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I Am a Sociopath

Sociopath Anonymous

By: pg
Written on June 3rd, 2008

I lie, I cheat and steal as well. I would like a group like AA so be able to stop and live my life without the stress -- accept life as it comes and make the best of it...I am so tired an soon I will be in jail unless I can stop... how to start an 12 step group for US?...

I am in Miami

By: pg
Age: 31-35
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    jing6
    jing6

    You are not a sociopath I would know because I am one I lack remorse, guilt, shame, or comppasion you obviously arnt a sociopath you are just convincing yourself you are

    May 8
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    Hatamor
    Hatamor

    lol you're not a sociopath... you're just stupid.

    Apr 10
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    FrankGallagher
    FrankGallagher

    No, you are not a sociopath. You can lie cheat and steal all you want, but as long as you (for lack of a better phrase) "have feelings" of remorse, you most definitely are not.
    For example, when I do something "bad", I don't wish I didn't do it. Rather, I do my best not to infringe on the rules society sets simply so I don't get noticed. Self preservation is my main concern, and if you were truly a sociopath, you would be the same.

    Jan 24
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    ldica
    ldica

    Merry Jerry, you said in another post that you take very good care of your old shoes. Too bad your new shoe didn't agree to be worn and you returned it damaged. That shoe was too classy and never would have let a sociopath wear it. A regular Jackie Kennedy, speaks French, educated in Northeast, lived in Paris, London, etc. Horseback riding, ballet, rich family. Be careful where you land that plane. The person waiting on the tarmac might not be a DPM but a better lawyer than the one you'll need.

    Sep 8, 2012
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    Coco2345
    Coco2345

    Just create rules of conduct for yourself, things that keep you from those bad behaviors. To Demonicca, we feel fear, it drives most of the things we do, we don't feel empathy, two very different things.

    Jul 17, 2012
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    Darkenedsun
    Darkenedsun

    It is my understanding that sociopaths do not feel fear. Since you feel fear and seem to want to change, maybe you can. Support groups are very helpful in prison environments. Have you been diagnosed a sociopath?

    Jul 11, 2012
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      notjustmeoryou
      notjustmeoryou

      Sociopaths also wouldn't care what other people think about them, therefore not need to post that they are a sociopath on a social network site

      Nov 21, 2012
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    SURVIVALINSTINCT
    SURVIVALINSTINCT

    I agree there should be SA. I am in philly. I went to AA and I understood the concent very well. Too bad I can not change. I can lie to myself all I can but I am always the same.

    May 21, 2012
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      Darkenedsun
      Darkenedsun

      I am getting worse with age. I guess we want to be this way. I think it may be in the wiring or the brain. I don't know. I can't find a support group for myself. Probably isn't one. I wish there were one.

      Jul 12, 2012
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      MaryJanesAwash
      MaryJanesAwash

      Wiring, the brain, yes. Dealing with how you really are is what I call moral behavior. Sure, it's lonely, often scary. That's how real life is for lots of us. Unreal life is not worth the trouble anyway. D'moniker, I believe in your progress, so here we are: a support group of two. Presumptious, okay, but I'm old enough you could cut me some slack.

      Jul 23, 2012
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      SURVIVALINSTINCT
      SURVIVALINSTINCT

      thanks for the comment. This one as well as the one on my other story. I really like your nick and sorry to hear about you fading memory. Loniness sucks. I am glad you are on ep.

      Jul 24, 2012
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    Fifthhorsemanofapocalypse
    Fifthhorsemanofapocalypse

    I am a sociopath too, I guess. Im not sure yet, maybe some extreme borderline. But Ill have some brainscan soon.

    I don't have certain feelings like 'normal' people, but ive done things in my past I feel in a rational way, not emotional, guilty about. So I'm having a lot of questions; if im born with this or made by society? Neurology or genes?

    And can I use my disorder for 'good' , 'bad' or 'neutral' by choice? If yes maybe I could find some purpose in unmask other sociopaths between the financial political corporate swines?

    Apr 24, 2012
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    mutedsanity
    mutedsanity

    pg,

    Unfortunately, since sociopaths tend to be predators, they cannot interact very civilly to one another once they are exposed. It would be a constant struggle for domination and control within the group, which would be counter-productive.

    In a very real sense, no one here who is sociopath can help you because they are, by definition, unable to empathize. Even people with the power to empathize cannot help either because they do not know what it is like to not have higher emotions.

