you read their horoscope right? "Oh those scorpios are terrible. All they think about is sex, sex, SEX..." That is not wholy true :-) We also want money, power and control. Haha... You get my meaning? People are much more than horoscopes.
There is also the added danger in that you could focus so much on your astrological sign that you forget to work on your flaws. You can actually begin to claim some of the said weaknesses in your sign. Thus "settling" for the attitude that says, "That's just who I am, you can either take it or leave it..." Whereas you need to listen when people point out a perceived weakness in you, assess their assertions and evaluate whether you are willing to make the change or not. You CAN change certain aspects of your character. I know I tend to get jealous, sometimes even unreasonably so, but that does not mean that I have to succumb to that jealousy. I have to keep it in check, and with enough practise, the jealousy is manageable. I have often told my lovers, "I can and probably will get jealous at some point, if this ever gets too much for you, please let me know and I will do my best to control this urge..." Needless to say it is not always smooth sailing, but it's a start.
Anyway, my point was and is this. Don't let horoscopes be your guide to selecting a mate. Let it be a tool to understand but not to manipulate.
I hope that made sense.
Scorpio1987 22-25, M 8 Responses 7 Apr 10, 2012