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I Am A Sociopath. If You Have Questions. Now Is The Time.

I am not your typical sociopath. Serial killer, unable to make friends, etc.

I did have trouble making friends when I was young. But i soon learned what everyone was looking for.
I am able to fake emotions and actions I pick up from different people I knw.

Once I knew what worked with who, it was easy.

I tried to make friends with a guy I lost contact with so I would have enough brothers for my wedding.
I was with a girl for 2 years just so I could make her life miserable by getting her attached and than breaking up with her beacuse she made my life miserable.

During the start, I had no feelings about hurting other people's feeling.
I still don't, but I have learnt what hurts and what should not be done if you do not want to offend people.

I have learned to be a social charmeleon adapting to different people and at different working environments.

As sociopaths, we do feel regret and attachedment pretty much like you are attached to your car.
The key difference that seperates us is we see other humans much like you see objects so other humans are pretty much like robots to us.

I know I want to kill the idiot that everyone else in the office hates, but I also know that the risk of getting caught isn't worth it, that is why I don't do it.
If there was a god and he handed me a knife and told me I won't get caught I won't hesitate to slash his throat.
I want to rape every single hot girl I walk past, but again, the risk of getting caught.

I have grown and adapted into this society where I know I can't do anything as I please.
Everything I do has an objective (Normal people call it Motive i believe).

If you have a question for the typical "Adaptive, smart, able to climb high in the workplace" Sociopath.
Now is the time. Post it in the comments and I will try to answer them.

Learn how they work and how they think.
ARealSociopath ARealSociopath 22-25 123 Responses Jan 16, 2011

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I just learned what I am and I do not like it. Although I do have a girlfriend I've had for 3 years but I'm getting to where I can't stand her, from what I'm reading she has socio and phsycopathic behavior. We also have a child together but in all honestly I love him (i think)but only to a certain extent and it bothers me because a father should love his son more, I think that's how I became a sociopath. Niglect, bullying, and growing up with a bipolar foster sister who was emotionally abusive.(she's all better and medicated now.) deep down I want to treat him better but I feel as if I flipped a switch and if I'm pissed i will 360 it toward who I think deserves it. And the fact my girlfriend is a controlling phsyco, does not help my sociopathic behavior. The only reason I don't leave her *** is because I'm attached and we have a child, a car apartment ECT together and everytime I think of leaving her, I think of how hard it was to build up to it and it just don't want to do it again. Help please

You are not a sociopath. You are in an abusive relationship that you are afraid to leave probably because you are afraid of either being alone, ending up alone, or finding someone else who is just as much of a jerk as the girl you are with now.

If you were a sociopath, you wouldn't let someone else control you. You would be in control. You wouldn't worry about your child or your girlfriend because they would just be objects to you. You would just leave. Sociopaths lack empathy and are impulsive. You are neither.

You need to seek help. If you can't afford it, try to find a low cost clinic near you or some kind of a crisis center. It seems like you want to leave but you are scared to do it. I think you are just emotionally hurt, confused and lost. You need to figure out a plan to ditch this girl and get a custody hearing so that you can have access to your child. I think you feel like you don't love your kid "as much as you should" because you see him as an extension of your girlfriend, who you don't seem to like at all. That is probably why you are not very nice to him. You seem like you are scared to take your anger out on your gf so you do it to the kid because he is an easy target. It's like if you get yelled at by your boss all day and come home and kick the dog. You need to get out now before you destroy your relationship with your son. Again, you are not a sociopath but you definitely need psychiatric help.

My 15 year old daughter has been dating this 16 year old boy for 7 months. Recently he decided to dump her and she kept her distance, even though he killed her heart. Now, after a month he is back and he says he doesn't want to lose her. He wanted to have sexual relationships with her but she didn't, that's the reason why I think he left. Why is he back? I'm so worried... Should she have taken him back.? What should she expect from his comeback?
Help please, a very worried Mom :{

All kids go through a few phases of sociopathic behavior driven by hormones.
I would say he probably got pissed he wasn't getting any and tried to look some place else and got shut down again. Knowing he had made progress with your daughter he tried to go back to her... emotional memories can be accessed and manipulated pretty easily with the help of hormones to pull off some crazy things (like a horny 16 year old in tears 'cause he loves her')...

agree with this. he probably just wants to get laid. isn't that like the main objective of teenage boys? blech i don't miss high school...

