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A Scorpio Man's Advice to Anyone Who Mates With a Scorpio

I am a Scorpio man in all areas. My wife calls me the perfect definition of a Scorpio. Strongwilled, intelligent, passionet and domineering.  Heh, she also says I am the apotome of an Alpha Male. There is another side to being a Scorpio as well, faithfull, spiritual, loving, great Father to my kids, musically inclined, creative and yes, sometimes dark.

We will save the physical aspect (SEX LIFE)  of a Scorpio for some other occasion.

We Scorpio's tend to mate for life, and during that time, our spouses KNOW that they are the center of our universe. Their appreciation of us feeds our already capracious egos, making them indespensible to us. As a result, we tend to turn all of our attention and passion  on our spouses , which can be a bit intimidating at first for them. The fire of a Scorpio's passion burns hotly indeed. Many women have felt scorched by the flames of a Scorpio, only to come back for more, because intensity like that is addicting.

Where some people say that Scorpios are "domineering", I say that we are passionet.

Now, for the downside of the equation...With passion comes an innate sensitivity to the other person. You're every mood, feelings, appeareance, facial expression, everything, we notice.  We have been accused of being vindictive, of harboring Machavillian intent,,,,Ok, I'll give them that one, but... with a provision. Exuding that passion, caring and loving someone as much as we do. comes at a very dear price to a Scorpio. We invest heavily in the person we love That person becomes an extention of our highest ideals and values . People seem to think that just because we are so confident and domineering (justifiably so of course) that we also dont have feelings. And there in is our downfall.

It's impossible for a Scorpio to invest so heavily in passion, and in love, of our spouse  without having to pay the price of that Passion. When we get hurt, and we actually do, our response is either flames (anger, yelling, acting out) or, much much MUCH worse, Ice.

Have you ever been swimming in nice warm waters, on a beautiful day, with the shore close by, feeling safe and secure, and maybe a little buzzed from some afternoon wine,  when all of a sudden, the water becomes ice cold, clouds cover the sun, and the temperature drops 40 degrees in an instant, and you feel cold clammy things pulling at your feet? Thats what it feels like when a Scorpio shuts you out.

To protect ourselves (and we will, the statement from Douglas Adams comes to mind..."if there is an ego out there greater than mine, I want it found, shot, cut up into little pieces, resurrected, set on fire, and shot again"), we build a shell around us. Passion and fire comes at a heavy price, to us, a very heavy price indeed, and, to protect ourselves, we freeze our spouse. Sorry, I know it doesn't reflect well on us, but its true. Just ask any Scorpio spouse.

In conclusion, to love a Scorpio requires an abdgenation of self. The rewards however, are for you to decide.


ps Heh, trust me, it is totally worth it



When I first wrote this in October of '08, I never thought it would reach so many people in so many ways nor did I imagine that it would be interpreted in so many ways. For the most part the comments have been very positive with most people being able to balance the good parts with the...less than good parts. Some even chose to write essays on their love life which is like going up to a Great White Shark in the ocean and suggesting he try eating kelp for a change. All in all, I have been very pleased with the input from all here. To those who only seem to be able to focus on the negative, Allow me to give you a little background on being me and the heart of a Scorpio man.

I tried relationships until I was in my mid twenties when I found the woman I was supposed to marry. I had just moved to the Washington DC area from Denver where I had been a welder with a degree in computer programming.At the time, I was more interested in working with "things that were real and had substance". Shortly after arriving in Washington, all my gear was stolen and I had to resort to my wits to get by. I became a very successful street vendor selling hot french stuffed rolls and hot coffee. This role helped force me out of my self because the more outrageously I flirted with the clientele or talked finance with the businessmen passing buy, the more I prospered.

I had been working this area of town by "K" street when I saw her. One look was all it took for took another two months before she would go out with me. Three years later we were married, three years after that we became parents. During that six year period, we loved, fought, quit smoking, quit drinking/partying. We also learned how to fight fairly. If I have any real advice for everyone out there, and it does not pertain just to Scorpios, is to learn how to argue. It tends to drop arguments by 90% simply because most arguments are circular and never progress outside that circle. See a professional about this please.

Having a baby in the house changes everything in your life. It's one of those, if you haven't experienced it, no words will suffice, and if you have experienced it, no words are needed. Your entire focus is on that little person that was created as a conscience act of love. Life as we had known it went completely out the window. Like many parents, we went through child raising courses throwing away the garbage and keeping what was valuable. Heh, during one of the courses, I innocently asked the instructor, "Yes but after feeding and changing the baby, what do you actually DO with them"? I figured that one out pretty quickly and haven't been the same since. There is something so honest and pure about looking into the eyes of a child, and seeing the unqualified love flow right back at you......Women, never use getting pregnant to keep a Scorpio man. We will feel cheated. We will love the baby forever, but we also recognize the dishonesty that you used to "keep" us and will despise you forever for it. 

