Step Parenting

 I am 25 years old who happens to be a step mother , my boyfriends daughter. I had gotten her about a month or two after her dad and I were more involved with each other. I love her to death and woudn't trade it for the world. Both; her father and I, are full time college students and he works during the week. There are times when she can be a pain in the butt, but all kids are. I am also a "mom" to my 14 year old sister . I have been raising her since she was just a baby--I happend to be in elementary school. Granted, it was VERY hard at first, but I had gotten used to it. I managed to do home work and take care of my siblings very well because my parents were never around. The only free time I had gotten was when I was at school for "recess" where was able to go outside and be a kid. I am not asking for sympothy nor do I need it. I tell others that I do not look for it nor do I expect it because I am happy for the decision I had made. After rasing my siblings for many years, it has become one of the most important life long lessons that I have learned (with a lot of struggle) that I will apply when I have a child of my own. It has become very hard to still raise my sister as my child as well as a step mother to my boyfriends 15 year old daughter. The reason I say this is because there have been times when both girls come to me and complain what the other has done. I just simply tell them to try and work it out without having the adults around and if phsyciall fighting or profanity going on, then I will step in. It has not worked yet, but I am giving it more time before I have to step in and say "Enough is enough. I think the two of you need to be seperated for a while until you two can calm down".  

Spinderella Spinderella
3 Responses Feb 23, 2009

You've taken on quite a lot in your life and come out on the other side better for it. Keep doing what you're doing it sounds like you have it under control.

you are amazing!! i am 26 and also a step parent and find it to be very challenging. i love my kids to death but sometimes its hard only being the verbal disciplinarian. i feel like i have no respect with them and it bothers me. do you have any advice for bonding with step kids? mine are 11 & 12.

You sound like such a wonderful person, being willing to do so much for others. Your family is very lucky to have you and I'm sure you will make an awesome mother for your biological child/children too. Cheers :)