I know this is going to sound harsh but just try to listen: Teenagers are idiots (seriously, look it up, the brain doesn't finish fully developing until your mid twenties) and they love to get involved with other idiot teenagers. I know it sucks to see someone you love get involved with another person who is probably just going to hurt them but the best thing you can do is put her on the pill so if she decides to have sex with this boy (which she obviously shouldn’t, but whatever) she doesn't get knocked up and ruin her life. There isn't a whole lot you can do about it. She might be your daughter but you cannot control her life and if you try to she will hate you for it and might (probably will) do whatever she wants anyway. Encourage her to talk to her friends since they probably hate this boy as much as you do for hurting her and teenagers listen to their friends more than their parents. Be there for her but don't push her in any direction because that will just push her away. Hopefully they will break up again and she will learn from this what kind of boy to look out for. That's kind of what being a teenager is - pretending to be an adult with a safety net so you can learn and not epically screw up your life when it actually counts. I don't mean this to sound harsh but I'm a lot closer to my teenage years than you and I dated A LOT of idiot boys and I was an idiot teenager myself. Just try to be there for her and keep her safe and not pregnant. I don't think any kid is a sociopath by any means - boys just take a lot longer than girls to develop any kind of empathy and many of them just follow their pants around and turn off their brain. Hopefully having her heart broken a second time will teach her to find the other kind of boy.

I am going on 4.5 years of living with a sociopath and it has been one hell of a ride. He left his wife and moved right into my house, and moved his two children in a few days later. His children were 16 and almost 11 at the time. The first night his kids were there he had to lay down with his 11 year old because that is the only way she could fall asleep. Needless to say, I fell victim to his lies and allowed him to convince me to move into his house because it was more affordable. Big mistake but hind sight is 20/20. Anyways, the behavior of him sleeping with his 11 year old was a bit disturbing to me, he continued sleeping with her until she fell asleep. On one occasion I opened her bedroom door up to find her legs wrapped around his body as though they were a couple. He did not like me calling him out on this behavior that still to this day I find disturbing so he reacted by going to the courts and getting a restraining order against me that was full of nothing but lies. Stupid me let him woo me over again. Unfortunately life only got worst with him. His daughter started reacting to our relationship in some odd ways. She started stealing not only my dirty underwear but my 2 daughters dirty underwear,one being 4 yrs old and the other being 16. Somehow the sicko tried making us all believe we deserved this filthy behavior and that we had to have been molested to think there was anything wrong with her doings. In his words...his daughter is perfect and would never do such a thing. I let it go until 3 weeks later when I was putting her laundry in her room to find 86 more stolen items. Nothing was done about the thieving going on except my children and I being made to think we deserved it. She was praised and went to a friends house a few blocks away for a week...never a consequence for her. About 6 months later his daughter called the local police, where my sister happened to be the dispatcher, and claimed that her dad had been touching her and raping her since she was in diapers. That evening her mom was granted temporary custody and they fled to a safe house. He was not home at the time so I called him to find out why his ex was at the house and his daughter was hauling trash bags of clothes out..i was instantly blamed..what did i do? I knew i did nothing and I was onto his blame game. Needless to say he had his ways of tracking them down in the safe house and got through to his daughter telling her nothing she did was wrong and that he "needed" her. She was found to be lying yet he continuously praised her and told her how perfect she was. He has caused so much damage to his own child that she would sit in her room and cut herself and write down her suicidal thoughts. On numerous occasions I found satanic pictures drawn by her often reflecting her death wishes for me. It was then that i realized that this man cared about nobody but himself. I would have found professional help or found someone for my children to talk to...not him...he shipped her off to live with her mother after her mother was deemed too mentally challenged to have any type of visitation that wasn't supervised. His kid was nothing but an ob<x>ject to him...just no longer his welfare ticket (which he lied to get benefits that he should not have qualified for, he claims the government owes him for the 10 years he served in prison for attempted murder charges). Unfortunately this man has done nothing but set his own kids up for failure. The relationship we had was ba<x>sed on lies and more lies. It was a hard decision to make, his words were pretty convincing even though the big picture was there. He tried to get everyone around me to dislike me by telling lies about me. He had no luck as the people he was targeting were onto his ways. His last blow and the one that proved the depths he would go to try to gain any kind of control over me or try to make me feel so worthless was him hiring my ex and trying to throw my past in my face...not sure if he thought he was accomplishing anything other than me realizing how deep the issues are. I am thankful I never let him beat me down to the point that I let him have control. He knows we are through yet all he can say is "well i love you unconditionally"...sociopaths don't love...I've been loved before and this nightmare was anything but love. Run away as fast as you can if you cross paths with an individual like this and don't let them think they won. It's quite humorous when they realize u quit their game

That is the most disturbing story I've heard. How disgusting and repulsive. Hell is real and that monster of pig is heading there for some good old fashioned torture.

