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Should a mother encourage/teach her son in self pleasure when the time is right?
melissa206 melissa206 26-30, F 120 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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I feel, he'll learn it himself. just when you figure out he is having those kinds of troubles help him out. it'll be very useful!

No. He will figure it out when he needs too.
It is great to have an open and unashamed relationship with your child but you can't expect to do everything together !

How will you know when the time is right? Probably when he gets a hard on seeing you naked ;)

I had parents that found behavior like that to be extremely wrong. My younger sister was caught once and my mother beat her and then humiliated her in front of the family for it. While my older sister and I felt bad because we saw nothing wrong with it only to also get in trouble because we didn't agree with my mother. If we had been given the freedom to enjoy ourselves freely, I honestly think that would have prevented us from being so sneaky and resenting our parents as much as we did. We were made to feel like anything that had to do with our bodies and sex was a sin.

I'm sorry to hear that, Keribaby. I think your Mom was way off

Wow... no offense. But your mom needs some serious counseling!!! Beating your kids for doing something that comes naturally to everyone???? How twisted is that?

Yeah, she didn't feel that way.

Yes indeed

Encourage? No. But do not discourage...ever.

He should be able to figure it out. Are you thinking about helping him?

He should be able to figure it out. Are you thinking about helping him?

He should be able to figure it out for himself really.

I don't think you will need to encourage your son nor teach him how. I do however believe you should talk to him about the changes he is going through and that the feelings are OK. You should also talk to him about ************ and that it is healthy and natural. You will know when the time is right if you keep with your practice of nudity around him when he starts looking at your body differently. No matter how we downplay the sexuality of the nude body a naked woman will always arouse the interest of a horny male. I think that too is normal and healthy.


If he can't figure it out for himself take him to someone that specializes in severe learning disabilities.

has he seen you ************ yet? did you explain it to him? does his penis get erect when your a nude together? have you caught him playing with his penis? If yes, then by all means have the talk with him and explain things correctly and not as he might hear from his peers.

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As to your question I say yes you should be able to help your child with self pleasuring showing him that doing it is normal and he should not feel ashamed when he does. I can explain more when we chat

I think that a parent should teach their children about all aspects of sex just as one would teach them to ride a bicycle. If you can it might be good to teach by example. The kids are going to learn from some one but you have the option to give a quality education. Compare that to the back seat of some car!

have you taught him anything yet or spoken to him about it

Don't think you will need to teach him, when our little penis' s get hard we start rubbing them & quickly learn how the more we rub the better it feels. Though it would be nice if you didn't scold or shameful if you catch him in the act. I think sex ed is better taught in the home than school by some up tight teacher who should spend her time teaching reading,worrying, & arithmetic

Ew! I don't even want to think about it.

Absolutely, and not just in self-pleasure either!

I would say yes. Who could be a better teacher than you, his mother? You would have no ulterior motive. That can not be said about the majority of his peers.

me thinks that this is a fake profile. No mother would ask such a ****** up question. Melissa206 is some creepy dude posing as a woman.

I think the question should be do you want to teach him

You don't need to teach him. He'll figure it out. You might try to find a way to let him know that it is perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of though. Also you might help him understand that that doesn't mean society at large is not hypocritical about it. So it best kept private.

I wouldn't say teach is the right word. I would tell him that it's a normal thing done in the privacy of his bedroom. And give him a box of tissues and some mild lotion or lube.

No - he'll figure it out on his own.
You can help him by guiding him on how young women think, how to socialize with them, etc.

It is perfectly acceptable to TEACH. It is not acceptable to demonstrate or participate. Such an event can all too easily become an imprinting event in your son's life and could interfere with his adult sexual health and his ability to form relationships with other women when he reaches adulthood.

I talked to my sons about ************, sex relationships, sexual and relationship responsibility, alternative sexual practices, etc.

Do NOT act selfishly by involving yourself sexually with your son.

He will find out about self pleasure on his own, trust me.. Just don't discourage it, unless he is doing it in inappropriate scenarios

absolutely - it is a natural thing..

<p>NO! please PLEASE do not engage in such folly. You seem like a wonderful mom. If you see spotted sheets or soiled sleepwear do not draw attention to it. Even if you come across him giving pleasure to himself. Don't cause added embarrassment to him. If he asks questions let him know that its a natural feeling. To be exercised in privacy. After all I am sure you do not want him around if your are giving yourself pleasure. As a mother myself I find it hard to imagine a mother even asking a question like this. </p>

He will probbably figure it out for himself.