He Asked Me If I Wanted To Be A Stay-at-home Mom :)

I was a teenage mom having my first child at 19. To give you a little bit of a background on myself... I had dated my high school sweetheart for 3 years and we were engaged to be married. Everything was perfect! Not too long after graduation he stood in front of me and said he had joined the army. It wasn't that I was against being an army wife but such a huge decision I felt should've been discussed. So he went away to bootcamp and I went wild (yes I regret this now... but life moves on). I met a guy at a bar and 3 months later I was pregnant. Another 3 months later and we were married and my life moved forward in fast motion. It is now 9 years down the road, I also have a daughter by him and divorced.

The past 9 years I battled depression to no avail. My ex didn't understand and therefore wasn't supportive. Finally when I least expected it... I met the man who is now my fiance. He had so much to deal with when we first got together - I was such a mess. He encouraged me to get into counseling. I got on depression medication. Suddenly the world became a new place :) I think he realized that through my depression I didn't truly get to "enjoy" my children. A couple of months after we got engaged he asked me if I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. WOW!

I was a little apprehensive at first. I was putting so much trust into this man. Letting him support me even though I didn't have his last name yet. But the last week of my kids last school year I quit my job and enjoyed the summer break with my children. It has now been 6 months of me staying at home with them and I LOVE IT! I get to complete all my chores and errands before they get home from school and then all my time is devoted to them. I get to have dinner ready for my fiance without feeling rushed. My house stays as clean as I want it to (I have learned to accept clutterness). Its just the best things ever. I admit I still get a little stressed for example if I have a 'surprise' bill come in and I feel like I am asking too much of my fiance but he is so supportive. I hope everyone realizes how precious time with their kids is... I almost missed this time due to depression and now its almost like I get to make up for it.
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4 Responses Nov 30, 2012

Yay! I'm really glad you're finding happiness :)

Being home is all that makes me happy. My child is always #1

Being home is all that makes me happy. My child is always #1

That's awesome...I'm happy for you, it sounds like you're really happy in your life.