This guy is not a sociopath, he is a ********* which is a type of paraphilia. You should have called the police or tried to talk to his daughter when you noticed the inappropriate behavior. I know that is harsh, but often kids continue to be raped and molested because the adults in their life look the other way and don't take action.

His lies and manipulation are due to his paraphilia. He needs a woman in his life to appear like he has a normal relationship so that his sexual perversions are less likely to come up or come into question. Plus having a woman in his life makes it easier for him to have custody of children, giving him easier access to hurt them. In his sick mind he believes he really does love and care about the child he is molesting. He knows that it is wrong most likely but feels like he "can't control himself."

All this guy cares about his is sick perversions - it is like an addiction to him. You see sociopathic behavior like this in drug and alcohol addicts as well. It is all about feeding the addiction but he is likely not a sociopath. Stay away from this guy and do what you can to help his kids.... the writing you found in her room and the fact that she was stealing undergarments are a cry for help. IMHO she is not lying about her dad raping her since she was a baby but is scared to stand up to him because it is probably all she has ever known. He probably shipped her off because she was too close to cracking and spilling his dirty secret. I know you felt hurt by her but honestly I feel terrible for her since she has obviously been the most hurt by her own father.

hopefully you can figure out what i called that guy by the rest of my post - i didn't curse i just typed out the word for someone who hurts children in a sexual way and it censored it.

Could a sociopath hold more value on a person for having a son? Or is the initial novelty and attention that comes with a new baby what's most appealing and when the time for actually taking care of the baby comes will they run?

I am also a sociopath. I have learned to fake emotions like yourself, but unlike you avoid people. The only true emotion I feel is pure hatred. I try to adapt to society, but can't grasp why people act the way they do. While I know how to fake the more simplistic emotions (happiness, sadness, anger, etc.) I have no idea how to fake the more complex (love, grief, sympathy,etc.). I am very charismatic, and have been diagnosed a sociopath, but am unable to truly fit into society. While I have no real desire to fit into society today, my life will be easier if I did "fit in". Any suggestions?

I'd also like to edit, the average sociopath is not a serial killer. Most killers are psychopaths as they are more impulsive than sociopaths. If most sociopaths were killers, then many more people would be serial killers. The average sociopath is hiding, not a killer.

I'm diagnosed above average so here's my take. It's who you are. Accept it and enjoy the ride. Keep winning the game and enjoying the rewards.

I think I might be best friends with a sociopath. Ive known him for about 4 years. We are 16 years old and he hasnt been diagnosed but ive done quite alot of research and all the signs point to him being sociopathic including very high charisma, he is basically the most popular kid in our age group and everyone follows him around. Hes never sorry when he hurts someone including me. He never takes responsabilty for his actions. When I argue with him for something he clearly did he uses pure logic to get out of it even though he clearly is the one responsable. He says im his best friend and all and I think hes mine to but ever since we became close friends the relationship has felt hallow. He is always lying and overexagerating stories and I will believe him because hes so good at lying but then he will just say a few minutes later that it wasnt true and he doesnt know why he lied. He does this alot. He thinks he is smarter then everyone. He rarely does anything for me out of the kindness of his heart but I do alot. Is this how sociopaths are? Should I confront him or ask some of mine and his friends to try and get him help? Should I stay friends with him? Can he get better through treatment if he does get help?

I hate to break it to you dude but therapy or other types of help will not assist him if he is truly a sociopath. There is no way that science has come up with to help sociopaths "grow" empathy. There are no effective treatments known at this time. It is your choice to stay friends with him or not, but he won't "get better," that simply doesn't happen for people with personality disorders. I would suggest doing more research on the subject. Either way he cannot be legally diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (the real name given by the DSM for sociopathy) until he is 18. If I were you, I would stay on my guard around him. If it becomes obvious that he is emotionally draining you and it becomes a threat to your personal well-being, if only emotionally or mentally, then you will need to slowly distance yourself from him - it is much harder to suddenly cut off a relationship with a sociopath than it is to slowly creep away from them. This will give him time to find a new person to use. Again this is up to you, but stay on your guard. He may never use you in this way but then again he may decide to suddenly do so.

