My Boyfriend's Daughter Is Insane.
The love of my life was married far before he met me. His daughter is sixteen. He has a joint custody arrangement in which he gets her on weekends but this wasn't always the case. For the vast majority of her life, she lived with a mother who didn't really care about her and who essentially ignored her. She is in a horrible alternative school, where she's constantly exposed to unwholesome people. I sometimes think she is psychologically beyond repair.
Her father and I are gay. I am a man. Her mother has taught her all throughout her life (her and my love have been divorced since she was five) that being gay is a sick perversion and that her father is a filthy pervert. She has never stopped believing this. Because of this, she does everything in her power to act out particularly badly while she's with us. Late at night, after my son and her father are asleep, she will come out of her bedroom completely naked and she'll sit next to me on the couch. Realizing that she does this in order to get attention, I ignored her. I continued typing and you can trust that being a gay man, it isn't a challenge to ignore naked female jail bait. She was sure that it escalated. In fact, she eventually started hugging me from behind and saying things like,
"You know you want to dip your wick into my tight little hole, you big bad pervert."
After a few more nights of ignoring her, things calmed down a lot. I talked about it with my love. He knows exactly what happened and sometimes, he comes out to demand that she puts some clothes on.
Ever since this nudist phase has ended, she's been throwing temper tantrums like a two year-old. Her boyfriend broke up with her over Facebook, so she threw the computer off of the desk and started stomping on it. We took her cell phone away for the weekend and she punched the screen out on the Television. Her reactions to almost everything are grotesquely exaggerated. Neither her father or I know what to do about this.
My primary issue with her is the impact she can potentially have on my five year-old son, who may not witness her nudity but is more than familiar with her language. She can be quite creative when screaming cuss words at us, loud enough to have the police called on her by the neighbors in the condo. Any advice regarding how to deal with this would be wonderful.
I realize that she's in need of some serious discipline and yet, we cannot work miracles when we only have her on weekends. In fact, most of this is damage that has already been done. She's terrible to us and to the police. She's actually pregnant at the moment (her mother fully intends to allow her to get an abortion) and she has no perception of the consequences of any of her actions, despite that she's been arrested multiple times.
I am quite overwhelmed.