From A Stepson: I'm So Sorry.My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and ungrateful.
Three things changed me.
One: My Stepmom was GOOD for my Dad. My mom and dad are both good people but they weren't right for each other. My Stepmom made my Dad what he is. She has loved him and stood by him through all kinds of trouble. I appreciate that.
Two: My Stepmom gave great advice on a lot of things. Her view of the world is simple and direct and ba
Three: My Stepmom once said: "If I didn't care about you, I would have let you do whatever you wanted." That made a big impression on me. It took me a long time and a lot of growing up to realize what a treasure she is.
My Stepmom is my third parent, and she contributed as much to who I am (and in some ways more) than my own Mom and Dad.
I know being a Step-parent is awful, thankless work. It's all the work and worry and responsibility of a parent with none of the gratitude or warmth or love or appreciation. I can only say "Be patient." Maybe when your kids grow up, they'll appreciate you as much as I appreciate my Stepmom.