The Idea Of Becoming A Stepmom Is Frightening...

...but I guess I'm already there...



My family has always been close.  My parents were one of the few that stayed together.  I've never had to deal with a stepparent or step siblings, etc.  The idea of the role itself has so many negative connotations that I guess I have picked up on from society...  I really hope I can do a better job than Cinderella's evil stepmother...



My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 months and plan to have his seven year old son move in with us at the end of the school year.  He's a very sweet boy that has grown overly attached to the unhealthy freedoms his grandparents have given him, but he is excited to be living with us and loves the attention we give him, even if it's to instill positive behavior.  It's sad knowing the background of his story; how neglected he was and how much nurturing and positivity and encouragement he's missed out on.  I definitely want him to have everything he has never had, and I feel like that is all resting on my shoulders at times.



Every day with him is a new challenge.  I have experience with children and I have always loved children, but there's definitely a lot of pressure when you know you're trying to set a good example to last a lifetime.  I guess we'll see where it goes.  I'm pretty happy with where it is now, but the situation is still new for him and I'm honestly expecting some bad things to happen.  After all, they are inevitable, aren't they?

unahermosamujer unahermosamujer
22-25, F
2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

'easier with time?' far from it. Be always ready for challenges as time goes by...

Hey,<br />
I am currently in a nearly exact sitaution......a year later than you. How would you say things are going now? Is BM still a factor in your lives? I'm so desperate to hear that the pressure and stresses of the step mom job get easier with time....any good news for me at all?!?!

Oh gosh me too!!! Desperately wanting to provide a better situation/life for these girls but it is so hard sometimes and such a huge responsibility. In what ways does it change/get better????