Four years after our first baby was born, things had settled down, we felt we were ready for another one. There were some difficulties during the pregnancy with Doctors telling me privately that ALL women complain about pain when they are pregnant. Well, that said, 5 days after our second daughter was born my wife was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. That diagnosis changed everything. Suddenly I was the one swimming in the ice cold lake with rubbery things trying to pull me down. Here I was a thirty-five year old man with a newborn and a four year old that I absolutely adored, and the love of my life given a death sentence of six months or less.

It really wasn't much of a choice. I could shut her out and prepare for a life without her, just me and the girls, or, I could throw all my love and passion into....not so much keeping her alive, I had already accepted the reality of her death, but rather making her remaining days helping her deal with her situation, and letting her know that we were married "until death do us part" It took three years instead of six months, and the beauty of what we went through at that time outweighed the horror of what we were going through. Her parents were very supportive during this time, really very good Christian people. Their daughter was dying, and you are never supposed to have to bury your children.

A few days before she passed, we were talking about having all the arrangements that has been set up. After going through everything I said there was just one thing..what did she want to be buried in. Her response brought me to my knees, "I want to be buried in my wedding dress, so that when you pass away I will be dressed to marry you again" 

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hi! your life story is really touching...may ur wife rest in peace, n may Almighty grant you with her eternal companionship..amen! i want serious help from you as you are a mature man+a mature scorpio. PLEASE HELP ME SAVE OUR RELATION! m a virgo woman being in a very serious relationship with my scorpio man from 5+ years...been through huge ups n downs, he and i connected on a spiritual level...he was so young,21, when he proposed me, waited for more than a year for my answer.loved whole heartedly, n i fell hard for him.when i agreed for marriage, his mother wudnt accept me, and he cant marry me without his family's consent.slowly he became more serious and short tempered, we used to fight alot in the start, as time passed, we fight less and more severe, but after every fight i always felt more and more connected.he has a habit of avoiding me during all that period, always insults me very badly n later when i confront him, he says it was anger. gifted me alot in start but has stopped gifting me that much now...he has issues because of her mother, and now its ALWAYS me who has to ask out...he is happy n connected while be with me, but always try to avoid seeing me ar calling me....never had sex because of religious restrictions, n he understands that also, but enjoys n sometimes forces me into some intimate acts which we both repent later... i am soooo much into him that i starve for his voice n his time, n he always gets angry about this, we had a row after me complaining and insulting him about this, since then he is constantly insulting on my apology after apology and has said that he doesnt love me anymore, he was just keeping his words from 3 years(its a lie cz before 2 yearz he was fighting his mother for me) asked me to marry somebody else. he KNOWS how much i am into him, and cant survive this but still. now he has stopped replying me at all.... i am soooo much in pain n confuse about his acts, its umpteenth time he has crashed my self respect by calling me ugly n useless n wh----ore n what not... what shall i do??? any suggestions??? he says he never loved me, it was just a childish crush he had, but crushes cant last for yearzzzzz....or am i being wrong??? i just want to know whats inside his head. i always encourage him for his family's pressure, he asked me to wait until they agree and i am doing that from 5 yearz. now what,is he just being angry and tense because of his family not letting us get married or is he giving up really????? can he marry somebody else after sharing all of him with me??? i cant! what shall i do??? please DO HELP ME! PLEASE SIR!

that last sentence was absolutely beautiful.. i do wish you the very best and I bet you'll see her again :)

this is a story about marriage and widowhood but it's kind of a funny one.. my adopted mom was married x2 before meeting my dad.. the first one hit her often, the 2nd one cheated on her with every woman that would let him, then threw her and their kids out of their house to move in a woman he wanted.. (who decades later threw him out of the same house and moved another man in lol) then she met my dad.. my dad and her were together for 39 years.. when he passed away in 2010 our whole family was together.. including my sister nina with her daughter rosa :) rosa was about 5 years old at the time.. she was listening to my mom talk about her past marriages.. and she scrunched her face deep in thought.. then asked.. grandma.. so.. when you die? do you stay married? and mom laughed and said yes honey.. rosa went back to deep thoughts then said.. so??? when you die your going to have three husbands??? :D

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OMG that sent a shiver up my spine x

I'm a cancer n my fiance is a scorpio july 27th we will be together for a year... Yes we moved a lil fast but it was love a first site... Everything was perfact till he went to of town for work n i made the mistake n went to my exs house n didn't tell him n he found out threw my fb i left up one his phone... I almost lost him that night but he gave me another change... He hangs it over my head though... But then a couple of weeks ago his sis needed a ride n i gave her one n I took her bu a guys house n instead of staying in the car n waiting for her i went in... That caused more problems... Now all i hear is where did u go? who were who with? Who was all there? Your lying? Who are u sleeping with? All i want is for him to trust me again n for him to stop downing me n but now he is looking for a reason n waiting for me to mess up again... Can you help me???

