Frustrated!

I am a step mom to a 10 year old girl and 12 year old boy. I've been married to my husband for almost two years now (together for five years) and we have a six month old son together. My husband and his ex-wife share custody of their kids and have a pretty descent relationship, which I am thankful for. All in all, it makes things easier. Her and I however have had our ups and downs over the years. We get the kids every couple of days. Today is my birthday and when we went to drop them off at their mom's, she decided that today was the day she needed to tell her daughter that there is no Santa or Easter Bunny or Tooth Fairy. Really? Why today? I know why - because it's my birthday. My husband and I then went out to supper to celebrate my birthday and told her that we'd be bringing the kids back dessert. What does she do - goes and buys them ice cream. I am so fed up. I don't want to put my husband in the middle. He can't control her - but every time something likes this happens, I get more and more upset. I can't stand her. I want to be the bigger person but I hate the fact that I hate her so much. I've never hated someone and felt about someone the way I feel about her. I love my husband, and I love my step kids - but as the kids are getting older and entering their pre-teen years (smart mouth and all) - I am really starting to question what I got myself into. I don't know if I am cut out for this step-mom stuff. It seems to be getting harder and harder...
MissaVon MissaVon
31-35, F
May 10, 2012