This Weekend

we had the child this weekend.  i was just short w/ him all weekend. i fought w/ my boyfriend all weekend. for no good reason. i just get so ******* resentful when the kid intrudes upon us when we are touching. like, if we are in the pool hugging or just standing close by or playing the kid gets right in between us. he cannot stand to let his dad pay attention to me. when we play games if either tries to cheat or hogs the ball. it is just so frustrating. i know i am regressing. i talked to david about it again & he pointed out that i was regressing too. i don't know what to do & how to make this stop. i love the kid. i do. he can be sweet when he wants. someone please help! he just argues about EVERYTHING & sometimes david has to yell at him. i hate it when he yells at him. but the kid WILL NOT LISTEN. we have two shih tzus. one of them is just bad w/ kids & strangers. she has bit children before. she doesn't ever really attack so much as snap at them. know what i mean? like, she doesn't just flip out and chew on  you. it's one quick snip but it will harm you. i keep telling the kid over & over & over. and then one time he picked her up to set her on the bed w/ me which i appreciated but the dog did not. daphne, the dog, screamed. then he gets around her when she has a bone & she growls. he plays in her face & she growls & i keep telling him & telling him "please stop. she's going to hurt you!" i don't want to send him home w/ a bite mark. his mom would flip & then she'd want me to get rid of daphne which is not ever going to happen EVER. i have WARNED him. finally i appealed to david & begged him to say something so he did. again & again & again. the kid STILL WOULDN"T STOP! finally david yelled at him & the kid is all, "you don't have to yell". david was like, apparently i do. you DON"T LISTEN. i am just so exasperated. i don't want the kid to get bit, i don't want him to upset one of my doggies, i want to be cool w/ him. GAAAHHHHH!!!!
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4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

I do not and will not keep pets but to many dogs are men's friend and Daphne must have held an important place in deleted's heart, therefore in my opinion deleted would not not to get rid of her. Daphne is also to be respected and never referred to as the"damned" dog.<br />
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While yelling may be not a good way to teach the kid respect, from the desc<x>ription of what the child had done 'argues about everything' may have triggered frustrations that led to the yelling. It is both ways. Both sides may be experiencing some emotional struggles that need to be addressed. However, it is somewhat of an exaggerate for deleted to be accused to have meant 'kid' as 'goat'. <br />
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I fully understand what deleted is going through.....been there done that.

I had two cats when I moved in with fiance' and his daughter. Daughter was determined to love on the cats, they weren't used to kids. My Siamese scratched the daughter on her arm a few times, and the little girl learned: my kitties don't like kids, don't force yourself on them. We got her a cat of her own soon after, she showers all her love and attention on that cat (which is great with her and adores her) and she ignores my cats. And no one lost an eye and bio mom did not call social services. She got a natural consequence (scratched arm) for her action and didn't repeat the action. Problem solved. If your dogs were German shepherds, that would be one thing, but if they're shih tzus, I don't think anyone will die. I tried to tell her, she was then 6, that when the cats were humped up and hissing that she shouldn't try to pet them, but she didn't stop until she saw what would happen.

Oh dear god, the dog has a name, but the child is just referred to as "the kid." <br />
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A dog is an animal and, thus, has animal-instincts...therefore, if the dog snaps at people (especially children!) get rid of the damn dog. <br />
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THE KID should be treated with more respect, in my opinion. When a child grows up being treated with respect, they usually treat others with respect. <br />
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Yelling at a child is not respectful.<br />
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Nor is calling them "kid" (as in goat).

how old is the child, and how long have his parents been divorced? its probably just post-divorce effects on the child's mind...it might be difficult for him to see his father with any other woman, so he's not so kind to you. <br />
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or maybe its something else. only he will know...