    It is unusual for sociopaths to reach out, but even we want to know what we are, sometimes. What is unfortunate is that we must go at it truly alone, for we are not like most people, in a very fundamental way, and we cannot band together cohesively because of what we are.

    The most contact and support you can find will most likely be here, or on sites like this, because of our tendency to clash. If you read the comment section of any of these stories, I think you will get a feel for what the discussions would end up as.

    Also, I would readily meet with you, but I am inconveniently on the other side of the country.

    J

    Mar 24, 2012
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      FrankGallagher
      FrankGallagher

      Untrue. Saying all "sociopaths tend to be predators" is painting all of us with a broad stroke. Most sociopaths know there is something "wrong" with them, and therefore do their best to act normal, and ultimately not be labeled "different". I for one, do my best to hide my otherwise natural instincts. How then am I a predator? How, if not acted upon, can predatory instincts automatically label one as a predator?

      Jan 24
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    whosgonnasavemysoulnow
    whosgonnasavemysoulnow

    Everyone has sociopathic tendencies!!

    Nov 5, 2011
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      jbourgeois
      jbourgeois

      It's funny, I was just thinking the same thing today. Lots of "normal" white people routinely committed unspeakable acts of cruelty against black people in this country not so long ago, and that was condoned by society. I'm sure many of those people weren't true sociopaths, yet they would remorseless and feel justified in their actions.

      May 9
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    youareme
    youareme

    boredom. displaced. is it actually wrong, or the beginning of evolution....

    Jul 11, 2011
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      MerryJerry
      MerryJerry

      sociopaths are not the bext step Up the evolutionary ladder, but a throwback. It is devolutionary. Higher primates share the ability to look out for others In their community. To care for, and Nurture. To the extent that a sociopath does Not feel a connection to others around him, he is Not a step forward, but a step backward.

      Jan 13, 2012
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      kathith
      kathith

      really- read a book before you write something like that! dont know what i mean? google evolutionary social standards

      Feb 12, 2012
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      knowinglyunknown
      knowinglyunknown

      I agree with you, but that's not our problem, is it? that's for the future generations to deal with.

      Jun 1, 2012
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      SalemSalem79
      SalemSalem79

      I agree with Merry but there is a lot of disagreement on the subject.

      Jul 8, 2012
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    tinglelala
    tinglelala

    If you want to stop stealing, just get a job and stop. How hard is that?

    Jun 29, 2011
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      kaardiinaal
      kaardiinaal

      my god!!! you must be some kind of nobel ****** price!!! so clever!!!! (hope you're smart enough to feel the irony of my comment)

      Feb 13, 2012
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    Pity4Sociopaths
    Pity4Sociopaths

    A Sociopath "friend" stole thousands of dollars from me after the horrific death of my child. My Sociopath husband has stolen decades of my life. He has recently been discovered to be a pathological liar and has become abusive since his "mask" or "false self" has been revealed. If our world consisted of 90% Sociopaths rather than 6% society would not function. THANK GOD for those with empathy, compassion and a conscience that bring joy, happiness, harmony and LOVE to this fallen world. Otherwise, suicide, divorce, murder and chaos would prevail. I would rather live within my current pain, than never know true love and emotional intimacy. Those without are an empty shell and most will likely spend eternity in Hell, since they despise authority. God is the ultimate authority for all human beings. Sociopaths will ultimately lose ALL CONTROL at the time of death. Since I have the gift of compassion and empathy, I'm not laughing at you... I pity you.

    May 23, 2011
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      SalemSalem79
      SalemSalem79

      Something tells me you should look a little deeper into yourself. I don't believe your ex husband or ex friend is the problem. I think the problem is that you are incredibly ******* stupid. How could you be married to a sociopath for ten years and not even realize it? You have obviously chosen to associate with the wrong people in your life, which in turn tells me you are incredibly unintelligent or just very naive.

      Jul 8, 2012
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      MaryJanesAwash
      MaryJanesAwash

      Wrong. By early self-training, the s. typically has extraordinarily effective ways of masking. I knew a (deceased) s. who fooled some very astute observers for decades.

      Jul 23, 2012
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      berangere
      berangere

      I too was married to someone I could call a psychopath,he was manipulative and I was naive! some very intelligent people can be fooled by sociopaths,I am so sorry for what you went through,sociopath alway pick on the vulnerable and know whom they can victimise,they are very adept at it.