I've never cheated on him. I am fully committed n loyal n i don't know how to prove it to him

Beautiful story. I was searching the net to figure out how to get a Scorpio man back to the sweet side. I'm a Pisces and also a recovering alcoholic. This Scorpio man approached me three years when I was taken. He said his first time seeing me he fell in love with my beauty and energy. Well he came back around during the detox phase from my horrible relationship. I was a horrible drunk spiral downward. He stepped in to help me get better but me being drunk everyday didn't take advantage of it. He would visit me at world, compliment me, make love to me, do whatever he can to help me and I in his word "sh!+=d" on his help. Once I began to get help and became more sober I began to fall hard for him. We considered each others soul mates. He was the first man that ever mentioned marriage to me and my heart dropped. I wanted him more and more. But by this time he was backing away because I was pushing him away with my bad habits. He seemed controlling after a while. Wanted to know where I was, who I was with, who I've been talking too, etc. Keep in mind we were never in a relationship and all this started back in October 2013. He mentioned wanting to change my look, what I wore, how I had my hair where I hung out, etc. He hated all my friends, Co workers, and family. He didn't think any of them were good for me and that they were the reason I was so damaged and began a drunk. He wanted me to hang and be with him. He would tell me all the time how no one else cares about me but he does. Tell me how all he wants is for me to get help and get better and how perfect I was for him when I was sober. I love him so much even though everyone I know hates him and he hates them. I've been sober since March 2014. I've relapsed 5 times since then. That burned his soul up. He would tell me I'm nothing but a damaged, coward, emotionally needy, attention wh○? €, with low self esteem a victim mentality. I'd hear this daily. Yet he would still say he wants me to get help and that just because I'm his soul mate doesn't mean we will be together. He mentioned he always want me but I need help. He told me he was going to erase me out of his life and I went crazy and he sent me to jail. He then decided not press charges. So I'm out and he's still saying how he wants to help me and continues to contact me. But not like before. He's just nosey about what I'm doing who I'm doing it with and if I'm drinking. He believes nothing I say and I feel like he doesn't see my improvement. I caught both ends of the scorpio. And during the process I fell in love. The way he reacted to me was like no other. I may sound crazy for wanting him still but I do. I just don't know how to not contact him. He wants me to better my life and I just want him in my life
Along side me while I get better.
Sorry I typed so much

Keep coming back, it works if you work it. As you gain strength through your recovery he may see this growth in you and respond positively. You know the things you need to do and the steps you need to follow. Give it time and keep working the program. Good luck to you

Thank you.

i have lot of queries, kindly send ur email ID, i wanna talk in detail. hubby is scorpio make matters worse I am an arien...we"ve been fighting all through our first date, courtship, marriage, pregnancy, baby, phew!!...Jus wanna stop fighting now...I am a psychiatrist and so is he...LOL...but i just felt lyk surfing the internet to kno if i can find a solution to this your story, really touching...god bless your wifes'

Hello, I am a Aquarian/piscean woman who is dating a Scorpio man who happens to be younger than me. We've been together for almost 2 yrs and have been fighting a lot recently and I'm just at my wits end on how to communicate my concerns or issues with him without him getting defensive or completely shutting down from me. Thus my search and read your story - which is truly heartfelt!

Would truly love some guidance on the best ways to communicate with a Scorpio man.

Your thoughts are greatly appreciated!

well trying to figure a scorpio man and aha GOOGLE. lol. Your story is so sad.. but your wife will guide you from beyond. Just let her. Such a beautiful story. I like his qualities and am trying to understand him. I know he has to be the boss, I am a Leo.You sound like you have the same qualities as him. My heart and prayers go out to you.

<p>Your insite was inlightening. Im married to a scorpio man. We have been together almost 8 years. I haven't cheated on him or anything like that but when we argue im super nasty. My mouth has hurt him one to many times. I so sorry but not sure how to express myself. Dont want to push him further away. I'm a virgo and im usually thinking about winning. Not necessary thinking how bad I sound or how deep I go. My husband has expressed that he is no longer in love with me but loves me still. I too am not in love like I once was. I do love him and DON'T WANT TO LOOSE him. I need him, he is my greatest supporter since my Father. We use to be best friend and i miss him so much. I've never loved a man like this before. We share 5 children and 3 together. He has talk about divorce and/or a seperation. I dont want either. But he has agreed to try once again. I Just want to fix it with him and most of all make him happy again.. Can't eat, can't sleep. Sick!! Please help me if you can.</p>

I posted this on my main post "Learn How To Fight", You said yourself, you don't care what you say as long as you win. If you keep on the path you are going, you are going to be one lonely woman.

