Dating As A Single Mom.... Scary StuffSo... My friends keep telling me I need to get back out there and date. I honestly, don't see at this point how that would be possible Nor do I feel that I am ready for that.
Dating as a single mom is a pretty scary thing. I no longer have only myself to be concerned about. I have my little boy. He has already been abandoned by his father at three months of age so the idea of bringing a new man into his life that could possibly leave him again is terrifying to me. Sure I don't want to be hurt again but honestly... I'm more concrned about my son's well being.
I sometimes think it would be nice for him to have some sort of "father figure" in his life. A man to look up to... to do "manly" things with. To teach him how to pee standing up lol
Then sometimes... I really like the fact that it's just us. No one to get in the way of our bonding time. No one to question my parenting skills. No one to answer to.
I was "talking" to this one guy. Mostly texting. But I let that fade away because he honestly reminded me of my ex too much. The two of them had a lot in common. They both had kids that they didn't see. To me, a single mom, A man that has children that he doesn't see is a big red flag. I don't care what kind of excuse he comes up with... if you love your children as a father should, you will find a way to see them. Am I right?
And if this guy doesn't care about his own children, then how can I expect him to care about mine? I can't... And I can not and will not start any relationship with a man that can't love my son.
My son is my whole world. Which is another reason dating seems so hard. I just don't have time for it. My little guy is 18 months old and takes up all my time. Honestly... I wouldn't have it any other way. Sometimes I think it'd be nice to get away for an hour or two... but I'm sure he'd be on my mind the whole time.
Maybe when he's older I will not be so afraid to get back out there. It's going to be hard though. How can I trust anyone with my little guy?