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What Do Men Over 40 Really Want?

I just started dating again and have been using the internet to meet men because if go to the bars most men are too young or the men who are the right age are looking for too young.  I have had some great experiences in the past with internet dating but this time around it is like the men can not even commit to a phone call or getting a coffee. Lately, is they email a couple of times act like they are interested and then just drop off.  They can't even put out the effort to write " i don't think this would work out".    I am a 45 year old Professional woman,  who is just looking to have a friend to go to a movie with or dinner.  I am not looking for Prince Charming.    Here is an example  - a guy asks for my # and I give it too him.  He texted me the next morning at 7 am to ask when the best time to call and I texted back at time.  He never called!  What is up with that?  That is why I am here telling my story and want to hear about other single lady's experiences!

sjhanna sjhanna 41-45, F 58 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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I'll tell you the truth. I'm a 40 year old man and I've tried online dating and I put my info out like I'm a single dad (full custody), good job, and I would like to think that I'm not boring but guess what; no hits. Not even with girls I know. I'm not attractive to females or I would have had some girls call me by now so it's all about looks for women too. Please don't try to fake that

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I want to expound on what Stevem7 said. He's somewhat right.
But let me tell you why! And why some of the other posters are right but for entirely the wrong reasons.
I'm 40. Divorced. Dating for the last couple years.
I spent my 30's with my ex-wife. Wasted them with her is more like it!
So yes, maybe I'm having a bit of a "mid-life crisis". I want to live an exciting life. I want to go to night clubs. Hit the bars. Travel without warning. Sex in the park. Do some drugs. Live like I did when I was 25. And why not?! It's my life! It's *my* life. I should get to spend it how I choose. There's nothing holding me back.
Now, what does that have to do with you? I've dated a lot of women in the last two years. From 27 to 43. And so far, only a few 27 to 32 wanted to or could live the life I want.
Women older than that either had kids or other responsibilities, or most often wanted to settle down and live a quiet life. Travel? Maybe. Night clubs? Only on a Saturday night, if then. Sex in the park? We aren't in college any more. Living like you're 25? No thanks.
Fine. That's fine. Then we are not right for each other. But don't be upset when I'm chasing 30 year olds.
I'm sure there are exceptions, but I haven't met any.

From this description, I figured you were a lot older than your age! I agree with most of what you wrote. I would like to find someone around my age, who didn't look it or act it...someone who, like me, wants fun and adventure...not someone content with just sitting at home and watching paint dry.

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I am in my 40s and in the online dating scene. I have found it to be very frustrating. I have found two types of 40 year old men for the most part. The players who have been in marriages and other long term relationship who have been unsuccessful at remaining faithful and will probably continue to struggle in that area. The other type really do understand commitment are are capable of it but are maybe no longer up to putting the work into making it work. There is a lot more I could say.... I know I am jaded. What do you think?