Am in a relationship with a Scorpio man, like no other relationship I've ever had. He's unique, complicated, soulful, passionately moral yet dances to his own tune. Has pushed me to the absolute limit many times, has brought me to the edge and forced me to look at myself and life without my rose tinted spectacles. Ive been stretched and almost broken by this man but as a result am twice the shy, timid and fearful Cancerian woman i was. He has grabbed my hand and shown me how life really is, rejecting all that is fake and insincere. Despite his ill health he is my inspiration and my hero, my love and truth. I cant imagine life without him.

Your story brought home to me how true love should be: fearless, even in death, loyal to the end, facing everything life throws at us with love and a steely determination. You inspire me, as does your beautiful angel, your late wife who loved you deeply. May your daughters keep you strong. I pray you find peace and love again in your life. Your story is compelling and moved me to tears, it took a brave man to share that with others. God bless.

Talex- that brought a few tears right there very heartfelt I am with a Scorpio and I am a Capricorn I adore him he loves me I am sure of this but it's hard maintaining a long distance relationship but through God I keep the FAITH we both went through the deaths of our spouse's and we love each other very much he drives trucks I drive buses he visits every two weeks but when he's here it is so hard for us to leave each other so I oved ur story of ur life and I pray all is well u thx for this inspiring story.

lol... everyone's always so hard on us poor misunderstood scorpys.... if they would just read our minds, they'd know exactly how to make us happy... come on.. it's not rocket science here people! *wink wink*
so sorry about your wife... i know this was several years ago.. but it was a great read.. and i had to comment. *smiles*

I am a scorpio eoman dating a scorpio man. The ththings that you said about the men, ring true for the women. When i first meet him. It was so intense and unexpected. But we i hear him speak so powerfully, and that he was scorpio i almost set out to have him fall in love with me. Because i know how we love. If the men are like the women... I love hard, im faithful, im honest, im good to who i love and totally want to hecome one with them. My love.scares others too at first. But i felt he would or.could appreciate it and understand it in ways other men cant. Hes like riding a wild bull with a gentle heart. Lol i have to hold back my topical scorpio ways and learn when to be submissive to him but im a fire.cracker too. For the first day we meet we have been like two peas in a hot but i wanted to thank u for your story. You know i cried only a scorpio man could endour so much pain and love at the same time. Im sorry about our wife. But she seemed like a blessings... Your a.good man. And thats why i kust had to grab my Scorpio man when i met him. Thats the kinda love ive wanted. The same love that i give as a scorpio woman. We.are still new but i thinking we are falling in love. Good luck, great story

I was married to a Scorpio for 9 years. He slowly became a mean psycho and was really subtle about it. When we met he seemed like a genuinely nice man and I was very picky about who I spent my time with. But verrrry slowly, over time, he became very manipulative, sneaky, started using substances in he'd sneak out to the garage to take something, or get high in the horse barn and then hide in our den for HOURS afterward. really pretty weird. Every nice thing that was part of the relationship was ruined by him whether it was intangible or some material item. He literally had no respect after a while for my body, my feelings, my family, his family, our home. He even let stray "friends" come to the house and they'd party, with no regard to his children or wife. And mostly, he turned on me and started criticizing me up and down, all the time, saying the most cruel things, things that anyone would feel hurt by. I dont think that that is some cute, scorpio trait - like everyone says - i think he was just an a------------le. Most Scorpio guys I know think they are all special and understand some mystical gypsy aspect of life...they think they understand the secrets to the universe better than anyone, when really they are just childish blowhards.

Vidailiah sweetheart, I myself, even though I have been advised by Raisingwolves not to even bother looking at the Scorpio guy I was seeing but he's EXTREMELY persistent. I'm not sure quite what to make of him and I just always get the nagging feeling that he's the type who'll just pull the rug from under me.

I've been on and off with a Scorpio for about 4 years he fooled around at first but i caught him and dumped him and i don't think he does it anymore , it took hard work my problem now is that i can never trust him anymore , he's a liar and he can't stop it he lies about the silliest things and when i confront him he gets angry , however he introduced me to his family and told me about his exes and says he's never been in love with anyone like he is with me , i feel like i can't rely on him to be there if I'm upset and need him around, i don't get it ,I think that he never knows what to do to make me feel better and it scares him but i don't know, also other women have seriously thrown themselves on him and he didn't flinch , he even told me about it but I've also witnessed it and i believe it he's very attractive, and i love him so much , i don't want to fight anymore , but I'm afraid of being betrayed by him and i also get really jealous i don't even want him around other females, as for the sex he says he's never been attracted to anybody as much as he is to me and that he only wants to be with me, we live in different countries now and I'm not used to a long distance relationship with him I don't know how to deal with it but we seem to fight every couple of days , he asks me to do stuff on Skype camera and i have a couple of times for him but I get really uncomfortable doing them and I'm a very suspicious person so I'm always worried he might record it, How should i deal with everything? please help me ,, Your story made me cry and I'm so sorry for your loss , i hope you're doing better now <3

Maybe he's a sociopath. Seems to have all the traits.