Good luck.

<p>He always said don't hurt me. After years of horrid emotional abuse and promises of a good life, I exposed him. I'm sure he hates me now. With nowhere to go he finaly checked himself into Rehab.</p>What will happen next?

There is no cure for being a sociopath. It is considered a mental disorder, but has no cure, no fix. Likely the emotions will continue to be faked, more efficiency. I know from experience, but rehab won't help. It is who he his, and by trying to literally change something that is unchangeable will just make things worse.
-Patrick

I need help protecting myself from a sociopath who is a regular at the bar I work at. I was seeing him for about two months and started to see warning signs. I was with a sociopath for five years. I am a little in fear and I don't want to loose my job. Because I have been through this before I already know people are going to have trouble believing me.

So what you're saying is... at best my boyfriend who demands he loves me could just feel an attachment towards me?

Also... how do I leave him?

I dont expect easy... I just want to be safe.

What happens if you try to break up with a sociopath ? He knows I am unhappy and I've caught him cheating and is constantly telling me I'm the crazy one . Every time I try to break up , it's more I love yous . If he wants to cheat why does he have to be in a relationship? And why does the charm go back to the way it was in the beginning , also the sex was great and now it's like I have to beg for it. I just don't get it, please help.

What would you do to hurt a narcissist when the narcissist tried to claim all the pride from the jobs that you've done?
Or, what would you do to counter against another sociopath?

I have not been diagnosed with any mental abnormality of any kind, granted I have never talked to a talked to a doctor. Starting early during infancy, I was intrigued in causing pain. I started torturing my toys at the age of 3-4. I got great pleasure out of it, for awhile. I got bored with it as I aged. By the time I was around five, my mother bought a cat that was pregnant at the time. The cat had a litter of kittens and lets just say I wasn't bored for awhile. My mother found out what I was doing with the kittens so she ended up giving them away instead of seeking them, I was left bored again. I starts moving on to my brother and mother. My father was not in the picture because he was a con-artist, and was in and out of prison and had numerous ex wives and many kids to take care of. I've never seen him. Anyways as I moved on to my brother, I began testing him and trying to figure out my limitations and what exactly I could do and try to constantly push the limits emotionally. Shortly after I started, a close relative of mine died, my mother and brother were mourning the death of him. While I was looking at them trying to understand what was going on. Granted I was about 8 years of age, I joined in with them, tried to copy my brother. I slowly got good at showing the emotion I had practiced that now I can cry on the spot. I have had 4 relationships, all of which ended but I still have control of them. They all think I love them and I tell them exactly what they need to hear to keep them around. I have 7 different families who all consider me family and would do what ever I want them to do at the drop of a hat. Although I fantasize about killing people, it would be inconvenient to be locked up in prison where I had no control over my things. I don't care to much about being diagnosed, I'm simply curious as to what you think about my life.

I recently learned someone at the office is a sociopath. Where do I go from here?

Do I confront and set boundaries around our interactions?
Do I avoid/play along in an emotionally diffusing way?
Should I pretend I don't know? Is it better if they know I know or worse?
Also, do sociopaths see people in varying degrees of likeability or is every person weighted/treated the same?

Just wondering how you learned that they were a sociopath? It seems to be a label tossed around freely and inaccurately.

Someone they hurt and got away researched what happened for weeks. I've seen and heard about their experiences, coupled with my own experiences, and that of one other person, plus general observations of behavioural patterns, I see on a daily basis.