      Nov 21, 2012
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    Pity4Sociopaths
    Pity4Sociopaths

    A Sociopath "friend" stole thousands of dollars from me after the horrific death of my child. My Sociopath husband has stolen decades of my life. He has recently been discovered to be a pathological liar and has become abusive since his "mask" or "false self" has been revealed. If our world consisted of 90% Sociopaths rather than 6% society would not function. THANK GOD for those with empathy, compassion and a conscience that bring joy, happiness, harmony and LOVE to this fallen world. Otherwise, suicide, divorce, murder and chaos would prevail. I would rather live within my current pain, than never know true love and emotional intimacy. Those without are an empty shell and most will likely spend eternity in Hell, since they despise authority. God is the ultimate authority for all human beings. Sociopaths will ultimately lose ALL CONTROL at the time of death. Since I have the gift of compassion and empathy, I'm not laughing at you... I pity you.

    May 23, 2011
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      MerryJerry
      MerryJerry

      If you believe in God, and the latest research shows that a true Sociopath is as he is, either from genetic predisposition followed by early cgildgood experiences that lead to it's expression, then God can be said to have made the sociopath what he is. Why would God do that to anyone?

      Jan 13, 2012
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      flip12
      flip12

      You just seem angry about the people who hurt you in the past. Had those people been "emphatic" and still hurt you, would you really have said all "emphatic" people will go to hell? Surely you have to admit, you're making quite a blind and over-general statement.

      Apr 25, 2012
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      knowinglyunknown
      knowinglyunknown

      if people like you didn't exist, it'd be harder to exploit people, so "THANK GOD" indeed.
      have fun attracting more of us. that's what you're doomed to.

      Jun 1, 2012
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      knowinglyunknown
      knowinglyunknown

      I've realized what god is. permitting any potential to manifest without intervention, so what does that mean? we're free to exploit the hell out of this place. and it's our ballpark

      Jun 1, 2012
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      knowinglyunknown
      knowinglyunknown

      ;) I attend church. are you a christian too?

      Jun 1, 2012
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    StarWanderer
    StarWanderer

    Who is God as you understand Him? Do you believe this God can help you? Are you willing to turn your will and life over to His Care wholeheartedly and unreservedly?

    Feb 24, 2011
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    bdfr
    bdfr

    When you realized you were a sociopath as you say, what came to mind?

    I ask this because there are two paths it could take, one leads to true sociopathy and the other to a simple pathological criminalistic personality.

    Do you want an AA group so that you can have help to become 'normal' or to avoid prison?

    Do you think there is something wrong with being a sociopath?

    Do you feel guilt about what you have done?

    Jan 16, 2011
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      MerryJerry
      MerryJerry

      a good question since a true sociopath feels zero guilt over anything they have done. zero consiounce means zero guilt. reminds me of the al pacino scene in " The devil's advocate." where he implores Keeanu to " drop that heavy bag of guilt."

      Jan 13, 2012
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      kaardiinaal
      kaardiinaal

      sure a "true" sociopath doesn't feel guilt at all, but there is more than one level in sociopathy...

      Feb 13, 2012
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      flip12
      flip12

      Oh good point! If I'm answering that question it would be to avoid prison. I'm guessing that's the sociopath's route but no matter.

      The second question is a little loaded. Plenty of empaths I know assert that there's nothing inherently wrong with being a sociopath; it's the actions that sociopaths often chose to take that makes them wrong.

      And for the last if I ever figure out what everyone means by "guilt" in the first place, I'll be able to answer that last one. : )

      Apr 25, 2012
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    ottootto22
    ottootto22

    Go to AA, or NA and work the twelve steps. I've been doing it for 10 years, ever since I got busted for armed bank robbery. It has helped me develope a conscience and become a truly happier person as I use my sociopathic talents for good, not evil.

    Jan 4, 2011
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    Vhyre
    Vhyre

    There is no help. If you are truly sociopathic then accept it and use it too your advantage. Ive dealt with this all of my life. You may feel youre missing something...and you are...a conscience. Im over being disturbed about it.

    In some cases it goes away on its own in your 40's. In my case it didnt. All the accepted wisdom is that treatment and a cure are non existent. Good Luck.

    Jul 7, 2008
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      kathith
      kathith

      i agree i am in my 40s and if anything i am worse now- but i live with it just fine and doctors just want to talk about your feelings- but i have none so whats the use of paying 200 bucks an hour ?

      Feb 12, 2012
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    RioMan123
    RioMan123

    Your story is awfly short. Do you think you provide some more details (no, I'm not a cop!)?

    Jun 5, 2008
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