A Rule that I have always lived by is "if a person fools around on, me, they will do it again". From reading your post its pretty clear that your trust in him doesn't outweigh the hurt and the fear that you will be hurt again by his actions. Now the two of you are living in different countries, raising the trust issue even higher.
You already know the right thing to for you. You sound like you are smart enough to work things out on your own. Please don't turn into one of those who can't make decisions for yourself, you have way too much strength and self respect to be that way.
Do me a favor please. Let me know when you have done with him.
Thank you and God Bless.

wow.. m married to a Scorpian man n he is exactly the way u described youself on behalf of others.... yr story touched my heart and i am really sorry for your loss. I would like to know, when u ppl turn a cold shoulder, its impossible to even get them to look at you leave alone talking.. its v difficult to pass or rather even breathe during that time.. how do u convince them to talk n make it upto you within an hour. coz your cold shoulders are like 2-3 days long which injures the relationship without u ppl realizing it.

Your story is amazing and I can totally picture the scorpio man I love doing the same.
Well there are 2 scorpio men in my life..
When I was in college, he and I became best buddies.. Then after around 6 months, I got engaged to another scorpio who seemed socially and mentally compatible ( it was an arranged marriage.. As is a custom in my culture)
When physically I did not feel much for my fiancée, (but he seemed to have made me his in his mind from day one) I tried to break it off but he cried and well he seemed so much in love with me that I thought we could make it work and we did..and now I do feel it with him physically too. But there was always a sense of loneliness in my soul ....
On the other hand there were always underlying vibes with my friend... And just his 'look' could n still can make me loose my appetite and give me butterflies in my stomach.
Nothing serious happened physically with the friend except emotionally, mentally ...we were very connected, I know we loved each other but could not really admit it to each other then as we were not socially or financially compatible.. My friend and I went on with our lives n lost touch for almost 14 years.. Then we sent friendly emails once in a while and finally met up after 17+ years..
Henceforth we are still in touch though we have met only 3-4 times.. In the oast 6 years as we live in different states. The strength of what I feel for him has blown me away.. He says he loves me too( in such a matter of fact sort of it always was n always will be) but we are both committed to our lives and spouses and love them too...we video chat once a month and it is as if sometimes this tide of emotion flows through which literally leaves me speechless! It's like he has the key to my soul!
I am looking for an antidote to this irrational feelings of love without loosing the friendship bit of it... We are very honest with each other and even share the same birthday!
He wants me to keep a check on the intensity and says I am strong enough to control it when I told him that my feelings for him are getting out of hand n distracting me too much... And when I told him tht I sometimes tend to love him like a wife would, he said, with a lot of raw emotion in his eyes,' not to for both our sake'. He is too busy with work , n too disciplined, so does not get as much time to ponder n this automatically keeps him more grounded. Whereas I am stay at home mom. He says like his family n friends, he tends to take me for granted.. N he doesn't miss me like I miss him. We both stay away from our spouses for work reasons most of the month n when we r with them, then the intensity of feeling is dulled...

I so want to make out with him but will that not be totally wrong.. ? Need help to stop the chemical rush I get when he is on the horizon either physically or mentally...

I am a Taurus who thought was ins stable relationship with a Scorpio man untill weeks ago. We met had a whirlwind romance and got pregnant within 3 months. I guess bells should have gone off as he didn't seem keen but was supportive in his way. Before u know it he wanted to meet my family and asked me to move in with him. 6 months of meeting we were living together. We seemed happy however he had a rule every Friday he said it was his time to go out recharge is batteries and I was ok with that as one needs space. Within 2 months of living together he said he was going away for a nite to see a friend however I had a Suprise I had arranged which I had to reveal and he turned me down and went on his way. Baby was fast approaching by we weren't physical anymore. I started getting suspicious but had no evidence of cheating. Baby was born and he was involved and happy ... Well so I thought. Then alas something happens. It meant living the house we shared so we were homless. With a newborn I ended up at Ma parents and he at his relative ... That was his version. Months later I receive a call from the other woman who told me he has been living with her and that he says I trapped him to have a baby he doesn't love me blah blah. In fact she said will put him on the line as proof but line died. She called to say he hang up. Also mentioned there was someone else. My world came tumbling down. First thing in the morning he called I told him I didn't want to know and I put the phone down. He said he would come see me tell me his version. He turns up at Ma door step with the 3 rd woman that was alleged to break the other two up. She said she wanted to talk to me woman to woman. Told me the other woman been calling her for months asking her to leave her boy friend ( Ma partner). The 3rd woman said she was married but her and Ma partner were friends although he had mentioned her in passing I had never seen nor spoken to her. I listened and my partner admitted he had been seeing the other woman but they broke up hence her calling me to hurt him.
He denied telling her about trapping him.
I told him I will think about the reconciliation. We have been trying to rebuild the relation ship but rumours are now rife about him with other women and just using me to take my money ....
I don't know what to do as I love my partner and I want my child to grow up in a two parent household.
My question is can this work ??
Do u think he feels I trapped him although he says otherwise?

