I Am Sensitive

Based on your 'story' above I can relate completely. The following is how I have tried to resolve this and maybe some of it you can relate to and apply.

There is this book series by Elaine Aron, 'The Highly Sensitive Person.' I read the book about the workplace. And basically I derived that a highly sensitive person takes in more data input than the average person. This can be very exhausting. The HSP tend to need more sleep than the average person. Light and sound will bother them than others. They might even take a job that they are overqualified for because it's less stimulating, their senses aren't so demanded. Lot of HSP actually work independently, freelance or own their own business than being an employee for a company. They also often notice things in situations that other people don't, causing them to have a very unique sense of humor.

I am also, by my username, a daughter of a Narcissistic parent where I had to be hyper aware to get the conditional love and acceptance from my mother. Any criticism given I had to take to heart to 'survive' in the mother daughter dynamic. 'Survive' meaning receiving conditional acceptance.

In the process of healing this, I am actively learning to build a 6 foot thick wall when it comes to having an emotional reaction to 'inputs' from the world. You can still allow inputs just don't be quick to assign an emotional reaction to it. You just need to be more active in managing your emotions.

I think it's powerful thing, you can read a story about someone halfway across the world and have an emotional connection, and some people here can't have an emotional connection with their own kid right in front of them. I think the biggest part of being a HSP is MANAGEMENT, just understand the stages of when you have an emotional reaction whether, it's to other's criticism, or road rage, being in a new networking environment. Sometimes, I create moments where I can step out and be in a reduced stimulating environment, going to the bathroom for few minutes or the hotel lobby, and then return to the high stimulating environment.

I don't recommend avoiding situations because you feel rejection or being treated poorly. I recommend fortifying yourself such that even when that happens, it bounces off. Yeah you are always going to encounter someone occasional jerk, who makes the insensitive comment. But you can make a choice, how much their behavior will affect your mood and outlook. Don't give them the power.

I also recommend reading Daniel Goleman, 'Emotional Intelligence' and Daniel Pink 'Whole New Mind.' The first book tries to quantify sensitive for everyone else. And the second book talks about the changing trends in the global market and how HSP, other emotional intelligent people play a vital role in it.

All three books are very popular, you should be able to find it at your local library.

Hope this gives you more insight into this personality type. :D

I am that sensitive too! I sometimes cry for no reason! That's ok, you don't have to worry! Being sensitive is much better than being too hard with others :)

It's just one piece of who you are... And from what I can see that's pretty darn great. No need to change in my eyes, the world needs more sensitivity

lol i would love to have what you have I have never really been able to be sensitive you have a true gift and dont worry if you ever do get hurt you'll live and make it through it you'll be fine just each time you do get hurt you become a little harder on the outside

See sometimes being sensitive is a good thing sometimes but one way u can work on being less sensitive cause I know deep down. You don't wanna feel like that's which is ok everyone had little bit of sensitive. But a way you can naturally become better is maybe raise your saratonin levels or your dopamine ?

I'm sensitive too. It's not easy to be sensitive sometimes. But sensitive souls get the best friends, and are indeed the best lovers too. This proves you're a loving and caring person, there's nothing wrong with that!

If there were more sensitive people like you in the world it would be a kinder, and more gentle place to live. It is a gift not a curse. :)

I am also a very sensitive person. I have been told at work that I need to have a 'thicker skin' and not to let things bother me. It's not always easy! Thanks for your post. Just look at it this way - we're probably awesome lovers because we are so sensitive! LOL

You can be yourself but at the same time there is certain wisdom that can be attained if your empathic sensitivity is to strong that can help you shape/guide your experiences. For example, you connect with people by knowing what in esoteric science is called there "true name" which is basically an empathic impression of who they are. Our philosophies, our desires, our psychic imprint, everything that "contains" who we are is held in a kind of ethereal film (aura) that connects to our bodies and guides and shapes our actions and how we perceive the world.

When you are around people, whether at the driver license bureau or the supermarket or talking to them in chat on EP the more they reveal to you through actions of body, mind, and voice the more deeply you can see "through" those actions and into there soul. There are some people whose souls you might not want to see, however. Just be mindful that "actions" such as revealing your personality during chat or your desires by asking certain questions or your moods by being to open and honest in public reveal your "true name" and empaths can use that knowledge for good or bad against you.

Yes, there are bad people in the world who use empathic abilities to spiritually rape others. Empathic abilities are gifts of nature, not god. God is the word unspoken in our name. Not all people kneel before divine guidance however. So be mindful as a student of esoteric science (which you are now whether your know it or not) of what you share about yourself and of the "level of attention" that your afford to people. If you find that certain peoples energy bothers or offends you or makes you uncomfortable then try to seek out "wisdom" that will help you change the way you percieve that energy, not the person. People are just "carriers" of emotional resonance. You cannot blame the person for having a dis-ease. Work with the illness itself by changing the way you view the world and that will alter how the energy affects you when you feel it in others. For example, if you find hateful people unnerving then work with compassion and try to understand the nature of hatred and forgive others for allowing themselves to be consumed by hatred. In doing this when you feel the hatred in others strongly you can open up your heart and let the hatred pass through you and into the earth or out into the universe rather than get "caught" inside you and trapped in your own pattern or aura.

See with an inner eye and hear with an inner ear and try to view things in terms of energies. You will find that more often than not the emotions (energy in motion) of others follow the same laws of physics that energy does. Learn to ground yourself by using breath control and guided energy meditations if you find your overwhelmed to often. And be mindful of what you share with others, you may want to keep your relationships in a more sterile controlled fashion like that of a doctor to a patient until you find you can trust them and they are worthy of seeing the "real" you. That doesn't mean that you have to withhold your compassion from them at all.

"When you meet a master swordsman, show him your sword. When you meet a man who is not a poet, do not show him your poem."