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My mom, some of my friends, my dad, my housemates, my ex-boyfriends all told me I had sociopathic tendencies. I admit that I lie, a lot. Mostly to get out of trouble or make myself look better than I am. I have manipulated so many people to get what I want, but then who hasn't. I have broken men down. I sometimes act selfishly. When I say I'm sorry, I mean it. I would never use the word lightly. I know when I should and shouldn't feel sorry. Yet, I get screamed at because, "you're not sorry at all! You're a lying little ****." When my dad was ill I was by his side every day. When he died I didn't cry. I handled everyone that day he died, and watched them cry and smash things, and storm out the house. And then I got told off because "you don't care." I went upstairs, I saw my dad in my mind, and I cried and cried. And I wake up every morning saying I miss him. And when I need to talk about it all, everyone bottles it up, so I can't let my emotions out. My mom thinks that I don't really love her. I never hugged her as a child. I never talked to her as a child. And growing up I was difficult. My dad wold ask me why I never hugged mom. In my memories I remember mostly talking to my mom. I remember hugging her when she put plasters on my knees because I fell off my bike, and how I used to tell her I loved her. My friends talk at Uni talk about me behind my back and say I'm a manipulator, and a loner. I admit I don't love for the right reasons. I want to be in love with someone I can fix, because I can't fix myself, and no body will help me. It's selfish of me, but also selfless of me. I feel love. I feel regret. I feel anger, sadness, happiness sometimes, and I feel jealous just like any body. I have tried to kill myself 3 times now. I am obviously not that good at it, and I obviously don't want to do it, because I'd have been dead by now. Every time I was saved, I'd say, "I don't really want to die. I couldn't let that destroy my mother and the rest of my family." Even though I think it's selfish that they'll act badly if I do kill myself, I also know it's selfish to relieve myself from the world.
In all honesty, the term hurts. I am with a sociopath who truly understands me, yet I know he exploits my weaknesses. I can read him like a book, and he knows it. He's become nervous of me. Tries to tell me I am the sociopath, not him, when confronted on his personality flaws.
I am a desperate, suicidal girl. I am 20, and I have felt this way since I was about 10. My family, my friends and others have all turned their backs on me because I have no "love" or "compassion". I can't help but feel I need to help children who are ill. When I see them in hospital, it breaks my heart that some have no hope.
Yet this is all an act apparently. Is everyone around me trying to make me kill myself? Are some of my family sociopaths? Or are they all just ignorant because they'd rather it be a disorder, than just because I am genuinely unhappy in this world? Because no parent, no friend, no co-worker wants to see that truth. That for some, living is not an option.
I truly respect sociopaths. I love my boyfriend. He makes me unhappy, but I love him. At least with him, there is no feeing. And I wish that I didn't have to feel. I wish I didn't have to be hurt by the people I love. I wish everyone was right about me.

No. I said I didn't feel I had sociopathic tendencies. That is what everyone tells me I am. I am completely the opposite. Yes, I have flaws just like all humans :) I just have a hard time in my own head, but I certainly feel. If it were a diagnosis, I'd believe it.
I have no support. Not because people don't care. Because they are afraid of me. And some they are just too busy in their world. And that's not a bad thing.
I seem intelligent only because I have been taught how to seem intelligent by others. Not because I actually am. I'm incredibly irrational.

>>>"When I say I'm sorry, I mean it. I would never use the word lightly." --- You have Borderine Personality Disorder written all over you. Your parents, housemates and whoever else are simply ignorant if you're telling the truth in this post. Manipulative but you feel REMORSE - BPD. Not to mention, everything else you said screamed out BPD.

Hi Amanda, I joined the group specifically so I could respond to you. You are NOT a sociopath. You do not suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. If had HAD to give a label for this situation I would say you might be co-dependant. I believe from what you have written that you are being abused by your family. You might even be the family scapegoat. I'm sorry these people are making you doubt yourself. That alone is evidence that you are not what they accuse you of being. Research co-dependency, it may help. If anyone in your family drinks too much, try attending Alanon Family Groups. It might help. Best of luck <3

TO ANYBODY WHO IS LEGITIMATELY SEEKING HELP:
THIS IS NOT A HEALTHY SPACE. FOR YOUR OWN SAKE, PLEASE TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL OR SOMEBODY YOU TRUST IN REAL LIFE INSTEAD OF USING THIS THREAD.

Mental issues are tricky things to deal with. They are by no means insurmountable, but if you’re going to try to tackle one head on, you’re going to need support and empathy and and compassion from the people around you, and you’re going to want to get help from somebody who knows the condition inside and out—and I’m sad to say that, apart from a few exceptions, that’s not what you’re going to get on this thread. No--if you come here looking for support, you will almost certainly not receive the advice and understanding you need; just a lot of recrimination and hot air.

When push comes to shove, the truth is that most people—myself very much included—don’t really know what they’re talking about when it comes to mental health. If you need advice, it’s better to talk to a licensed physician with years worth of study under their belt than to some guy who gets all his knowledge about psychology from Law and Order—and if you need support, it’s better to talk to somebody whom you trust and who cares about you than to some random guy on a message board.

Good luck—and take care.

Not all sociopaths are sociopaths, per se, lol. There is such a thing as sociopathic tendencies, and there certainly is such a thing as a sociopath with narcissism, with or without varying degrees of tendencies of either.

