My Fault

Basically you just liked some girl and went after her, you were smart to do that . Sure you took it a little far showing up at her work , also you should have been more awair of her ability to deduce why you were there. However a real stalker would still be bothering her, your not a stalker, your young and inexperienced.Events like you discribed aren't just embarrassing, they eat at a persons self esteam. You can take comfort in the fact that we all screw up like that. Just don't do it againe. You do have the social skills and the guts to find a girl though, I woulden't sweat it. Your problem is self hatred which unchecked, can be dangerous. You might go see a councillor, a large majority of people need to and don't so they end up getting their psychiatric care from Dr Jack Danials or Dr Jim Beam and their just no help at all.

I can agree with SugarSpoon85, that your "wrong" comments or messages have probably been forgiven by the first girl, and that you should try to move on. Don't be quick to think that moving on will happen quickly though. I also wonder about my own self-image, I also wonder if someone received my message, I also wonder if the first girl I stalked has really forgiven my "wrong" comments, and I also still remember my obsession, and have occasionally turned back to it. Obsession is, in a practical sense, consistently remembering something or someone. When people say you need to "get out of your rut", they do not say this without logic on their side. I has been observed that you are more likely to remember something when you are in the same mood as when it happened. So, as long as you are in similar situations as when you stalked the first girl (worried about your self-image, worried about what she thought, unhappy, etc.) your obsession is more likely to come back. The call back to obsession is almost always powerful but "being happy" might be one of the better ways to counter it. Your path to escape obsession most likely lies within that piece of advice. That being said, I suppose all I can offer at this point is to tell you to sit-down and re-evaluate how you feel about the first girl, and then to re-evaluate every interest you've had since her up to the second girl, re-evaluate your feelings for her, and then re-evaluate your feelings for all after her. Once there, think without prejudice, find what you search. Good luck and happy hunting.

Stop freaking out about what to say to a girl. You gotta be your own man, develop your confidence and personality and realize that you someday will be the kind of guy that girls will like to talk to not because you are so worried about what they think or say, but because you are educated and fun to talk to. You can't be that guy if you are always worried about "getting a girl" and why do all these girls "look alike?" no girl is going to want to be liked because they look like someone else you liked. They want to be recognized that they are their own individual and they are beautiful for what makes them different. You sound really young, and you gotta know that you have to not worry about dating. You have to worry about what you are doing now that will get you where you want to be in 5 years. It's the creepers that don't have goals in life, and girls are never interested in phony conversations or guys that don't have other interests or goals in life. So Chill, live life and be happy!

aaww dang that sucks:/ but you do sound a lil creepy you shouldve just stopped with tthe first message next time dont be so clingy be confident itll work out:]