Stay At Home.....

Ok i love my kids and husband and would do anything for them, but every now and then want some attention thrown my way. Is that too much to ask for. I have a 7 year old daughter and 4 year old twins (band g) they are my everything. I dont really have a soical life since ive had kids, and unless im on the internet or my parents call i dont talk to adults ever.
dani dani
26-30, F
11 Responses May 14, 2007

I totally understand that feeling. We moms must have some time to ourselves, and a support system. My husband has been pretty good about letting me get out now and then when I ask him. I feel guilty asking too much though! A great support has been the moms groups that I have joined. You can find them on www.meetup.com sometimes. I also am in one called MOMS Club and there may be a chapter in your town as they are part of an international org. I've met some great ladies through these groups. Currently I am in one through my church that has really been a blessing. We meet once a week for 2 hours and childcare is provided. It is a refreshing break I look forward to every week

I am a stay at home mom who is running out of options . I need encouragement, suggestions . I am new at this all together. This is my first time of trying to communicate with other stay at home moms. Don't know what to say to get started, Feel so dumb at times . Never have really had a social life I guess you could say. So if you have time or the want to I am looking for friends and suggestions. I thought I was doing the right thing by choosing to stay at home with my girls but I'm not so sure that I made the right decision or not.

I would have given anything to stay home with my son when he was small, but I was a single mom and had to work. It hurt every time I went to pick him up and the babysitter said, "He said his first word today" or "He took his first steps." It broke my heart and I will take that regret to the grave. <br />
My son is now a stay-at-home dad and suffers from some of your frustrations. He has managed to get involved with a small group of "stay-at-homes" and they usually have coffee or lunch every day and let the kids play. They meet at parks, beaches, and on some days, a hiking trail. Someone always brings treats and the socializing is good for the parents and the kids. You have the perfect medium to work from with the internet. I am sure you could find -- or start -- a "meet-up" group in your area at www.meetup.com. Good luck -- and trust me, you will cherish this time with your child. It is irreplaceable!

i wonder what advise should I give, whene I am struggling with same quetion many times. :)<br />
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PLEASE...do yourslef a favor...get involved with something outside of the house. Volunteer...join a group...create a neighborhood club...look up some old friends. Trust me...I was a stay at home mom of 6...I loved and do love them with all my heart...they are all grown now...BUT...three years ago, I became divorced and found myself with no friends...no interests...and no employment histiry. I luckily found a fairly decent government job that I just happened upon and have been there for three years. I have met some people at work...although we all live in other parts of New England. I have proven myself capable at work...I won the Award of Excellance this year which gave me a $5,000 prize...BUT...I am often lonely, and frustrated at how hard it is to survive...financially and socially. You do not know what tomorrow brings...so please take an old ladies experienced advise...get involved with something outside of your house...connect with someone outside of your house..it is healthy and rewarding and will make all the tough days easier to take. God Bless and let me know if you need help finding something to do...lots of ideas...lots of "I wish I had done..." Be happy to share more. Now, go hug your kids and tell them you need a hug back...always kepp smiling dear.

PLEASE...do yourslef a favor...get involved with something outside of the house. Volunteer...join a group...create a neighborhood club...look up some old friends. Trust me...I was a stay at home mom of 6...I loved and do love them with all my heart...they are all grown now...BUT...three years ago, I became divorced and found myself with no friends...no interests...and no employment histiry. I luckily found a fairly decent government job that I just happened upon and have been there for three years. I have met some people at work...although we all live in other parts of New England. I have proven myself capable at work...I won the Award of Excellance this year which gave me a $5,000 prize...BUT...I am often lonely, and frustrated at how hard it is to survive...financially and socially. You do not know what tomorrow brings...so please take an old ladies experienced advise...get involved with something outside of your house...connect with someone outside of your house..it is healthy and rewarding and will make all the tough days easier to take. God Bless and let me know if you need help finding something to do...lots of ideas...lots of "I wish I had done..." Be happy to share more. Now, go hug your kids and tell them you need a hug back...always kepp smiling dear.

I hear you about no social life....So one day on my husband's day off he decided I needed a little down time so he told me, why don't you go out for an hour or so either with a friend or by myself and have some fun doing.....like get your nails and hair done or go to the movies etc... and so we started doing that once a week or two weeks and boy it sure helps your relationship with your husband and childern. I am a mother of three ages ranging for 9, 7, and 5. one girl and two boys. take care

Nowadays a lot of young mothers have a baby and get back to work as soon as they can, putting their baby in someone else's care. You are one of those mothers who can be proud of themselves for staying at home to bring up your children, congratulations!<br />
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Years ago I was in your situation, longed for adult chat. So I put an advert in my local paper, inviting any young stay at home mum to contact me for a cuppa and a chat. I got four replies and we all got together once a week at each of our houses in turn. We were always available at the end of the phone too.<br />
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We were able to have the odd night out with our husbands when we babysat for each other.

dani - I agree with rcrisp - check out what your local library has to offer. I met some moms at a toddler story hour with whom I formed a playgroup. You need to socialize with other moms so you don't go bonkers - really. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be to meet moms and make new mommy friends; I dunno - I thought it would 'just happen' and it didn't. Although I wouldn't trade it for the world, it has been a lot lonlier being a SAHM than I thought it would. Good luck!

you are lucky! i wish my husband would make more money so i could be a sahm!

Sounds like you might like getting together with other Moms and kids- a "play group" for them and "Mom gets to chat with others who get it" time for you. Try out mamasource.com, it's free and it's all local moms sharing advice, ideas and support.