Incidentally, not all sociopaths victimize innocent people. There are some that only hunt other sociopaths - more points. Sociopaths who prey on the innocent are not challenging themselves enough.

Challenge accepted!

A boy who is in my class, and an admitted sociopath, told me "I see you as something important." I am admittedly upbeat and empathetic, but I don't know what he meant.

if he really is a sociopath, i suggest you should pay more attention to this keyword: "something", not "someone". and now you know what he meant.

i'm not old, kinda young
14 almost 15
and i do think that i am a sociopath
i don't give a **** what people think about me, or how i act, or what i look like
and same, if someone handed me a knife, and told me i wouldn't get caught murdering, there are more than a handful that i would
i don't know what other people do normally, but i need to be entertained, or "something that's my fault" happens
i manipulate those around me and i don't care that i do
because if you really need to know something, don't ask me.
if you really think, people that don't believe me, that this isn't a real thing, or that people are just making it up for fun, i can gaurantee that that's not the case
there are people that make this up, but i'm not one of them

i am 16 and i think i am a sociopath i have all the traits as some would say.<br />
were do i go to get help for this.

It's been a few years since your post. Are you still responding?

You are awesome

You're NOT a sociopath. You're the third person I've seen on the internet that thinks they're a sociopath. It makes you feel cool and special doesn't it? Everybody wants to kill someone they hate. Everyone wants to get revenge on an ex. The fact that you didn't physically hurt anyone plus the fact that you're spending time on the internet saying you're a sociopath proves that you're not one. Don't fear though, because revenge-seeking and attention-seeking people such as yourself fit the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or narcissist. You may be similar to a sociopath but you're definitely not a real one. If you were a sociopath you would be plotting against a victim not writing about yourself on the internet like a narcissist. "(Normal people call it Motive i believe)" lol you obviously have a low IQ if you think a sociopath would take pride in being a sociopath. Oh and one more thing, learn proper grammar if you're going to write for the public. Anyone with just a little bit of intelligence is laughing at your posts. Get a life loser. It looks like some people actually believe you're a maniacal abuser, oh my goodness I can't believe how stupid some people really are.

Let's go over some things together, shall we?

You: Sociopaths always physically hurt someone and lack self control( I add this because judging by your writing that's what you're heading).
Truth: Only marginally correct. The lower functioning sociopaths tend to get caught and put into prisons and it can also be confirmed that majority of inmates are sociopaths or psychopaths (They are actually the violent ones fyi).
You: Sociopaths do not gloat about their triumphs or write about their goals.
Truth: This is completely false. In fact, most Sociopaths enjoy talking about their past and hold a high regard to their ability to manipulate others to get what they want. Narcissism and Sociopathy share that common trait, the only difference is a narcissist won't try to really **** with you unless you do something to mess with their "image" A Sociopath will do it just out of boredom.
You: Sociopaths obsess over plotting.
Truth:....OK....you got that one pretty good. But we don't let it consume us. I'll also add this here because I can. Sociopaths tend to actually have a higher than average IQ but as with any statistic there are variations and outliers that must be considered.
The rest of your post isn't my concern. No matter how many books you read, you'll never understand Sociopathic behavior. Only what some ******* watching prisoners was able to figure out.

I think u r not getting the point here this is someone who is simply describing what a socipath is but spiffed it up and made it into first person form..im sure this person who wrote this knows that a real sociopath doesnt acknowledge themselves as such and thinks this way at all. It think this person made it in a humorous way how if a socipath could see things maybe its this way..but we know its not.come on we all r not this stupid..give the guy some credit ..bravo on the description of a socipath!!

I had a child with a sociopath. He managed to get custody. I've been off/on with him for months. I want to get him back to how he would pursue me. My motive is to get my son, by any means (legally) necessary. How do I get him to want me again? I am beautiful, smart, and funny. We were together 5 years. I don't love him anymore and he can't hurt me anymore. I've managed to become a robot when I'm with him to make him believe I still love him, but he is wishy-washy.

You dumbass that person isn't a sociopath! You're beautiful, smart, and funny? That's up to other people to decide, not you. The fact that you say you're those three things tells me you're most likely ugly, ignorant, and just plain stupid. Nobody cares about you or your ******* problems! Get the **** out of here!

I'm sorry my post for help somehow offended you. I know these things about myself because of observations of others. People that have these qualities know it. Trust me. But since you clearly don't have advice for me, please proceed trolling the internet for other help sites that you can criticize the victim. Idiot.