Ps reading your story made me realise what I have never experienced. I am envious but at same time given hope that such love is possible between two people. Be grateful u shared that feeling albeit for a short period. Stay blessed

9/4 I'm so lost! I'm a scorpio woman. Scorpio and scorpio, I know not the best mix... I have been when this man for about 11 months. We started out great, but ignorance is bliss! We could say he's the bad boy type. This was a long distance relationship. We've had A LOT of ups And downs. He has cheated and lied before but now that I think about it its partially my fault...

9 months ago we had broke up, just a few months in and I started dating someone else right way. Even though we were still communicating with each he told me I broke his heart. He told me this after we got back together. Every since then he wasn't the most faithful. I think what I did triggered that, I know scorpio men like revenge, don't like their egos bruised. I didn't believe him when he told me I hurt him, that probably hurt more. Sorry if I'm talking in circles!

I'm coming to realize that I may have Not been the best girlfriend, I usually disagreed with him, didn't value his opinion, ignore him, we'd Always argued, I didn't compliment him enough, I just completely did the opposite of what a scorpio guy needed. I was a little younger and hurt so I didn't realize what I was doing. But at the end of the day I Always knew there was love, I can't trust him but I love him. He is currently in jail, when he gets out I want to apologize to him for my wrong doings. I really love him a lot, and want things to work but trusting will be hard.

He has been through a lot in his life and I've Always to help him see the good in self, that's why I usually stayed, I Want to better him, make him be the best man he could be. Maybe that's why I critized him. Please share your thoughts and advice!

Also, your story is amazing! I'm proud of the decision you made to stick by your wife!

While I understand what you\'re saying, the bottom line is that HE has to want to better himself. Unfortunately the scorpio men I\'ve met tend to believe that they should be pardoned for behaving poorly or are justified in doing so. It\'s not ok and when they mess up, it\'s best to tell them that they\'ve messed up. They may not want to hear it and give the silent treatment, as I\'ve experienced, but they have to take responsibility for their actions. They\'re not exempt.

Oh believe me he knows! I\'ve told him many of times, I think the thing is he never really gave me an apology. Like you said, he needs to take responsibility for his actions. So until then, I\'ll continue to leave him alone!

I agree with you 100% and although after that comes days of silence right is right and I think they respect it at the end of the day ,

Yea there's always the silence which I'm currently experiencing because I refuse to have unprotected sex with this guy who won't even tell me his middle name. No I'm not kidding, we've been seeing each other off and on for maybe 3 months and he refuses to tell me his middle name, but castigates me for not trusting him. I barely know him really. He tells me very little about himself but expects me to believe that he only has unprotected sex with me?!! Unbelievable.

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So it is 8/16 as I feared... he hurt me. Even worse I LOVE HIM & have to see him everyday at work. I started thinking something was not right... he started sleeping over less... I asked him to just tell me if he was dating/sleeping with anyone else. Told him I would respect him more if he told me then. He went silent, work was unbearable for a week. I broke the silence as has been our track record.. He said sorry for going ghost I was embarrassed for going silent sorry for locking my vault. Then 2 days later I told him I want things to go back to the way they were but a better version. If he wanted to try again or be friends. Just for him to let me get to know him more. His exact answer I happen to cling to good and positive energy and vibes. No doubt I cherish the friendship we've found and & would really enjoy to keep n also grow that friendship. Then asked me to come to his house for a BBQ.

That was 7/26 after that things were amazing everyday we flirted at work he brought me food or energy drinks. Sent me texts all day and night almost better then it ever was. 8/2 he texts me that he has been beside himself& a lil depressed lately. Must be his irregular menstruation s. Said he would enjoy my company sometime soon to chill and chat or just speculate about random things. Hoped I was keeping myself together. I asked in person or phone and if he wanted help with work sales.

He said he preferred to have me as a confidant when I was available. Then sent me a pic saying I just want you to be happy and naked.
All was bliss until this Saturday 8/10. We are all out and his GF shows up. This is how I found out he got back with her. Then I pulled him away from her and he was like come on. You saw all the signs and we have not slept together in a while. So I told him to leave or I would have him kicked out. Then I texted him I hated him for 2 days straight. It has been a week and all he does is stare at me all day long. Help me GOD I LOVE him. I want to ask him why? I want to know everything every detail... I do not know what to do... Someone tell me, is there a chance.. oh his on again off again GF of 2 years is 13 years his senior. Also supposedly she just will not leave him alone according to all his friends.

