Big Heart and Intense/needy
I realize that I could be viewed as justifying myself a lot and you might get the impression that I'm in denial about my problems. At least you know I'm aware of more than one angle about the issue.
That being said I want to share some introspective thing that may apply to you.
Because of things in my past, relationships are still kind of a new thing to me. I'm thrilled and my heart is expanding quickly.
I tend to really give a lot, in any relationship, even mail and like EP and such. I enjoy making people feel good. That does not mean I make things up, I just give credit where credit is due. I'm as real as they come.
Here's where I have to be careful ... People not only don't have the time and energy that I tend to invest in casual exchanges, but apparently I'm often perceived as intense or needy, like a brown-noser or something (I'm guessing, since no one will really come out and say that). Well I'm not going to micro-analyze that. Mutual admiration societies are all good if you ask me; even if flattery is exaggerated a little.
The thing we have to be careful with is: If you give too much, and expect a lot back, you're setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment, and this can lead to anger and resentment if there's enough disappointment, ESPECIALLY IF you're a sensitive person.
I have to go through this a lot, because of my hyper-enthusiasm. So I always have to ask myself if I'm going too far, because I might actually be (not intentionally) pushing my acquaintances in the wrong direction, and then I make them, and myself miserable in the long run.
So, I thought this would be a pretty relevant topic for this group.
Thanks for reading. Please contact me if you've had similar experiences, and let me know if there's an experience group specifically for that.