Hi, I've always tried to figure my boyfriend out, he acts like a sociopath, I fell in love with him deeply, and him with me, I think!! I left him cos he was always running me down, and at first i was strong, he wanted me back so I went back, as time went on, I left him few more times, for other reasons, he always blames me,and now he is not bothered about having me back, he said cos i left him to many times, and its very easy for him to just cut of, If I give him what he wants he'll have me back, but its so wrong, he wants me to give up my son. Im so hurt cos I thought he loved me, and now he's moving on and he's fine, he has hurt me a lot now by calling me a **** for moving in to early and other stuff, but he was soo loving before. I know he is probally not right for me cos he abuses me emotionally, he's nice to me when he's getting what he wants. Im just finding it really hard to get over him. would he ever consider going out with me again in the future, eventhough he said he never goes back! he says a lot of things but then does what he wants!!! he's very manipulative he broke my relationship with my parents and told me if i left him i would lose everything he got rid of all my stuff but told me he still loved me and blamed me for it, im still scared that he follows through with things he threatened me with... I really hate him for hurting me and want to hurt him back, but know that if he would hurt me back again worse. Its horrible actually knowing that he doesn't really care about me even though he's taking me round shops showing me the ring he wanted to buy me, all the things he did for me and told me how much he loved me... he was soo horrible to my son though he would call him names cos his father is from morroco so he would call him a half breed, and last time I left I did it for my son cos he was hurting him, I was so torn cos I left and still loved him. I miss him so much, and wonder if he misses me!! and would ever take me back!! thanks in advance!

Oh boo hoo hoo, I'm bursting into tears at your story -_- Nobody cares about anyone honey the only person that really cares about you is you. Everyone has the same problem. You're NOT special.

This is a very unhealthy relationship for you. You know this in your heart, but you are too deeply in love to be able to act upon it. I think the best thing for you right now is to talk to a grief counselor. You need to move on as if this guy died, and you could never see him again. He does not care about you at all. From what you say it sounds like he is a pathological liar as well. I wouldn't advise that you believe anything he says, whether it is negative or positive. He's probably looking for a new victim right now. Moving on from him might be the hardest thing for you to do, but a grief counselor can help you do this. Do whatever it takes to move forward and not look back.

Out of curiosity.............why would you a sociopath want people who are not to know how you or other sociopaths think or behave?

Because he's not a sociopath, he's a wannabe. There are others on the internet just like him.

After loosing everything.. Almost my two boys as well because of being with my ex who I'm certain she is a Sociopath.My sons and I are in counseling 2 days a week and I am aware know I am codependent.. Or to her a perfect target. Right?Of course reading about any mental illness more often they are directed toward men it seems. But when it comes to the female sociopath, I can't find the answers I'm looking for. One is: Many postings say they are sexual. She hated sex, being touched or reciprocating emotions. She constantly had female issues that prevented any intimacy. Once she said that whenever I tried to be intimate with her she felt like I was raping or violating her. In which, I was devastated by her comments. So I didn't touch her unless she instigated it. Then it was, I didn't love her or I was cheating and so on. Is this sociopath behavior?

hi, my gay best friend drunkenly 'confessed' to me that he thinks he's a sociopath. He says he feels no empathy, always moodless, and has learned how to act socially from observing other people. He knows he has no reason to feel superior but still does, and knows he's a horrible person but can't care about it. He told me that this is the most real I have ever seen him and everything about him is fake. He is my best friend, I have a connection with him unlike any other, we activate something in each other that cannot be activated by anyone else. I don't care about the sociopathic behaviour, I've always know not to go to him when I'm down, and I accept that he does his own thing but I don't really care because the time we spend together is fun and I have other people in my life to cater for my other needs, FUN is what I get from him. However I'm questioning our friendship as a whole, when we're having fun is he actually having fun or is all the banter we have going on fake? It's always us to over everybody else, we have our private jokes no one else gets, and everyone sees we have a close (supposedly close) friendship. Thing is, the same night we had this talk he really wanted to see his boyfriend and couldn't articulate why, to a ridiculous degree, but commented when I pointed out this fact that he would be feeling more strongly about it if he was a 'normal person'. He also said he has felt down before after a family tragedy but that how he felt after a very close family member died was comparative to not receiving any presents on christmas day. I'm not doubting him, though I'm finding it hard to deal with, but are there levels of sociopathy? Is all the banter we have fake? Is he labelling himself too soon? Is it depression? He also commented that he couldn't have unattractive friends. Sociopathy or just a rich kid with a lack of relative and perspective? I'm not sure what to do.