Rule number 1: never date a co-worker. Period.
Why is there any question about getting back together. If he loved you he would not treat you this way. You are being used as a tool. Wake up, look around, then dump him. Emotionally he has already dumped you.

I know you are 100% He has started communicating with me again trying to talk

I started dating a Scorpio man in July and it was yes VERY intense in EVERY way which was scary but exciting. The thing with him is that it was like he deliberately went out of his way to insult me by making what I thought were extremely outlandish requests such as asking me to perform oral sex on him in the back of a taxi in broad day light with the driver and another passenger in the front just inches away from us. He said he likes to take risks. I told him I couldn't handle him. I know he wasn't joking because he actually was unzipping his pants and started to inch it out. I really, really cared very much for him and still do but that particular incident was honestly the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I'm working on just trying to move on and getting him out of my system. Some days are harder than others because.......I still have very strong feelings for him fortunately or unfortunately. I really want the feelings to ease up. What to do......

To all of the Eflen7s out there:

Putting a woman in a degrading position is not a Scorpio trait. Sex play is totally different, but that\'s another story. The scene you described here is about power and degradation. Any male ( actions do not define this person as a man) who treats a woman such has severe issues and should be avoided at all cost. He is not being \"domineering and strong\" he is being a jerk.

Women reading this, please understand, when you allow yourself to be degraded you are causing yourself emotional pain, or you use the degradation to bleed off past hurt similar to those who cut.

Have dignity and pride. Value yourself and you will become something of value to others. Treat yourself badly or allowing others to treat you badly will encourage others to treat you as an item, not as a person.

As for the jerk, dump him. Period, end of discussion. Don\'t look back, don\'t waste time second guessing your action. Dump him and be glad it wasn\'t worse

Rainingwolves, thanks soooo much. To be honest it\'s been on my mind for a while now whether I overreacted or not because I spoke to my mother about it recently and she suggested that maybe he was just trying to push my buttons. So thank you so very much raisingwolves for your response, especially coming from a Scorpio man. I\'m a libra female for the record.

Sorry that should be raisingwolves

I for the first time in March began dating a Scorpio. It was a whirlwind romance as I was going through some very difficult issues at work, my scorpio stood beside me and I fell very quickly. I am a cancer and I don't open up that fast to others. But I was such an emotional mess and he let me cry, wiped by tears and even put my shoes on for me one night. It didn't come without obstacles and later on I began to make up some lies in my head about how he felt about me and played a few games with him. I did tell him how I felt but later I realized they were some of my own trust issues. In a rant I just broke it off with him. Later, I realized how much I missed him. He never came after me. Part of the issues is that he is separated but not divorced. Its been almost 3 months since I have seen him. We have kept in touch off and on and its mainly because I make the first step. I have asked and pleaded to see me again and he won't tell me no, he just says not right now.
I have shared with him the revelations that I learned about myself during that time. And I even asked him if what we had was real because at times I didn't believe but later I knew that it was. He said that it was and he doesn't say things he doesn't mean. I knew that. I hurt him and I have apologized. Right now he is like Ft.Knox. He will respond in email or text but most of the time it is fairly formal although the last few weeks he was flirting a little and joking around with me which was really funny. During this time of absence I have also done alot of soul searching, basically is he the right man for me. I have had a fear of getting involved with the wrong guy. But this was so different, I think I got scared and ran. I really do believe now that we are meant to get together. Do I just do nothing now or do I continue to gently pursue him. Even when my work thing was finished I asked him if I could still ask him some questions or if he would rather me not contact him anymore, He assured me it was still fine.
Raising wolves, thank you so much for sharing your courageous story. It is heartbreaking. Thankyou for being open and sharing with all of us.

To the COURAGEOUS man that wrote this... I applaud you. You are the definition of a true man, father, and devoted husband. Words will never express how I felt as I read part 2 of this blog. The part that brought you to your knees... my heart warmed and tears came to my eyes. You found the l love that we ALL desire and you honored your wife without abandoning her. Her loyalty to you even in death is beyond what human love is. Thank you for having the courage to share something so intimate with the world. May you find that agape/eros love again. God bless youmy brother, my friend.

I am in love with a scorpio man, and I am a taurus woman. I'm very stubborn and I disregard alot of the affection he shows me considering the piles of women that magnetize towards him. I know he loves me.. What can I do to get past this phase of us both hiding these intense feelings out of fear??? (you're story is beautiful and it's one that gives me hope to hold on to him)

Are you sure you want the answer to this one? If no, then close the link. Usually when people ask for advice the last thing they want is the truth.

