Flat Broke With Child
I tried to stay with my daughters father for three and half years we were together. I stayed through the verbal abuse because he seemed to really care for my daughter, but when we moved to his country and he took away my car and my money and hit me then thats when I said this is not healthy and figured the best thing for my daughter is to show her a healthy lifestyle so we ran with just our clothes and we are starting over. We are safe and healthy now but to do that I had to accept govt assistance. I guess I came to this site because I am so tired of the generalizations against mothers who recieve welfare. I dont sit on my butt at home. I just want to shout. They just dont understand everything you have to do and all the hoops you have to jump through to get a check once a month, that comes no where near the amount you need to live on. I can choose to buy gas or maybe this month pay for the meds or ....... my electric bill is more then I get in welfare. Ive been reading a really good book on welfare reform called "flat broke with children: women in the age of reform" it talks about how the welfare reform might actually be hindering mothers. It pushes jobs first children safety second. Some moms leave thier children home alone just to make it to the job or forced volutary work. Or they dont apply for welfare because of the hoops you have to jump through, or they stay in abusive relationships because its seems like the only way to survive. I am just thankful this site is here so I dont feel like im the only one in this situation.