I'm going through the same thing right now. We meet for breakfast and dinner once a week, and we laugh at a lot of stuff. We are almost like two of a kind when we are together. However, I know he does not have any capacity to care about anyone, and he has no conscience. As much as I like hanging with him, I question whether this is a healthy friendship. I don't know why he keeps inviting me to eat with him, since we are complete opposites emotionally. I often listen to him complain about somebody else, when he is guilty himself of what he complains about. One side of me wants to keep hanging with him. The other side tells me to stay away from him. I'm not sure what to do either.

How do I make the sociopath suffer? How do I make him feel the violation and shame that he has made me feel?

I don't think you can ever cause him to feel shame and you definitely will never make him feel remorse. From what I read the absolute worst thing you can do to him or her is make it known that you know what he/she really is. They don't like being found out but you have to be prepared to go through hell because they will get very nasty. Depending on the particular sociopath, it may even be extremely dangerous. The best thing you can do is not have any contact with him at all. As long as you continue speaking to him or her, you are giving her your power. You will, therefore continue to feel violated ans ashamed. I know, because I hadn't seen my ex in months and as soon as I gave in and saw him, all the progress I had made went right out the window and all over again, I felt like I lost all my power. It IS a horribly violating feeling. Ever since I saw him that day and he kissed me, I have been disgusted with myself and can't stand being touched by anyone.

I don't think you understand. My life, lives of my family, and our safety has already been threatened, and he may kill me. I have already established no contact. Things have already gotten very ugly an he has violated me in every way shape and form. I a forever damaged....untouchable, I have jabbed him in every way I know. I have not only called him what he refuses to allow someone to call him, but I have explained why those names are true. I ******** him of his power over me and manhood all in one swipe. I'm not done. I want to make him suffer. I want to **** him off every day. I want him to be the source of his suffering. I want his anguish to be painstakingly slow. What will hurt him? Me exposing him? Me messing with his life? What types of things do sociopaths value? How do I destroy him?

*str ipped him
*pi ssed

***pi ss not pi ssed

Maybe that's all I need to do, take away his power over me. I have already hurt him in ways most people can not by hitting him where it hurts. I have stri oped him of his manhood. I have taken what he asked me to never take away, away from him. He wants to destroy me. Is being successful and acting like I don't care really that much of a blow to his ego? Does he want to engage in combat w me? Does he see himself as a driving force in my life? I want him destitute. What if I pity him? How does that change the game?

I agree with Arguendo it sounds like you're the sociopath here, not him.

You sound like a sociopath to me

Rape him. Kill him. How would you violate or shame Ted Bundy? ARealSociopath is obviously not even a sociopath dumbass. I bet if I told everyone that responded to this moron that "by drinking poisoned cool aid they would go to heaven" they would do it. Rob Zombie was right, some people such as yourself are idiots.

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So my ex is a sociopath or maybe psychopath, I'm not sure about all the differences but anyway, when I met him, I didn't love him. I don't fall in love easily and even though he IMMEDIATELY started love bombing me, it did not make me love him. It actually freaked me out and made me want to distance myself, but he went on to pursue me for close to two years continually love bombing me and idealizing me till I finally did fall in love with him, then he preceded with all of the typical steps that follow the love bombing stage and basically completely and utterly destroyed every aspect of my life but my question is, why would he pursue me for so long? I was a strong, independent, confident woman and there would have been thousands of easier targets to prey on. Why would he fixate on me? Why did the idealization phase last so much longer than normal?

You were a challenge. You. Added spice to the game. Destroying you was more satisfying.

I can't stand to be touched either. I feel like he was raping me every time we had sex.

I feel like every time he touched me, every time he spoke to me, and every moment we existed together was nothing more than him violating me, raping my soul, my body. I feel like he found a way to rape me down to my veins. I lost my friends, my family, my job, my health, and my sanity because of all the ways he violated and victimized me. You are not alone.

Well you let him do it you dumbass. I'm sick and tired of hearing girls complain about a bad ex when the whole time they let him treat them like crap. If you allowed him to disrespect you in a relationship then he will lose respect for you. He's not a sociopath, you're just an insecure and desperate girl :) Now go cut yourself in the bathroom LOL

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