As long as you are being "stubborn and disregard a lot of the affection he shows me".....Ask your self this question. Why is he still with me? From your words, you are a cold fish to him and you don't return the warmth that he obviously feels for you. Get off your butt, let him know you love him before one of the "piles of women that magnetize towards him" reflects the affection and love he so clearly has to give. Quit playing with his feelings in this way. Your comment is one of the most selfish I have ever seen.

Hi there,

Your story brought tears to my eyes, and a deep feeling in my heart. I can imagine how difficult the situation was...heart breaking. You may also just feel more freedom and liberation from death now. I had a past love commit suicide....while it was one of the most painful, gut-wrenching experiences, it brought me closer to myself, and connected to life. I am grateful for this, and for feeling the loss of someone so dear to gives me a whole new appreciation of what love is.

As for scorpios...I am dating one, with two scorpio brothers, and a scorpio mom. Hello scorpios haha :) In my experience, scorpios are very intuitive, and pierce through any facade. They appreciate realness, and sincerity. They can be quite secretive, and have a 'smooth' approach to getting what they want.
I've never felt more loved, unconditionally, than by my scorpio sun/virgo moon guy. He supports me, he is the rock I need, if I fall. I show him I love him, in so many ways, that's what he deserves. He is the love of my life. :) <3 love to everyone

Im a capricorn woman and although for the majority of my life I have hidden my heart behind a wall that would put Jericho to shame.. I have fallen madly and completely in love with a scorpio man. I have learned to deal with his hot and cold flashes because I love everything about him, even the sting of his not so sweet side. But this last ice age has completely devastated me... he recently broke up with me after a fairly big fight. I said some pretty harsh things, all of which I regret and have apologized for profusely. He agreed to work things out and said we had a lot to talk about before we get as close as we once were. He wanted to talk in person always to "see my facial ex<x>pressions and look into my eyes" we began seeing each other again, and at least to me it was far more intimate, passionate and amazing than it had been before the break up. Well... he has a history with the law and one day as I was packing a bag to go to his house as we had planned, he told me that something was wrong but he couldnt talk about it. He wished there was something I could do but there wasnt. I told him I loved him and I was here for him no matter what... then he disappeared... Ive kept an ear out for any kind of news of how he is... worrying sick.. cant sleep cant eat just praying he is ok. Then I see a picture of he and an ex of his smiling with the caption "he completes me" I just about died.. in fact, I almost did. I couldnt take enough medicine to remove the pain, put me to sleep or make me forget what I had seen. I landed myself in the hospital of course. A very STUPID move on my part, this I know. Here I was crying myself to sleep, missing him with every fiber of my being, unable to BE with out him next to me; and there he was laughing, smiling playing and taking pictures as if 'we' had never existed.. as if i was nothing more than a fly by night, if that. This sweet woman, who Ive spoken to since, thought we had been done for a long while.. she had no idea he had just left me here waiting... but like me, she has been in love with him for years.. so I cannot very well be upset with her for welcoming him back with open arms. But boy am I broken... there has never been a greater pain than this, and I am no stranger to heartache... but this takes the cake the wedding and the honeymoon of pain. Trouble is.. I still love him and against the very sound advice of my friends and family.. I want him back. Capricorn women dont fall in love easily, but when we do we fall hard; we fall forever... I have no idea what to do about this. Not sure how to stop the pain, not sure how to move on, or even worse, if i even want to. This scorpio man has completely taken my fiercely guarded world and pulled it completely out from under my feet... I just had to share with somebody...

Wow capricorn, I created an account just to respond to you because I am a Capricorn in love with a Scorpio and the almost exact same story happened with me .....I am devastated and I feel pathetic for still loving him but for some reason I cannot forget this man ...

Hon I\'m soooo sorry this happened to you. That\'s exactly how I felt with the Scorpio guy I was with. I was only with him for about a month and a half when my \"spider senses\" kept going off with him like I just had the feeling that at some point the proverbial rug would be pulled from under my feet. He also insisted on having unprotected sex with me to which I acquiesced. Luckily I didn\'t get anything nor became pregnant. The next time I meet one I\'m running SOOO far away.

Wow, this brought me to tears, and also made me realize many things. You can't bundle any man or women under a category only b/c of their sign. It took many years of many people screaming at me. I am a stubborn bull. I have not given people chances just because of the day they were born. How foolish of me to cut out so many and further more prejudge their character before truly getting to know them. I began seeing a Scorpio man. I am so afraid of being hurt that I may be self sabotaging a beautiful thing. Your story is beautiful, and gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.

I am a Virgo woman and i think this is TOO real especially the ICE one. I would like to ask a favor, if you are going to post a continuation to this, I hope you can give advice on how to make a Scorpio man breakout of that ice. It makes it hard for me to not be a nagger with him at times, or is it because I'm a Virgo?